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Jacques715
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Help Me!!
Jacques715
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DH and I have such different parenting styles. He is so laid back and flexible about scheduling and where DD naps, and I am not. I try to be, but it is hard sometimes. For instance, we were away this weekend so Tahlia did not nap/sleep in her crib. During the day she napped in stroller or on us and at night, she slept with us in bed. We got home last night and left her in car seat until she woke up, then took her into bed. This morning I wanted to put her down in crib for a nap and he wanted to take her to our town parade. He took her. Right now, I just told him that she needs to go down for an afternoon nap cause she is getting a bit cranky. He was like, let's take her for a walk, it is so beautiful out. I want her to sleep in her crib though. I am worried that all this sleep outside of her crib is going to make for a rough transition back in. Am I just being super anal??
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Re: Help Me!!
I don't think you're being super anal, I think you're being just a teeny bit anal. And I don't think that is a bad thing.
Routines are important, but it's also important that you run the routine not letting the routine run you.
So, I'd say the occasional deviation is OK, but you generally want to stick to the routine. I'd say so long as she gets one good nap a day, you could let him do something fun with her at the time of the other one. Like this afternoon, can't he do a walk in an hour or so when she gets up since she missed the morning nap?
I think you'll got a lot of different answers just as you and your DH have different parenting styles on this subject so do the different moms on here.
I'm trying to be more flexible and am okay with a nap in a stroller as long as he is getting the nap he needs. I don't think they all have to be in the crib. But, with that said if he's had a day with funky naps/sleep I really try to do what I can and work around his schedule the next day to make sure he gets good naps in.
I think a walk can certainly wait until she gets up from a crib nap though.
Yes, she is a difficult child to get down for a nap. He is using the walk as a crutch, to get her to go to sleep. Which will only make it harder when for me when I have to put her down for a nap tomorrow or the next day, w/o the walk. If that makes sense.
Every other Saturday MIL watches DS she hardly ever puts him down, it drives me crazy! She doesn't even put him down for naps, she will rock him to sleep. I've been very nice about this so far. We have a pretty strict but flexible routine. Luckily for us it hasn't change how DS acts at home for his naps and such.
I would say if it isn't an every day thing, it won't hurt her. The first of the month we went out of town for the weekend. DS wouldn't sleep in his own bed, unless I put him in it while he was already asleep. He also missed some naps in his PNP and either napped on me or in the car. This didn't change how he acted once we got home.
I can see wanting to take her to a parade, it only happens once, the walk outside could wait till after her nap.
Oh yes, this absolutely makes sense. I would not be okay with something today that I know will make it harder for me tomorrow and the next few days when I'm home alone with him. Sometimes I swear that fathers (or at least my DH) can't wait for DS to be 5 to do all these fun things with and that right now his naps are more important then...pretty much anything else. At least to me.