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TTC After a Loss
Update...Back in town from sister's baby shower
Happy Memorial Day!!!
For those who weren't on Friday night, I posted about being at my parent's house and throwing a baby shower for my sister on Saturday. LSS...it was hard being there with BIL and SIL rubbing the belly and laughing and commenting on what this and that was...I eventually had to leave the room.
Well, the actual shower went better than expected. Everyone had a good time. I actually enjoyed watching my sister open her presents. And I didn't have anyone ask me if we have any kids yet or anything. My sister and I talked before the shower started. She told me how she was dreading the shower because she didn't know how to act and didn't want anything to make me sad. I really appreciated what she was saying.....until.......
Get this....she told me she knows exactly how I'm feeling!!!! She said, "I know exactly what you are going through because everytime I go to the doctor I psych myself up so if something is wrong or they tell me that my baby is not living, I'm prepared for it." "Everytime she moves too much, I think she's having a seizure or something." "If she doesn't move enough, I think she is dying or dead."
This is what I wanted to say...."I'm really sorry that my loss is causing you so much stress!!!!" "You don't know what the fck I'm feeling!!!" "You get to feel you baby move. Your husband can feel your baby move. I was almost at that point." "You have not had an U/S and see your baby on the screen not moving with no heartbeat." "You do not have to lay there for 5 days knowing your baby is dead inside of you and have to wait to have your baby riped out of your body." I didn't say any of that...I just said something to end the conversation. I didn't want to ruin the day or rest of the weekend. But, if she ever says anything like that again....
GEAUX TIGERS!!!
1st pregnancy: BFP- 6/28/09 - Found out we lost our little girl on 10/9/09 at 19w 4d - D&E- 10/14/09
June 2010, corrective surgery for Septate Uterus and large fibroids
2nd pregnancy: BFP- 10/18/10 - Slow rising, non-doubling HCGs, no heart beat. Non-viable pregnancy, D&C- 11/12/10
Started Metformin 6/30/11, Started Clomid 7/20/11 - Unsuccessful
HSG and Laparoscopic surgery revealed blocked tubes and lots of scar tissue...IVF here we come!!!
Surprise BFP naturally!!! IT'S A BOY!!!
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Re: Update...Back in town from sister's baby shower
Oh, no. I'm sorry she would say something like that. Its amazing what people think may make us feel better. {{hugs}}
I'm glad the rest of the shower wasn't extreme torture, though! And welcome back!
bfp 01/23/10 m/c 12w1d 03/14/10 EDD 09/24/10
bfp 07/20/10 m/c 5w1d 07/25/10
bfp 11/19/10 Born 07/24/11 via C/S
My Forever Sister From Another Mister~CashewsMommy!!
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m/c 12/25/09 (5w5d) mm/c D&C 4/9/10 (11w1d) Take home baby 2/22/11
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Surgery is this Thursday!!!!
GEAUX TIGERS!!!
1st pregnancy: BFP- 6/28/09 - Found out we lost our little girl on 10/9/09 at 19w 4d - D&E- 10/14/09
June 2010, corrective surgery for Septate Uterus and large fibroids
2nd pregnancy: BFP- 10/18/10 - Slow rising, non-doubling HCGs, no heart beat. Non-viable pregnancy, D&C- 11/12/10
Started Metformin 6/30/11, Started Clomid 7/20/11 - Unsuccessful
HSG and Laparoscopic surgery revealed blocked tubes and lots of scar tissue...IVF here we come!!!
Surprise BFP naturally!!! IT'S A BOY!!!
Yay! I'll be thinking of you then!!
I am so sorry that your sister said something so unbelievably ignorant and insensitive. I admire your self control, but I agree that if she says something again then you have every right to educate her on how hurtful she's being.
I'm glad the actual shower went well and I think it was very generous of you for being so involved with it.