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s/o baby showers
I almost took over Jackie's post with all my questions, so I figured I'd start a new one.
1 - I offered my house as the location for the baby shower to the hostesses - my cousins and my mom. Since it is not fully furnished yet, there is a lot of space to work with. I also don't want guests to be charged so this cuts down on the venue costs. Plus, it can also serve as a little housewarming for friends/family that haven't been over yet. However, would it seem tacky as if I was throwing it myself or would the invitation make it clear that my mom and cousins are hosting it?
2 - Again, since it would be at my house, I would prefer adults only (women b/c IDK if I have enough room for co-ed). I'm okay with well-behaved kids and babies, but you know there's always someone with an unruly child that could break things, get hurt, or fall in the pool and I don't want to be on teacher mode, lol. So, is adults only appropriate? How do you get that across to guests (i.e., on invite or by word of mouth)?
These are pretty much the only things I'm worried about. After that, I'm leaving it all up to my mom and my cousins. I know they've been waiting for this for a looooong time! My cousins MOH speech at my wedding ended with the phrase, "make lots of babies!"
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Re: s/o baby showers
1. I would separate the 2 things. If you want a housewarming then do it another time. I don't think there's anything wrong with doing it at your house at all, the invitation can say who is hosting it, but don't include anywhere that it's also a housewarming. People will obviously see your house. Housewarming implies gifts and that would be something that you host so i think its confusing.
2. I think a baby shower is one party where kids are ok and it would be weird to make it adults only. I dont' usually bring alexis to parties just because I prefer to relax and enjoy myself but I don't think there's anything wrong with kids at baby showers.
I think w/ the invite coming from your mom, that it would be clear that you aren't hosting. I asked this question a few wks ago, and everyone was in accordance w/ okay at my house... but obviously not me hosting/preparing.
As for not inviting children, I can understand. I'd address the invite to the mom only. If the child is older (10 yrs old) then mom and child. From my exprience of hosting showers, most women will ask if child can come. Now, it gets tricky if you say no to one, and yes to others... and the ones that were told no will get upset.
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1. I think you could make it clear your mom and cousins are hosting it by the invitation wording. I wouldn't make a big deal out of the fact that it's at your house (i.e., simply list the address or whatever on the invitation, but make the wording clear that your mom and cousins are inviting people).
2. IDK. Wedding invitations often say "adults only." I wonder if you could do the same with the baby shower invitation.
From what I read of the OP, I think she meant that in essence the shower will serve as a housewarming party of sorts, but not noted on invite. I do agree, that it wouldn't be appropriate to note on invite.
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Ditto Jackie. I wouldn't put it on the invite or even mention that it's a housewarming. It's just that a lot of family members have been asking when they can visit or when I'm having a housewarming, but I haven't been feeling up to throwing a huge party. So, in this way, they could also visit the house without me having to plan a huge party.
1 - I think it's fine that it's at your house. I don't think anyone will think you are throwing your own shower.
2 - My experience is that most people like to bring their own babies, small kids to baby showers. I think the fact that it's a shower for a baby makes then think it's ok for them to bring their own baby and "show them off" or talk about baby stuff. But I guess if you don't want any children, you can put on the invite "adults only"
I don't mind babies, especially, if they're nursing and need to be with their moms. I have a few friends that will probably fall in that category and I wouldn't want to exclude them. I also have family members with well-behaved, little girls that would love to come to an all-girl party. However, there are others who I've seen at other family events who let their kids do w/e they want, especially a few sets of boys, and these are the ones that I don't want to have to worry about falling in the pool, getting hurt, or breaking stuff.
At my aunt's baby shower, there was this little girl, she was the daughter of a second cousin and I guess she was about 3 or 4 at the time, I don't remember. They're family, but not super close, you know? Anyway she sat at my aunt's feet while she was opening gifts and started opening things, and tearing at the wrapping and basically being in the way. Her mom didn't say a word to her. It was really rude.
1. I think it is perfectly fine to do it at your house as long as it is clear on invite that it is hosted by someone else.
2. It's hard to tell people "no kids." What my mom did was just put the names of people invited on the envelope, not including the kids. When they call to RSVP and if they ask if they can bring their kids then we will say ok but otherwise we won't be mentioning anything. This worked well with E's baby shower and hope it works this time around as well.
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I would just make it clear that they're hosting. I don't think it's tacky that it's in your house or even in your house with you hosting though. I don't think people really pay much attention to that anymore. But just make it clear if it makes you feel better.
I put "adults only" on my invitation. I love kids but I really didn't want kids there because parents never enjoy anything when their kids are around in that sort of event.
I would not bring my child to a baby shower. He gets annoying!! Noone appreciates a babbling, annoying child while the mom-to-be is trying to open her gifts and eat her cake. I had someone bring their baby to my shower and she was very noisy and grabby at stuff in my mom's house because she couldn't crawl around.
Not everyone's home is baby proofed and you can't expect whoever is hosting the shower to clear their home of picture frames, trinkets, and precious whatevers just because someone wants to take their baby or young child to a shower. My mom's house was not baby proofed at the time since I was still pregnant, and it was not appropriate to bring a baby to her home for a shower.
We did have my older twin cousins at my shower. At 8 years old, they were well behaved, fun, and helpful as they handed me gifts to open and threw away the wrapping paper.
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I don't think its tacky at all to have it at your house! I'm sure if you indicate it on the invitation, people will get that it's being hosted for you.
Also, if you're worried about kids in your house, you have to stick to NO kids because people will be offended if you ask them to leave their children at home/with sitters and then there are a kids there. I think that's totally up to you, but I also tend to agree that I think showers are one of those things where people like to bring their kids and expect it to be a kid friendly event. Do whatever makes you comfortable.
I think it's completely fine to have it at your home if your mom/cousin are hosting it, sending out the invites and guest will rsvp w/ them.
As for kids at the shower, I would say no just based on the fact that you have a pool with no baby gate and everyone should understand. I'm one of those mom's who like to take their kids everywhere with them. I love my kids and like spending time with them. They are also pretty well behaved and for the most part listen to me. With that being said, Lucas and Sofia are 2 and I wouldn't want them running around a house with a pool with no gate. I think you would be worried also. Even if the kids are well behaved kids, they are still kids. I know someone just posted recentently about knowing a toddler that drowned at a party b/c everyone thought someone else was watching the child.
I love house parties so I think it will be a nice touch to host the shower at your house. It's kind of a sensitive issue when you allow some children and not others. I guess it would be appropriate to write on the invitation Ladies Only or Adults Only. Happy Planning!
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