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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
Echowysp
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Gotta love how some people helicopter over other people's kids
Echowysp
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We were at a pool party this weekend at a dh's friend's house. They had a large deck that went straight down to the pool. I spent most of the time running after ds to make sure he didn't fall off the deck or into the pool.
One of dh's friend's wife seemed spent a good part of the party sort of freaking out whenever ds would get *sort of* close to the steps, even though I told her he's great with steps and I was always right behind him. She also freaked out while ds was next to the water, even though I was right there with him.
The last straw was when I was handing ds over to dh at the edge of the pool. I had a hold of ds' waist and dh was grabbing him. She comes frantically swimming over, exclaiming "Oh oh oh! Another mom here and that totally freaks me out!!" Um, I was sitting on the side of the pool, I had both hands on ds and dh was grabbing him. Even if he slipped, he'd slip into dh.
Thanks for making a loud and dramatic declaration that you don't like our parenting. Sounds like you need a Valium. 
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Re: Gotta love how some people helicopter over other people's kids
Oh, I got that with Adam too. I also loved how my SIL blasted me for bringing him out in the cold (covered up, mind you) to go grocery shopping when he was 3 months old. Meanwhile, her 12 year old is walking around in the 10 degree snowstorm in shorts. But I was the bad mom.
Isn't this what 97.256225% of people on the bump do? Helicopter over other people's kids?
Sure, but a message board invites people's opinions. That's its purpose.
A stranger at a party doesn't need to tell me how nervous my actions are making her when there was nothing to be nervous about.
Were you hanging out with my SIL? She's a teenager with no kids and no idea how to parent, but she is FULL of advice. We were at the ILs watching a movie one night and DD was climbing up and down on a chair in the living room. No big deal, it's a chair on carpeted floor and she's almost two, she can handle it. But SIL was freaking out the whole time "omg, she's going to fall!" "she's too close to the edge!" "aaahh, she's making me so nervous!!!" "that doesn't look safe!" Finally MIL said "if it's making you so nervous, why don't you go sit by her?" She shot DH a nasty glance and said "or MAYBE you should get off your butt and watch your kid instead of the TV."
She also has great advice on:
-moving DD to her own room: "is she EVER going to sleep in her own bed? I mean... she can't sleep with you forever... does she even HAVE a bed? Are you even trying? I bet we could give you my old bed if you need one."
-tandem nursing: "She's not still going to be doing THAT once you have the baby is she? That can't be good for the baby."
-manners: "She needs to say 'please' if she wants a snack. I won't let her have one until she says it." Uhm, cool. Are you trying to tell me you won't let me feed MY child?
- nutrition: "You can't have that, it will go straight to your hips. (to me) You guys should never have given her junk food. Now she'll never eat anything healthy" Nevermind the fact that 90% of the junk she gets is from ILs, not us, and she is an extremely healthy eater.
Just think how much fun it's going to be once she has kids.
I was going to a local farm with DD and my mom, who told me to make sure I dressed her in cool clothes cuz it was gonna be hot. Then she fell that day and my mom freaked the eff out and told me to make sure I clean it out daily and put neosporin on it. Really mom? Thanks. I love that she felt the need to tell me this stuff like I'm some kind of idiot.
That's my sister. She was here this weekend and was so paranoid about AJ all weekend. "Can he go up the stairs like that? Shouldn't you watch him?" "OMG He's going to slam his fingers in the drawer, don't let him do that!" "What if he falls? You shouldn't let him walk on the sidewalk like that."
OMG SHUT UP. I'm not going to hurt my child. Since I live with him and spend most of my time with him, I'm pretty sure I have a good handle on his limitations. Relax.
I'm pretty casual on safety stuff like that: I keep my eyes on him all the time, but I tend to stay pretty far back (constantly thinking, OK, what's the worst that can happen if...and if the worst thing isn't permanent damage/extreme pain/death I pretty much let him do his thing - again CONSTANTLY watching).
I frequently have other people get up and start helping him down steps (not a stair case, a step or 2. He's been climbing up and down steps for a year), following him around the yard, holding his hand getting off the sidewalk, carrying things for him, and walking himaround the pool (he can swim, he knows to hold his breath, I stay w/in 10 or so feet and don't take my eyes off him. If he falls in, he'll be out w/in 5 seconds). I know it drives other people crazy, but I really want him to know he can do things on his own.
I hate that. I like to let DS figure out what works and what doesn't on his own. That means he'll occasionally fall at the playground etc...
It really annoys me when I'm standing back letting him do his thing and other Moms that I don't even know are "helping" him.
a) Don't touch my kid unless it's absolutely necessary.
b) You know I'm watching him three feet away. If I wanted him to be assisted, I'd be doing it.
c) I know you're silently judging my parenting skills, so knock it off.