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semi-quiz - parenting advice and FB
do you ever offer up advice to other moms (and dads I guess) on FB?
When? (only when the are asking for advice, if you see something questionable, only to good friends, etc.)
Has anyone given you advice on FB that annoyed you?
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Re: semi-quiz - parenting advice and FB
I'll answer my own questions
do you ever offer up advice to other moms (and dads I guess) on FB? I haven't, but in the past week I have come across 2 things that kind of made me want to. First an old co-worker has a 10mo. old. She recently posted pictures of her son in his new carseat - he is forward facing. It made me wonder if she knew he should still be rear facing - doesn't the car seat info say that? argh. Or the inspection people if you go there. I think there is even a big poster about it at the peds office. Not sure how she missed this info.
The second one wasn't as big of a deal - yesterday DH's friend's wife posted something about an issue she was having re: breastfeeding and her 3 week old. I know she wants to make it work but I don't think she has that much support in that area. However, I didn't want to come off as a know-it-all or crazy BF advocate (I am neither) so I just let it be but some of the advice her friends posted was just plain wrong or not BF supportive. I think I may privately message her rather that air it all out on her wall and let her take the initiative from there - maybe just point her towards kelleymom or suggest she reach out to a LC (although she must know about LCs right?).
When? (only when the are asking for advice, if you see something questionable, only to good friends, etc.) see above - I do think I might reach out to someone that asked for advice, but I'm conflicted about unsolicited advice (re: carseat) even though it is a safety issue and won't say anything.
Has anyone given you advice on FB that annoyed you? nope. but other than pictures I rarely post anything about Jack - I would rather just come here to AW and bug you all for advice
i would definitely message her and point her towards some good resources. and, don't be afraid to say "and if you want someone to talk to, i'll help in any way that i can. i don't know everything there is to know about BFing, but i'll help if i can, so don't be shy to ask" - or something along those lines
my best friend has a friend who has a baby 1 month younger than miss A and she is always asking my friend to ask me about certain Qs regarding BFing. i am sure she knows about LCs but i think sometimes it's easier to ask someone you know.
to answer your other Qs, i will answer Qs if asked on FB...and often i will ask Qs to get help from other moms. recently i thought miss A's wakefulness was due to teething so i asked for tips w/that...i got a lot of helpful info from that, and the suggestion from a few moms that it may be developmental....thanks to them, i learned that motrin lasts longer than tylenol so is better to use at night...but i also held off on giving her any motrin or tylenol to see how it would pan out...and it turns out it was developmental (she just started crawling) so the meds would have been unnecessary. i had no idea something like that could be developmental and never would have known if those moms hadn't reached out to me.
i'm not sure if i would offer unsolicited advice unless i felt it was truly harmful - like the car seat example you gave. for instance, i recently saw some pics on a friend's page where her 9 month old was stuffing some pizza in his face. studies have shown that what babies eat before the age of 2 affects their eating habits for the rest of their lives so although we hope to have miss A eat healthy all the time and not just before age 2, we are being particularly vigilent when she is under 2 (i.e. no junk food, fast food, refined sugar, etc). seems like a lot of people struggle with their weight and we don't want to set her up for an "uphill battle" by starting her out in life with poor eating habits. (DH has said she is not to eat all the stuff i make for my blog already LOL) in this case it's more of a parenting style and not a real danger to the child, so i did not say anything to this mom.
i don't think i've ever been annoyed by anyone's advice that they've given me either. i understand that there are as many ways to parent a child as there are children, so i read it all and take what i want from it (kind of like here on this board). just b/c someone recommends something doesn't mean i need to follow it.... i.e. the pedi said i just need to let her CIO so she can learn to self soothe when i asked her about the night waking that started after months of STTN. i didn't feel comfortable w/it so i continued to nurse her when she woke up and a few days later she was past that "phase" and started sleeping well again.
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I am not a Mom,... yet.... so I have never offered advise to anyone on the subject of little ones. That being said I sure wanted to say something last week when a girl put a naked picture of her little one as her profile picture. Maybe I watch too much Criminal Minds or something but I dont think anyone should ever put a picture like that of their baby on the internet. There are sooooo many child predators online and it's not just her friends that see it. As her profile pic, ANYONE has access to it. Anywho, I did not say anything but kinda wanted to. It sucks to think of it but what if some creepy pedophile got ahold of it, yikes.
I do offer and accept solicited advice, but don't chime in when they've not asked...
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