Time for a Mom vent :(

JillRock96 · October 2008

I am so sick of dealing with such trivial crap between my mom and MIL! I honestly don't know who is more immature -- although my mom is seriously winning at the moment.

My mom views everything as a competition. I posted a few months ago about how she decided at the last minute not to buy the nursery furniture she had offered to buy originally (that we had been counting on) because she wanted to buy something big that I could open at the shower and people could "ooh" and "ahh" over. Not that we weren't grateful for anything she bought us, but the fact that she made a big show over me opening her gifts at the shower really embarrassed me.

So now, I set up a cute little baby pool online for family and friends to guess the weight, length, date, and time of arrival. Of course my mom had to be the very first to guess (like I said, competitive). MIL had some problem accessing the site (she is computer-challenged), so it took her over a week to get on to guess. There are like 30 guesses or so on the site. Well, somehow my MIL guessed the exact same thing as my mom -- same weight, date, everything. I have no idea if it is just a really strange coincidence or what, but who cares, right? Well my mom does! She called me today to point it out (I would never have noticed) and to say that she can't believe my MIL would "copy her" and that she hopes everything isn't going to be a huge competition between them now.

SERIOUSLY??? It's a baby pool! There's no money or prize involved! WHO CARES??? I am so sick of being in the middle of those two. I QUIT!

ela81 · October 2008

Wow, I'm sorry. That really sucks:( I'm grumpy at dh right now so I don't have any nice advice. (((HUGS)))

MayDayGirl · October 2008

Oh my gosh I'm sorry!! That's REALLY bad Sad

JillRock96 · October 2008

Not to mention she woke me up this morning to tell me that -- then asked why I "sounded like crap" on the phone. I need my sleep! GRRRRRR!

ela81 · October 2008

Gosh, your morning sounds a fun as mine:( I'm sorry. I hope we both get into good moods soon:)~

marriedgirl05 · October 2008

Ugh. I can totally relate. My mom & mil are the same way. Still! And Evan is almost 1! At my shower, my mom presented us with a beautiful sweater with matching hat and booties that she had knitted - totally to steal the show. Not that I don't appreciate it! I love that set!! And love that she knitted something for Evan! But she showed it to me 2 months before the shower and TOLD me she was going to wait so that my mil would be outdone! Meanwhile, my mil is busy spending thousands of dollars on any and every baby gift known to man to try to outdo my mom. It's exhausting. I just try to ignore it now. I know that's no help, I just wanted to let you know you're not alone with the crazy mom and mil!!!

MoDchiCk · October 2008

JiLL!!!!!

Its obviously never going to end!!!!! ?ITs so oooooo crazy!!!! ?Why is it always something??? ?

Im sorry you have to deal!!!!!! ?I have been using Yoga breathing and Im telling you blocks out all their crap!!!!!!!!! ? I figure ?after baby we wont have much contact at all with MIL and step MIL because nothing is ever right or good enough or whatever their issue is!!!! ?And get caller iD and stop answering...I started that a lonnnnnnng time ago!

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Mr.&MrsS · October 2008

Sorry you are dealing with that! I feel like everything is a competition now with DS between my Mom and MIL. To make it worse they call eachother all the time to compare how he was for them, who saw him more, etc. It is really nuts! But I guess it is a good thing DS has two grandmothers who love him so much because DH and I never had any grandparents, so I try to let it all roll off my back.