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Mrs.Teddy
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party out of control...
Mrs.Teddy
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I am trying not to get too stressed about L's birthday but after talking to my ILs last night and my sister I am feeling overwhelmed. And I feel that its getting ridiculous but I can't figure out where to cut out.
So far our guest list is at 90 people, seriously. We both come from big families, so that is 30 from each side. Then DH wants to invite all his friends, who he has been friends with since grade 3, thats another 15. Then another 15 is our neighbours. I am not going to send them invites but will mention the party to them in advance and welcome them as there will be a bouncy castle onmy front lawn and not inviting them would be like torture. I have gone thru the list 4 times, other then doing seperate parties there just srean't people who I can't invite. 20 of those 90 are children.
DH thinks I should relax, that not everyone will come (which I know is true but we will still get 70ish). We are also thinking of sending our adult friends who have no kids the invites (its from 1-4pm, a BBQ and cake) and then telling them they are more then welcome but that if its fits their schedules better we will be having an adult BBQ with drinks later that evening, after 6. I am pretty sure if they weren't at least invited to the big party they would be insulted.
OK I know I am rambling but I am stressed! Any advice?
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Re: party out of control...
Woah. I would be stressing.
Any way you can rent a hall or something to have the party, that way you don't have to worry about getting your house ready for guest..and even worse, cleaning it afterwards.
No advice, but we're in exactly the same situation. Exactly. Except our guest list is at 100 including kids.
It seems that none of our groups of friends overlap. We're good friends with our neighbors and it's not like we can have a backyard party and not invite them. Then we have our pre-kid friends, most of whom we've been friends with for over a decade. Despite the fact that we're old, we're still just about the first to have had kids. Then we have all the new mom/kid friends that I made in my year of staying at home. We don't live neither any family, but we still have a few who would make the trek. Even if not everyone can come, that's still like 60 people in our backyard.
I thought about sending out invites late in the hope that people would have already made plans. Is that awful?
I think I've gotten comfortable with it being outside, it's the thought of rain that is driving me into a panic.
I thought about renting a hall but I really didnt' want that. My ILs are ridiculous and make everything over the top. I was making a point by having a simple BBQ, cake and ice cream. MIL is disgusted that I am not having it catered or a sweet table. We want simple, its us. I think I am going to just bite the bullet and hope it works out.
I was considering an open house but not sure how that would work I know everyone wants to see him do cake and presents.
Maybe do an open house, but make sure to put and approx time for presents and cake.
For example you could put DS's 1st Birthday Open House 1pm-8pm Presents and Cake 4pm.
or something similar. That way people who want to watch him open presents can and those who don't or have other plans can come earlier or later. He could just open their presents the next day.
She took the words right out of my "mouth".
I can't even fathom 90 people. We had less at our wedding! Good luck! If you don't get it catered I would consider hiring 1 or 2 people to be buspeople. They could clear the plates, keep the food stocked, pick up garbage and clean up afterwards. Find some teenagers you know and pay them $8-10 an hour. It would be so worth it.