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Vent about Dr./weight (long)

MrsAMB07MrsAMB07 member
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There are 3 doctors in my practice. We have to see them all because we don't know who will be on call when we go into labor. I LOVE the two women and stay there because of them. As much as I love them I can not stand the man in the practice. ?

Every time I have an appointment with the women they comment that my weight is "perfect." ?With him, before he even says "hello" he starts off by saying "Hmm... a bit of a weight gain this time." I used to get so upset because he would always make me feel like I was doing something wrong. Yesterday I swore I wouldn't let it upset me and he comes in with the same speech. He tells me that I gained too much since my last appointment and asked what I've been eating. I'm a vegetarian and eat very healthily. ?I rarely eat junk, no fast food, limited white flour, etc. Some weeks I gain nothing, some weeks I gain 3 or 4 lb. I don't really have much control. When I explained that the other doctors think my weight is just fine he told me that I had to watch because me gaining too much would make the baby too big. Then he told me it would be good for me to "slip in a few salads here and there." I thought my husband was going to punch him. ?Add to the fact that he's way overweight himself and it's even more frustrating. I'm trying not to worry about weight - I'm pregnant and I know my body will do what it has to. I've gained 29 lb. so I don't think that's a huge deal.?

There were other instances, too, that made us uncomfortable with his advice and information. ?I'm just praying he isn't my doctor for delivery. He delivered my nephew and was just awful to my sister during the whole process, so I'm really worried that he'll be the one on call when I go. I'm worried enough about labor without having to deal with him. I know my anxiety would shoot up knowing he was in charge.

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DD 2 years old
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Re: Vent about Dr./weight (long)

  • busygalbusygal member
    What a jerk! You should tell the other drs what he said to you!
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  • JARbabyJARbaby member
    I gained 50 pounds and had a 7 pounder...yeah BIG baby...Confused
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  • MEJ2008MEJ2008
    That's horrible. Did you discuss his "concerns" with the other two OB's who think you're weight is fine? Maybe they could give you some reassurance.
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  • angelynn8411angelynn8411
    thats weird! ive gained 30 lbs at 31 weeks, and my MW never says a word other than its fine!! i would cry if my dr said that to me, esp since you havent gained that much!!!
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  • MrsAMB07MrsAMB07 member
    I was ready to cry as we left yesterday. I'm sure the hormones don't help, but I do think I'll at least tell the other doctor about his comments...even if I can't request not to have him.
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  • star001star001
    I have had the same thing happen in my Dr's office. I just don't listen to the one that tells me I gained too much weight and now have to be on a no carb diet. This was a few weeks ago when I had only gained 23 lbs in total. I thought that was ridiculous and my other Dr's have said my weight gain is fine. I was extremely pissed though when she told me I gained too much.
    As long as you are eating healthy, that's all that matters.
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  • Brian&NikkiBrian&Nikki
    Wow - your DH did show restraint as it sounds like he deserved to be punched.  Have you ever mentioned his comments to the two other drs?  Maybe you should next time and see what they say or if they can offer any advice on how to deal with him since they all work together?
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  • jamalynnjamalynn
    Yes, I would tell the other doctors what he said.  I know all docs have different opinions, but he is just a jerk.
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  • GoalierdGoalierd
    Maybe he's over compensating for his patients because he's overweight himself.  You know, projecting  or whatever.  Try to remember you have a better chance of having one of the women than him (2 to 1 ratio).  Good luck.
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  • ZanyButterflyZanyButterfly
    What a jerk.  I hope he isn't your doc for the delivery.  Does no one complain that he is rude and awful?
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  • brookieandphilbrookieandphil
    yeah I would def talk about it with the other Docs.  You might not be the only one he is doing this too and it always helps for them to know.  GL and try to not let it get to you.
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  • Amy DrinkwaterAmy Drinkwater
    Definitely tell the other doctors! ?They need to know when someone is being an ass to their patients. ?If you have to see him again tell him your weight gain is fine w/ the other doctors and if he doesn't stop hassling you about it you'll report him to the medical board.
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  • SFEHLBERGSFEHLBERG
    If you knew someone that had a bad experience with him I am surprised you went there in the first place.  I would be very worried about getting stuck with him he sounds like a real jerk!
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  • love1lynnlove1lynn
    That is RIDICULOUS! I had gaine as much or more than you at that point and my doctor was very nice about it and reassured me that first time moms often gain more than normal and as long as I am healthy she is not concerned. SHEEESH!
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  • mrs.w0706mrs.w0706

    That's terrible! I'm so sorry you have to go through that, I agree with a pp though, maybe talk to the other two OBs about it...?

    I understand what you're going through, my doctor makes a comment every time. I am a vegetartian too and eat well, I walk 5 days a week I've gained about 28 pounds now but every time she lectures me about eating right and excersise and doesn't believe me when I tell her that i'm doing those things...

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  • Mjmksb04Mjmksb04 member
    You know, I kind of think its a male thing. My OB is a male and he gave me a talk about  my weight early on and I have heard from other people who see him that he is the same way with them. Other than that he is a great doctor. I think men view weight issues different from women and aren't as sensitive about it. Anyway, hopefully he won't be on call when you go in to labor, because you need to deliver with someone you feel comfortable with.
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  • MrsAMB07MrsAMB07 member
    I'm considering changing practice for future children. The one female doctor is the same doctor I've had since high school so I never thought to change until meeting him.
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