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2nd Trimester
my vent from a weekend wedding:
Yes MIL, i know that the hugely pregnant girl was boogy-ing down on the dance floor while i was sitting in my chair most of the night.
It's also entirely possible that she was dancing to try to start labor, while I wasn't dancing in order to try to keep my kid in me as long as possible.
Yes, I was under doctor orders to NOT get my boogy on at this wedding. What do you not understand about my repeated explanations about the subchorionic hematoma? If the placenta continues to separate from the uterine wall, we WILL lose this baby. My #1 priority is to NOT let that happen.
So, if my doctor says no crazy dancing at the wedding, then there's no crazy dancing at the wedding. STOP telling me I can do it, because that other pregnant girl was.
(I really can't take anymore... she also doesn't understand why I won't go outside to stand near people who are smoking, when 1) the smell of smoke gives me a migraine and makes me terribly nauseous 2) i'm allergic and 3) just because it's outside doesn't make the 2nd hand smoke LESS dangerous to me OR the baby.)
Dx: MFI, DOR, 9 Fibroids and homozygous MTHFR
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Re: my vent from a weekend wedding:
Wow!! No offense, but she gets the DB award of the day!
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that really is terrible. pregnancies differ so much among women that it is really unfair to compare.
I had a similar but less critical discussion with MY MIL who was insisting I could lift anything I wanted. Okay . . . if I didn't have previa, then I wouldn't be so careful. Sorry I am just following my dr.'s orders and trying to ensure nothing happens to this baby inside me.
screw her and anyone else who tries to make you do ANYTHING out of your comfort zone, even if you are being "over" protective. Your baby and that placenta have to be #1 priority.
the bad thing is i really like my MIL... it's just since getting pregnant, she's said a few things that just really bother me, like those above... or like a few weeks ago, i was talking with a friend about how I would never fly with an infant less than 6 weeks during cold and flu season because of the risks associated with an immature immune system.
She told me i had a lot to learn about babies.
I was so shocked, that she instantly apologized and told me she misunderstood what i was saying, but um... as a NICU nurse for 6 1/2 years, i daresay i know a lot more about babies developmentally and biologically than most.
She's really a very nice person, but she just lives in her own world and her own experiences.
Thanks for letting me vent ladies.
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Ah...you have one of THOSE mother-in-laws...lol
I have several women in my family who are the same way. They know best, regardless of what anyone else may have said. They are right, no matter how much you prove them wrong. It's really frustrating, but sometimes you just have to take a deep breath, shoot her a smile that looks like you may eat her face if she opens her mouth again, and take stock in the fact that you know you're right and she's wrong. :P
Tell MIL to F-off.
Pardon my ever-so classy response. I can't be bothered with people.