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I am sick of hunting season already

EliseB0323EliseB0323
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Normally I don't mind when DH goes hunting. It starts to get to me around Christmas time when he isn't around to do anything to help with all the shopping/mailing etc. for HIS family.

This year it is just grating on my nerves. On Sat. he left at 4 a.m. and didn't return until 9 p.m.  Sunday was DS's birthday party and DH did absolutely nothing. He wasn't even there to entertain DS while I did everything that needed to be done. I was ready to blow up at him. He told me the week before he was going hunting. He knew damn well there was lots of stuff to do.

Today he left at 1 a.m. and won't be home until after 8 p.m.  Said last night it was probably a waste of time and he wouldn't see any deer. So he took off work, drove 4 hours each way and sat around in the woods for no good reason?  While I put DS to bed, took him to preschool this morning, making me late for work and will have to rush to pick him up on time?

He is also planning to hunt all day on Columbus Day. Daycare is closed that day, so I will need to take care of DS. Not a problem except I had planned to go Xmas shopping w/ some friends at an outlet mall. (I do this every year on Columbus Day. DH knew this, but decided it was more important to go hunting then stay home w/ DS.  DS will go shopping with us, which isn't a problem -- I was just looking forward to my annual shopping trip with just the "girls."

Seriously, hunting season along with the election is making things really tense at our house. I can't wait until January.

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  • KrisBriMcBunnyKrisBriMcBunny member

    I hear you!  DH is a big hunter too....but he knows he HAS to do his outdoor chores before I will let him go...thats all I ask.  He's been working like a madman getting things done outside so he can be gone for the weekend duck hunting.  That means no break for me on weekends.  He's pretty good about asking me if he can go and I have a hard time denying him his fun time but it still sucks.  The only time I wont let him hunt is Thanksgiving Day.

    Kristie

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  • firefightersgalfirefightersgal member
    I HATE hunting season.
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  • elm1032004elm1032004
    I would tell him that you already have plans for Columbus Day weekend to go Christmas Shopping, like you do every year, and while you understand he likes to hunt and have that time to himself you need some time to yourself as well.
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  • butterbeansmamabutterbeansmama
    I am so glad dh is not a hunter. He is gone enough for work as it is.
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  • EliseB0323EliseB0323
    I really don't like the idea of "telling" DH what he can and can't do. He's a grown-up, you know. He should know what needs to get done and when his priority needs to be at home. It just irritates me that his priority lately has been sitting in a damn tree while I take care of everything at home. He does mention going hunting every Thanksgiving, and I tell him it's his choice. Lucky for him he always makes the right choice!
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  • joseysbridejoseysbride member
    I'm a hunting widow, too.  Honestly, I think you need to tell him how you feel, though.  You had plans for Columbus day that he knew about, and you shouldn't just let him make whatever plans he wants with total disregard for your feelings and plans.  But, if you don't speak up, he's never going to know, and you're just going to sit there and become more and more bitter about it.  Speaking from experience here, so I totally sympathize with you.
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  • joseysbridejoseysbride member
    I'm completely against telling my dh what to do and not to do, also.  I don't want to be that kind of wife, and I wouldn't want that kind of a husband.  But, that's not to say that you shouldn't tell him that you had plans for Columbus day or that you would really appreciate his help with your ds when you need it.  In the long run, you'll both be happier if you do.
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  • eshaffereshaffer
    I hate it too, DH is a huge hunter. He has a hunting camp 2.5 hours away, and he goes there a lot, even though we live on 10 acres and there are more deer than I count in my yard every day.  He's leaving Friday for the weekend, now I don't have anyone to watch DS for a baby shower I have to go to.  He also leaves the day after Thansgiving for a week.
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  • EliseB0323EliseB0323
    eshaffer -- my husband will be happy to come take care of the deer on your property.
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