statistics
JenL12345
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I hate statistics with a passion. After my first m/c the docs did the "well 20% of pregnancies end in m/c"..."but the good news is you have an 80% chance of having a healthy pregnancy next time". Idiot. That's the same statistic....if m/c's are so common 20% of pg's end in one (and of course they say "and 20% is a lot if you think about it") then I still have a 20% change of having a m/c a second time....
and what do you know, I did! Oh but 2 m/c's are NORMAL (they sure don't feel normal when everyone around me can have healthy babies quite easily, even by accident)...."you still have an 80% change of having a healhty p/g next time! We don't start getting concerned until your 3rd"...so basically I have to sit back, have some sex, make another precious baby only to let it die, again, and then they'll be concerned....
(sorry vent day)
Re: statistics
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm 1 : 3,000, so statistics really mean nothing to me at this point.
I have heard that some drs will do testing prior to 3 losses, but you kinda need to "strong-arm" them. Maybe seeing an RE would help to get the ball rolling?
I asked for additional testing, and I'm so glad I did....I discovered that I have an issue (MTHFR) which without treatment, could cause PG loss again.
BFP #3 via cancelled IUI ~ C (2lb 3oz; HELLP) 5/16/11
BFP #4 via the natural (free!) way ~ E (8lb 11oz) 9/13/12
Aurora Rose born sleeping at 35w on 4-21-10
BFP#2 {Almond} - 2.1.11 EDD 10.12.11 C/P 2.11.11
yes, statistics suck big time. they say there is a 1 in 10,000 chance for my situation. gee, thanks for choosing me. why couldn't i have won the lotto ... not that it would matter anyway bc it can't bring back my baby.
From what I heard, "all pregnancies" includes ones not known about. Also, what I was told was 20% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage, but of those 20% only 2% have redcurrant pregnancy loss.
Don't forget all the statistics (what I call BS) that each u/s and hearing of hb brings it down. I had 3 u/s showing a heartbeat and proper growth. I also heard the heartbeat with the second m/c.
The more research I read about statistics, the more I think they are bunk. I've seen all sorts of numbers and all sorts of stuff since my m/c and have come to the conclusion that no one really knows and so they just make up general numbers to try to make us feel better.
There isn't enough work and research done on miscarriages and infant deaths to really understand, and there is a serious lack of education regarding it too.
Sorry for the rant, that has become my pet peeve.