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NBR: Lost my father-in-law last night

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He had been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer a few weeks ago and has been slowly declining ever since.  He had a small stroke on Saturday and hospice was called in so they wouldn't have to keep dragging him to the hospital.  Strange thing was that yesterday his entire family was at his house and he was chatty, singing in Italian to my nephew for his birthday, smiling and overall seemed really happy.  We all sat outside for a few hours as the weather was perfect and he was talking to all of us his life, his family and about DH and my baby and how happy he was.  He even commented about how little my DH was when he was born (he's 6'2" now), etc., etc., etc.  Truly seemed that he was doing OK.

My DH and I had taken separate cars to my in-laws since I had things to do in the morning, so I didn't get there until 5 or so.  When I left everyone at 9pm to drive home to take care of our dog (they live about 45 minutes away), I thought he was doing OK.  His breathing had gotten a little raspy, but they put him on oxygen and he seemed to feel better (my one SIL is an RN which is a wonderful thing so she knows what to do).  I gave him a hug and kiss goodbye, he smiled and I left to drive home.  When I called my DH to let him know that I was home my SIL answered his phone and was crying.  When I asked her what was wrong, she said that her father had just died.  My first reaction was "WHAT?" - I had just left and he was doing better.  Very surreal.  After I left she said he wanted to go to bed as he started having trouble breathing and wanted to lie down so they were trying to help him into bed to make him comfortable.  She told me my DH was still holding him trying to get him situated on the bed when he died.  I can't even imagine what he's going to go through now.  DH is the "baby" of the family but can be very protective of his emotions.  He stayed with his family last night and basically told me that the best thing for me to do was go to work today which I did, but I'm miserable and just want to be there for him.  The funeral will either be tomorrow or Wednesday as my FIL did not want a wake and just wanted his family around.  If you can, please say a prayer for DH and his family.  Our hearts are broken....

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