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SWmama
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Since I'm being held hostage by a 5 month old on a nap strike who FINALLY went to sleep. On my lap. And I'm afraid to move her.
SS had closing ceremonies for baseball on Tuesday. All the kids get a trophy but SS's team came in first place so their trophy was the largest.
BM and DH were arguging afterwards about who gets to keep the trophy. I kept my mouth shut and distracted SS by asking him about his trophy, etc.
On the way home I told him that I thought it was only fair that BM get to keep it since we have his from last year at our house. His response was that since we didn't get his reading trophy that it was only fair that we get his baseball trophy. I think he's being a little over dramatic.
So, who hangs on to stuff like that?
PS- Please don't say the trophys can spend equal time at the houses. Since I'm the one doing drop offs and pick-ups the last thing I want to do is play joint custody with a bunch of stuff. It's bad enough that BM gives us a list of her stuff for SS to bring to school.
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It should be where ever SS wants it to stay.
When we buy/get toys, gifts and other stuff for the boys we believe it is their stuff. So if they want to take it and leave it at their grandparents or BMs house, the can. We do have to remind them, if they complain about being bored, to bring toys/ stuff back to our house so they can play with it. This has worked out very well for us. BM also had this attitude until recently.
I agree but what if the child wants the trophy to follow him around? At what point do you say "it needs a home, son"?
Not really helpful, but was it the World Series????? How cool can this trophy be? HONESTLY! Why doesn't he just put it on a shelf with his other trophies that no one looks at or cares about and forget about it like a normal child?
It's totally weird that this is even an issue, and there are actual arguments ensuing over it!!! Lol
If it were me, I would have it stay at custodial parents house, simply because that's where he is most the time. Maybe invest in a small trophy case, since these things are obviously something that is treasured, and then there is no question that trophies go....... in the trophy case.
Since that suggestion will probably just ensure he has a trophy case in each home, tell him to pick a spot and that's where it lives. No travelling back and forth and switching homes. One choice that is permanent.
I totally agree! Unforunately it's not the World Series trophy. Maybe next year once we put him in the draft to go pro.
I'm liking the trophy case thing though. I'll bring that up to DH tonight.
MissSusie I like the two trophy idea but I think the organization pays for them.
Glad I'm not the only one who thinks it's silly.
SD's cheerleading trophy is at our house. It is here for three reasons: 1. we were afraid the "other girl" would break it. 2. We PAID for SD to cheer (well over $250 for her uniform, shoes, fees etc), 3. we were the ones who made sure SD attended every single game and practice even when BM flaked.
SD did get a certificate which DH and I paid to have copied (a nice copy) and she got a medal for perfect attendance (the only one on her squad that never missed a game or practice), the medal is at BM's (which is ironic since as I said, we made sure she had a ride to every practice and was on time - that sometimes meant driving to BM's to pick her up when BM was busy in the garden). BM put the copy of the certificate and the medal in a display case so it would be safe.
There are 2 schools of thought that I have.
1 is the kid should get to decide.
The other is, who pays for him to be in baseball, pays for his gear, etc? If its you and DH, then you guys should get to keep it in his room at your house.
If the kid has no opinion one way or another, then I would say if one person or the other pays-that's where it should be.
Yes I'm agreeing with mom2one. This is how it works at our house, the trophy is about SS not the adults. It seems incredibly childish to 'fight' over it.