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3rd Trimester
FishNchips1
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4-7-11 - Natural MC @ 4w5d 6-27-11- MC @ 5w6dPgAL/PAL WelcomeDD#1- 8/20/2010DD#2- 6/21/2012EDD #3~ 5/1/2014 ~ Team Green
Any1 elses DH Not understanding no sexy time?
FishNchips1
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Don't get me wrong I used to LOVE sex. But now that im getting bigger, and self concious about my body I just do.not.want.sex. I feel for DH because we used to have sex at least once a day but he does not understand at all! I have no desire for it, it is uncomfortable for me when we do it, and There is no position that I like that makes me enjoy it!
DH cried to me last night that it had been two weeks so I gave in and we did the typical spooning style ( sorry if thats TMI ) and the whole time I was uncomfortable and it did not feel good at all.
Afterwards ( im a big baby ) I began crying because I feel so bad that I can't please DH like I used to and I just want to have this baby already so we can have a normal romp! LOL ( I know I have 11 weeks ) DH was soothing though, he hugged me and told me that I do satisfy him and our baby will be here before I know it.
anyone else dealing with sexytime issues? ( im sure )
thanks for letting me vent!
ETA: DH whines everytime I turn him down for sex..It's getting annoying! I wish he would just understand!
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Re: Any1 elses DH Not understanding no sexy time?
My DH got over sex a LONG time ago.
Between 2 years of fertility treatment, 3 miscarriages, and months of pelvic rest this pregnancy, he knows better than to say anything.
I am trying my hardest to give him some lovin at least once a week but, am pretty much failing at that so, my new goal is ever 2-2.5 weeks.
Sorry you are in the same boat - it sucks. I'm just praying my sex drive comes back after the baby so that we can have some what of a healthy sex life.
I also want to add that with DS2 poor Dh only got it maybe a handful of times. Between him being scared and me not in the mood. And than I was not in the mood for a good year after I had DS. I don't know if it was because I was BF or what. But this time around we are trying harder to get some alone time in.
But than again he could be doing the chick at the check out counter.
I told him this.. and he says to me " I want my wife I don't want to do that! " UGH! DH just go jerk it and leave me alone! I don't know what else to do lol.
My DH is not really understanding either. About a week ago all I wanted was sexy time and he turned it down twice, now all he wants is sexy time and I have no drive. He pouts and says all he is asking for is a little passion. I just want to kick him in the balls...Is that passionate enough
My DH is also having several dry spells, mainly because our weekends are hectic and I'm too achy and tired after work too. I feel bad it can be 2 or 3 wks inbetween, and he expects once LO arrives it will be probably much of the same even once I have medical clearance. I'm lucky he's understanding, but it sucks all the same. Try to figure out if there's other ways you can maybe pice it up where you don't have to feel awkward; but it sounds like he was pretty sensitive to how you're feeling right now .
LOL
Raeleigh Elizabeth http://theturnerpage.blogspot.com/
There is an evenflo with everything. Sometimes, DH and I have sex 4-5 times a week, and other times, we are lucky if we get it once every 2 weeks. I am not feeling uncomfortable or anything, but between DS's schedule, DH's schedule and working FT, we are exhausted!
I'm sorry your DH isn't more understanding of your situation. Can the two of you be intimate without having sex?
Haha! I told my DH this once in first tri and he had the same response. I was so pissed that I then said "well go call a fvcking hooker and get laid if that is what it is going to take to shut you up."
Not my best moment but it got my point across!
I know he doesn't mean to make me feel gulity either. It is emotionally killing me as well because I want to satisfy him and he tells me that he wants me to want him! It kills me inside when he says that. I tell him that It's not that I don't want him...it's the pregnancy making me not want sex! So thats why I broke down and cried afterwards because I feel so bad that its gotten to the point where he has to beg for it.
and yes also I bet he is freaking out beause of the 6 week pp no sexy time rule.
Good luck to him for those 6 weeks postpartum..
Look up some positions that you haven't tried before. You might be surprised and find something that is comfortable. There is only one position I can really handle right now, but it's something!
I miss sex
We've only had sex once since we found out I was preg 
at first it was spotting and bed rest and then at 20weeks dr said we could (finally) then DH was soooo freaked out that he wouldn't ... he was so afraid of hurting LO. At about 24 weeks we finally did- and it def wasn't the best... towards the end DH felt LO move and stopped asked me if she moved I told him I wasn't sure (I honestly didn't feel her at that moment but had been feeling her moving around on and off) he finished and told me the next morning he couldn't do that again any time soon.
We've done "other things" or rather I have to him (LOL) but it's very weird to me to be doing something sexual and feel LO moving around! DH seems to understand - I've always been a "top" sensitive girl but while I'm starting to leak from time to time and dead skin and all I know TMI but it sucks
I think that's the part I miss the most!
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