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***lovemymonkey***

ColoRxGirlColoRxGirl
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Hi - I'm sorry, but I just now got around to reading your post about your situation.

First, I completely identify with your anxiety about contacting your agency!!  After going through this experience ourselves just a few weeks ago, I can tell you I felt the same level of apprehension you are probably feeling.  I was convinced that our caseworker would be angry with us for waiting until about 14 weeks to tell them - but I just had to feel more confident about this pregnancy before I let go of our adoption just yet.  If it eases your fears at all, our CW was VERY happy for us - and totally understood our decision to wait until the second trimester to put our profile on hold.  Of course, this put us at risk for a "two kids under 6 months" scenario, but it was the right choice for us.

Secondly, regarding your concerns about the placement + a pregnancy, I agree that this is a really tough call.  The issue of having an older, adopted child join the family within months of a new, biological child/sibling is probably managable with the help of your agency and advice of others who've been in a similar situation.  I think my only concern would be about traveling on a long, overseas flight in my third trimester.  This is a judgment call for you and your doctor; a backup plan for a hospital in the local area where you are overseas would probably be a good idea, regardless.

Anyway, congratulations on your pregnancy - these things work in mysterious ways.  I had completely grieved the loss of experiencing pregnancy a few years ago - and now, I get to live it.  I wish you joy and good luck with whatever comes your way!

2 years TTC with 5 losses, 1 year recovering, 6 months applying for adoption approval, and almost a year waiting for a placement. Then, a miracle BFP at age 36!


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Re: ***lovemymonkey***

  • lovemymonkeylovemymonkey

    hi there,

    thanks so much for your post. I tried to reply yesterday when I first saw it, but kept getting the knot error messages. Angry

    first of all, big congrats to you on your pregnancy! It's so crazy how things happen sometimes. I'm so happy for you and wish for you nothing but a smooth road ahead.

    My mind has been racing for weeks with all sorts of different scenarios about how things will work out. I'm not sure what will happen, but we've been praying a lot and know that ultimately, everything will be ok. of course I hope that things work out and we can bring Samuel home, but I pray for wisdom and an unselfish heart.

    If the agency supports our decision to move forward with Samuel's adoption, I would definitely not be traveling to Korea if this pregnancy sticks, unless by some miracle our travel gets pushed up by several months. DH would go by himself and hopefully take along one of our moms or a good friend of ours who's a father of three and can help DH out with the journey.

    thanks again for the words of encouragement and for sharing your story. 

    hugs~

     

    After 5 years of TTC, 3 IUIs, 5 IVFs, 2 FETs, multiple losses and an adoption that wasn
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