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Adoption
Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle!
April 2011 CP @ 5 weeks
Considering this/new
Hi,
I browse your board ocassionally. We lost a baby at 17 weeks back in Feb. We are now looking into foster care/adoption. We would like to foster then adopt, I hope this makes sense. How long is the process to get started? Also, we need to do some house remodeling before we are ready for a child, can we be in the process of remodeling when we start the process of fostering or does our house have to be perfect before we can get started, like with classes, home study, etc?
Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle!
April 2011 CP @ 5 weeks
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Re: Considering this/new
hi Kristy - Sorry for your loss, that is a very painful experience. While my situation is a bit different, my DH and I are foster/adoption and it is a great choice.
First off, your house doesnt have to be perfect to have a child placed with you, however, they will do a home visit and will make recommendations to things that need to be changed before a child is sent to your home. If you have major construction and sharp objects, chemicals, etc. that may hurt you. If you are talking just a few changes that dont involve major equipment, you are fine. All they really want is a clean, safe environment.
For the time process, that depends. I recommend you contact Social Services/Child and Famly Services in your city/county/state, etc. and ask for informaiton. There is a lot of paperwork - and you will have to complete some classes to get certified and have a series of home visits. after that, you will be put on a list for getting a child. Depending on age, race, and other parameters, you could get a child right away or wait a long time...unfortunately, there isnt any way to know. From there, you may get to adopt the first child that walks thru your door (or is carried) or it may be the fifth...no way to know that for sure either.
Hope this is ENCOURAGING, not discouraging...the wait is worth it, and foster/adoption always provides a child in need with love, support and a roof over their heads - so even if the first isnt yours, you can feel good knowing you are giving of yourself.
Everyone on this board is very supportive - and we all have a firm belief that when it is time - YOUR baby/child will come to you.
Good luck!
I'm sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine the pain.
I can't really add much to what Kristen said, because she hit the nail on the head. I just wanted to say "hello" and welcome you to the board. This really is an incredible place for information and support.
Best wishes on this exciting journey!
Howdy and welcome to the board!
I'm sorry for your loss, I know it's hard to go through that, and its not a club you want to be a part of.
I know several people who have done foster to adopt, and some that are in the process right now. My suggestion, contact several agencies and check out their programs to find the one that is right for you. Many offer informational sessions that are free.
Good luck!