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Disappointment..... :(

MiniWheatsMiniWheats
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I went to see my Lupus specialist for my pre pregnancy test results. He told me that all my tests look great and that we can proceed to try to get pregnant.   Then he told me that I should prepare myself that I could have "numerous" miscarriages due to my condition.  I almost started to cry in his office.  I feel like I am setting myself up for disappointment.  I know some girls who have had miscarriages and they say it is so hard on you mentally.  I feel like now if I do get pregnant, that I cant even be excited about it because my chances of miscarrying are so high.  I know I sound like a baby myself but this is one of those times that I wish I didnt have this stupid disease.  I am usually not "woe is me" when it comes to the Lupus as I feel that the more positive I am, the healthier I feel. So forgive me, I just feel so disappointed......

 Thanks for listening :) 

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  • jaysgirljuliejaysgirljulie member
    I'm sorry that your good news came with some bad news as well. I wish you the best on your ttc jouney. Also we are all here for you rain or shine. Left HugRight Hug
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  • inamrainamra member
    ))HUGS(( I know that it must've been so hard to hear that. Feel free to vent on here anytime because we're all here for you. I am glad to hear that your pre-pg tests looked great--that's good news. Hang in there and lots of TTC vibes your way. I also believe that our health is directly affected by our moods, so also wishing you lots of positive vibes for feeling better and keeping up the hope.
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  • HulaLoveHulaLove

    Big hugs to you! 

    You don't sound like a baby, you can come hear to vent any time. 

    It's posisitve that you can start TTC now though.  Lots and lots of baby dust to you. 


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  • mrspresleymrspresley
    that is great news that your tests came back good.  I'm sorry the lupus complicates things...I can only imagine what you may be feeling right now... i hope that you don't have to go through any miscarriages to have a baby... my aunt has lupus and has 2 kids...I have no idea if she had any m/c's in order to conceive them but I hope your TTC journey is quick and easy.  we're all here to support you along the way!
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  • MrsNicole&Brian808MrsNicole&Brian808

    Hi Lindsey!  I'm happy to see you here and am glad you posted in the weekly check-in thread!

    I'm sorry that the Lupus puts you at a higher risk for m/c, but I think your positive mindset will take your far, no matter what happens.  The human body is an amazing thing.  You just never know.  Smile

    Hooray for getting the green light for TTC and enjoy every moment of it!  Wink

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  • MrsIHMrsIH
    Just wanted to say to keep your chin up lady.  M/C's are scary for any of us TTC but if you've been told you have a higher chance that makes it even scarier.  Have faith in your own body and try to enjoy the process, things do have a way of working out in the end.  Best of luck, we're here for you.
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  • SanHawaii08SanHawaii08 member
    i'm sorry the good news came with some scary news too.  hugs.  in addition to what everyone else has said, i also wanted to point out - if the worst does happen (and hopefully it doesn't!), many of our own lovely ladies have had m/c's, so you'll find lots of people here who will be more than understanding.  you'll always find support and a sympathetic ear here, no matter what happens or how you're feeling.  
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  • MrsZizMrsZiz member

    Congrats on the green light for TTC. Have faith in your body. It is strong and you've made it so far already. The lupus complicates things but your positive attitude is more important and plays more of a role than any disease can play. I promise. You are young and healthy and your body CAN do this! Have faith in it. 

     We're back on the wagon after a miscarriage, so I know from experience that it's scary. It's always scary when TTC because no matter who you are, the chance is there. Nothing can ease that fear. It's part of you becoming a mom. I am back on the wagon, knowing that it could happen again but with a positive attitude and trying to hush my own fears... because in the end, I know my baby will feel that fear inside of me and that's not healthy for the next LO and it doesn't help the TTC process. That's what's working for me... to focus on the prize at the end. Oh and now, even though I have little Bella. I also have an angel baby so really I'm a momma to two :) 

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  • MauiWedding08MauiWedding08
    I'm sorry you got that news, but as PPs have said, trust your body and try to have a positive outlook.  good luck!
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