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3rd Trimester
Husband watching during delivery
While watching this episode of A Baby Story, it really confirms my position that I do NOT want DH looking at the baby's "progress" as I am pushing. He'll need to stay next to my head. We've talked about it before and he said "oh yeah, I don't want to see that." For some reason, the idea of him watching REALLY bothers me. Others with my same frame of mind?
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Re: Husband watching during delivery
I will be having a repesat c/s - but I would absolutley let DH watch his child be born if wanted to. (I don't know that he would
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If your not comfortable with it though and it would "distract" you, it is nice that your DH is understanding of that.
::butts in from 03:::
DH and I felt the same way, but when it came down to it he watched the whole thing and it didn't bother me at all. The whole experience is surreal!
This! I totally agree.
DH has a friend who confessed to him that watching the baby being born ruined his sex life, that he can never look at his wife's vag as something sexual ever again now.
So needless to say, Dh is now terrified of what he might see and that it will scar him for the rest of his life.
My stance for the whole pregnancy has been if I have to go through it you have to hear about it! I feel the same way about delivery, if I am pushing this baby out then you should at least see what it looks like. That being said DH is a firefighter and EMT and is not squeamish at all. And I would never make him look if he really didn't want to.
I don't mind if he looks. At the moment, he really doesn't want to which is fien with me. Although I know once we are there, he will probably want to look once the head is starting to come out and all. I know a lot of daddy's get caught up in it and want to look.
I don't mind because.. afterall, he has seen all of my body parts and he put that baby in there. So why shouldn't he be able to look? If he wants to be that involved, then I'm all for it. If he just wants to stand by my head, hold my hand, or hold a leg.. then that's fine too. But he is the baby's father and I feel he has every right to see it.
I however, can see why it would be weird for some people. But it's a beautiful and natural thing
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To each there own but don't be afraid to have an open mind once the time comes. If he really wants to look, I just don't want you worrying during delivery. My dh said he was going to hang by my head for our first delivery but when the time came, he was all over the place and I was constantly asking if he saw anything!. I even felt her head with my hands as I was pushing (which totally would have freaked me out at the thought before delivery). I say just keep an open mind and know that whatever you want goes.
Every guy is different. My friend's h told me that seeing her give birth to his child made him MORE attracted to her. There was the powerful woman thing about it.
My dh was there. It an amazing moment. Our reproductive organs and breasts have a purpose besides toys. I don't think I would be attracted to a man who couldn't handle that.
Wow, that is really low. I feel really sad for his poor wife. Way to go big guy.
I didn't care either way, I supported what he wanted. He's gotten plenty up close and personal before.
However, DH was very much 'Oh, God no' because he's squeamish as heck. So, he stayed by my shoulders whilst I pushed for 2 hours. When I ended up needing a c/s, he stayed on my side of the curtain
My husband delivered DD (under the guidance of my MW) and he watched DS being born. So, I was obviously okay with my husband seeing it and so was he! :-) I gave birth both times in a birth center, so it was basically a queen sized bed. DH was able to sit next to me and hold my leg...but it would've been very hard NOT to see what was happening since it was right there.
As someone who has witnessed a live birth before as a "spectator" (my nephew), I can say that for me, it was the most beautiful thing in the world to see a baby being born. I was so privileged that my sister invited me to be a part of that experience (I was her doula). Nothing is more beautiful than watching a man and woman become parents. It makes me teary eyed just thinking about it.
BUT....each woman is different, of course. And not everybody can take the blood, sometimes the poop, and overall messiness. And that's okay. It's your experience and you can do it however you want :-)
Meh, I felt that way with our first. I had to have a c-section though and he definitely watched that. He thought it was amazing. IF I get to have a VBAC this time, I honestly couldn't care less about what he sees. If he wants to watch his daughter being born, he can.
ETA: I remember being SO grossed out at the thought of DH seeing me like that but honestly...it's such an amazing time and we grew even closer than we could have imagined. He saw me at my most vulnerable points and had to help me change my pads after the section and I didn't mind at all...it's funny how things change.
When we were pregnant with DD1, DH's friends told him he HAD to watch and he'd regret if he didn't. He wasn't really sure until we got to delivery, but the nurses asked him hold my leg, and he watched the whole thing.
He always talks about how amazing it was - and he's glad he did it. He was my biggest supporter, and gave me so much confidence during pushing - he was the ONLY person I believed when he told me I was doing good - he looked during every push, and told me when he saw her hair, and how close I was.
My advice to a lot of posters - keep an open mind - you might be surprised by your DH. It's a real miracle, and you have nothing to be ashamed of or want to 'hide' your DH from.
nope. my dh watched the entire thing & was amazed. he still remembers it & talks about how neat it was. he plans to watch again this time.
if my husband felt this way, we would have serious problems. how immature.
We never talked about it before so I guess I didn't really care, but DH held my leg but did not look. Afterwards he said he had thought about it before hand and he realized he didn't want to think about my "lady parts" in that way once he resumed "going south"! I thought he was being a little silly until I saw a sex therapist on Oprah saying that men becoming unattracted to their wives after witnessing the birth of their child turned them off was quite common. A man was on there that refused to go down on his wife because he said he couldn't get that vision out of his head.