I have two boys - NO, that does not mean I want to try for a girl!

what?? · May 2010

Honeslty, I don't really get annoyed and I guess I can see why people would say "oh, going for the girl", when I tell them we may try for a thrid. Yes, my husband would love a girl and I wouldn't mind eihter. But honestly, I am truly 100% okay if I have all three boys. I have 3 nieces and I truly don't feel like I am missing out. Why do people just assume this! Just venting.... a little....

ilovemygirls · May 2010

Have just the opposite problem here since we have two girls

It is incredibly annoying! When one of my friends had her 2nd girl, her lovely FIL told her she needed to put her back in until she came out "right" Indifferent

Sunflower777 · May 2010

I have 2 boys. I had a lady ask me if we were done. I said yes. She said, "Would you have a 3rd if you were guaranteed a girl?"

I said, "No, a girl is still a baby and a lot of work."

Marce921 · May 2010

I don't know why people think this either, but when I tell people we're having another boy, they go from being excited for us to just saying, "ohh... I guess you'll be having a third to try for a girl." Um, no, I'm perfectly happy with two boys (didn't really care to have a girl anyway) and we're done with two. It kinda pisses me off, frankly. Smile

mamarazzi · May 2010

I hear it all the time, too. We planned on three, regardless of whether we had sons or daughters. I would LOVE a girl, but I am completely, 100% prepared to have another little boy and will be thrilled to give my kids another brother.

I find it so rude. I liken it to asking the parent of a special needs child if they're going to try for a baby without. Not acceptable.

I'm also SO sick of hearing people tell those with one of each that they have "the perfect family." I think my family is pretty damn perfect, thankyouverymuch.

mamarazzi · May 2010

I hear it all the time, too. We planned on three, regardless of whether we had sons or daughters. I would LOVE a girl, but I am completely, 100% prepared to have another little boy and will be thrilled to give my kids another brother.

I find it so rude. I liken it to asking the parent of a special needs child if they're going to try for a baby without. Not acceptable. (clearly it's not nearly as bad as asking the former, but still. Not okay.)

I'm also SO sick of hearing people tell those with one of each that they have "the perfect family." I think my family is pretty damn perfect, thankyouverymuch.

winomom22 · May 2010

We are getting that too cause we have 2 girls. Even dh thinks about it, which annoys the heII out of me. He doesn't want another child, he just wishes one of our girls was a boy. He'll get over it, because I am so done and so completely happy with my 2 precious girls.

hungryturtle · May 2010

If its any consolation, my first two are a girl and a boy, and I still get rude comments about #3. As in when some people found out we were expecting #3 I got a lot of "oh, was that a surprise?" type questions. Because afterall, you should plan your family sized based only on the gender of your children, right? :P

Ciarrai · May 2010

I hated that comment when we just had the girls. Now I get the "your husband must be so happy to finally get his boy" and "you must be done now that you finally have your boy" like that was the only reason we had three. It makes me feel awful b/c it sounds like we didn't want the girls or at least DD#2. Funnily enough, we both thought DS was another girl (three identical PGs) and were thrilled. I think DH would have stopped with two just because he was worried three was too many, but we had agreed on three before we even started. Still, one of these days, the girls are going to pick up on the comments and think DH never wanted them or something.

lolc · May 2010

I can relate to this vent 110%!!!

Just wait till you get pregnant.... the comments will start pouring in! "Oh, I HOPE it's a girl!" "I'll feel so bad for you if it's ANOTHER boy" "It BETTER be a girl!"

Yes, those are the comments I got! I got really annoyed and mad about it because I felt like.... What are my boys to you, chop liver!? I love my little boys, I love HAVING boys, and I wouldn't mind if we added another to the family! My boys have been great!!

We just so happen to be having a girl, so now the tone of the comments have calmed down. Now it's just "Yay! A girl!" "Aww, you'll have so much fun shopping!" But for the first 18 weeks of my PG, I was always thisclose to punching someone in the face!

rebs · May 2010

Yeah, people are weird. I actually had someone ask why we were having a third since we already had our boy and girl. Ummmm, because I want three CHILDREN.

Andrewsgal · May 2010

You can't win no matter what. We get the "why would you want another one, you already have the perfect family comments" Um okay... I want another because I want another, I don't care what the sex is.

Temp970088312507122 · May 2010

PMQ:
I get it all the time too, so annoying. I just say "actually, if we try for a third I would prefer another boy".

Ditto this! I'd love either, but I always say this partly to just make them feel like an a-hole. But honestly, DH and I would love another girl!

soontobeahigh · May 2010

I know how you feel. I get tired of hearing, "You finally got your girl huh?" No, dimwit, I really always wanted 3 boys, but yeah, since I got her I guess I will take her. People are clueless.

amy05-04 · May 2010

I can totally relate. #3 is another boy and all I have gotten is "Aw, hope you are not disappointed." Thanks, that makes me feel MUCH better! How could I be disappointed with another child? Yes, I would have loved a girl, but I love having 2 boys and sometimes I don't think I'm really cut out for the drama of a girl! lol

*Amy* · May 2010

I was so hurt by people's reactions after Jackson's big u/s. The excitement died a bit when they heard it was another boy. It really hurt my feelings, b/c he is worth being excited about.

I am 2.5 weeks away from my big u/s with this baby and the comments have been coming all along. I really want people to stop talking to me about it. I would love a little girl, but I don't want to get my hopes up and I don't want people to make me feel bad if it is another boy. Another boy would be a blessing as well. I can't wait to find out and move on!

eclaires · May 2010

I've found that people's reactions are utterly bizarre no matter what regarding gender. Whether you have two of one sex, one of each... almost every comment is weird and off the wall.

What's so wrong with "congratulations, you're having a baby!" Gah.

Yes, I'm excited to have a girl - but I would have been equally excited to have another little boy. And now, if I tell people what we're having they almost pee themselves with glee over us having a girl since we already have a boy. And from friends I don't mind that so much - they're genuinely happy for us and would be regardless. I find the "oo a perfect family" comments from strangers to be the weirdest. I always want to say, "I guess. Until they are teenagers." I mean, really who has a perfect family? Gag.

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