Potential Match!!!!

starbuck71 · May 2010

I just got a call from our caseworker about a potential match. Everything sounds perfect except one concern. The birth mother had syphilis, was treated last month. She is due July 15th. From the reading that I have done tonight, they say that it is best to get treated in the first four months or there is a good chance that it will get passed down to the baby. It seems, from the reading, that as long as the baby gets treated there are no major concerns, but it worries me. I want this SO bad, but am scared to make a decision right now because I've lost all perspective. Has anyone dealt with syphilis?

M&MBride0506 · May 2010

I don't have any info for you but I just wanted to say I'm thinking about you and whatever you decide will be the right decision.

mrsdrkwaver · May 2010

Good luck! I have nothing to shae about that but like many have told me follow your heart and your gut! Unless both of you are ready for the what ifs then dont do it. You have to do what is best for your family.

amberfernandez · May 2010

I agree, follow your instincts, they'll head you in the right direction. Sorry I don't have any information for you about syphillis, but if it's something that is 100% treatable with no long-term side effects, doesn't sound so bad. But again, your gut will tell you what to do. BTW, you're only human, it's hard not to lead with your emotions, so never feel bad about it.

mom2emb · May 2010

Has the BM had regular prenatal care? I'm wondering if she's had syphilis the entire pregnancy, or if this might be something she got recently. Sorry I don't have a magic answer for you, but you'll make the right decision.

JanieJones · May 2010

Best of luck. ?I'm sure you will make the right decision for your family.

CaptainSerious · May 2010

I highly recommend you talk to a doctor about this situation. Parents for Ethical Adoption Reform put out a list of doctors that specialize in adoption, but I think in this case most doctors should be able to advise you on the risks.

GLynn2009 · May 2010

**AmberF**:
I agree, follow your instincts, they'll head you in the right direction. Sorry I don't have any information for you about syphillis, but if it's something that is 100% treatable with no long-term side effects, doesn't sound so bad. But again, your gut will tell you what to do. BTW, you're only human, it's hard not to lead with your emotions, so never feel bad about it.

This!

kgs0505 · May 2010

I second Captain... talk to a doctor about the situation. See if you can get a little more info regarding the issue and ask a doctor who will give you the risks.. one of the adoption doctors or maybe your own OB.

KasiaB29 · May 2010

I totally agree with those who advise you to talk to a doctor. The doctor should be able to provide you with better information. I know that's what happened to us. We were presented with a potential match were the BM had health problems that could affect the baby. I did my internet research but wasn't really able to make a decision until I spoke to a trusted doctor. Good luck!

mcmann05 · May 2010

https://www.pregnancy-info.net/stds_syphilis_pregnancy.html

I found this but who knows how reliable it is although it seems pretty informative. I would second and third getting in touch with a doctor that can verify any risks. It sounds like it mostly depends on how long she had it and at what month in her pregnancy did she get treated.

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