Here's what I don't get

gingerfamily · May 2010

If you asked your doctor about something and they gave you their answer, why would you come on here asking what everyone else thinks or what other peoples doctors have said?

You picked your pedi. I'm assuming you did research on them and were happy with them before picking them.

Why ask what other people's doctors say? If you don't trust your dr - why are you going to them?

anabell0920 · May 2010

Cause the interwebz and Dr. Google always knows best duh!!!

soko987 · May 2010

And....MrsH for the win!

VampyAuthor · May 2010

We didn't get tp pick our pedi. We're seen on base and like mt dr they kind of pick for you. And currently he's our only one, the other guy is deployed

lnyost · May 2010

Preach it.

northhillsbride · May 2010

Now, I don't know if you are referring to a specific post but, IMO, I don't see anything wrong with comparing what doctors say regarding reflux, sleeping, etc. I think it's good to hear another perspective and to maybe take that back to your doctor to discuss.

lpstl · May 2010

I think it's incredibly stupid to blindly trust any physician, if your gut tells you something is up, you question it. It doesn't matter how great your dr is, he's still human.

You have to be your own advocate, I've worked in healthcare for the better part of a decade and even the best physicians are capable of making the wrong call.

butterbeansmama · May 2010

Because it's nice to know what other's experience as well. It doesn't mean that what other's say is "golden", but it's nice to hear.

Is this in regards to my pooping post?

MarissaLinae · May 2010

I don't know what OP you are referring to...I am assuming someone asked people what their Pedi's told them about a particular issue. But just because you do research and choose a Pedi that you think is great doesn't mean that you won't possibly question something coming from them in the future and want to see what other people's doc has said. I personally researched and went to the #1 practice in the area. Then when DD was 6 months old he sent her home with bronchialitis (sp?). He told me that she was fine...just a little congested. I ended up in ER with her the next morning. She was to the point where she almost couldn't breathe and had a huge temp. I should have listened to my instincts instead of just trusting that the Doc knew better. Doctors are not Gods and sometimes they make mistakes too.

IrishBrideND · May 2010

Even the best doctors don't know everything. getting a second opinion is smart.

However, you should do that from another doctor, not a message board.

lildevil968 · May 2010

because I have a PhD from Google, and my answers are like gold!

taagent · May 2010

I feel like this post may be directed to me and my pool question. I asked because I had forgotten to ask my dr in person and called the office. I only spoke with the nurse who didn't give me any more info than "not right now". I wasn't given an explanation and I knew from some other posts that people had been planning on taking their LO's to pools and was curious to know what their dr's had told them. I am not necessarily going to disregard my dr's recommendation but what is wrong with getting other people's experiences? Dr's say different things and I wasn't sure if this was an agreed upon recommendation. I also wanted to know WHY since my dr's office didn't give me that info. Someone offered the reasoning and it makes sense so it isn't a big deal.

gingerfamily · May 2010

It actually wasn't directed at any one person/post. I see it at least 3-4 time per day.

I understand questioning something, but why not question your doctor about it. And, yep - you shouldn't blindly trust any doctor. But, if your gut is telling you something is wrong with what s/he said I'd be calling another doc.

That's just my two cents though. The same thing happened on the tri boards so I don't see why it would be any different on the baby boards.

squishles10 · May 2010

I was waiting until tomorrow to post this exact same thing. Minor stuff, yeah sure, ask here. But anything that could seriously affect your LOs health, ask your freaking pediatrician. They don't mind the call, really. Someone above said get another doctor's opinion- yes, do this instead of relying on us to answer your questions. If you do something your pedi doesn't agree with and they ask why you did it, do you really want to have to say because someone on the internet told me to?

gingerfamily · May 2010

Spring Mommy:
Why wouldn't you ask what other people/their doctor's say? I personally like to be as educated as possible.

how is asking what other people say being educated? If you want to be educated on something, do your homework on it. I don't consider asking a question on a message board being educated on something.

IrishBrideND · May 2010

Spring Mommy:
Why wouldn't you ask what other people/their doctor's say? I personally like to be as educated as possible.

My issue is that you don't know whats true and whats not. You are a on message board. People could be making crap up, or they could be misremembering (or misunderstanding) what their doc said. I wouldn't trust info I got on a message board, personally.

MarissaLinae · May 2010

mrsh0606:

It actually wasn't directed at any one person/post. I see it at least 3-4 time per day.

I understand questioning something, but why not question your doctor about it. And, yep - you shouldn't blindly trust any doctor. But, if your gut is telling you something is wrong with what s/he said I'd be calling another doc.

That's just my two cents though. The same thing happened on the tri boards so I don't see why it would be any different on the baby boards.

Well...I'm not trying to be a Biotch...but why are you on the message board then. I hate when people complain about people asking questions. That is the whole point of this forum!!! While you shouldn't just blindly listen to what another person is saying on the board I see nothing wrong with finding out what other people do think and what their doctors are saying.

soko987 · May 2010

IrishBrideND:

Even the best doctors don't know everything. getting a second opinion is smart.

However, you should do that from another doctor, not a message board.

Absolutely.

bobbyme · May 2010

northhillsbride:
Now, I don't know if you are referring to a specific post but, IMO, I don't see anything wrong with comparing what doctors say regarding reflux, sleeping, etc. I think it's good to hear another perspective and to maybe take that back to your doctor to discuss.

This.

violetblue72 · May 2010

It's always a good idea to get a second opinion. Doctors are human, they are not infallible. Sometimes first hand experience from other mothers is priceless.

gingerfamily · May 2010

MarissaLinae:
mrsh0606:

It actually wasn't directed at any one person/post. I see it at least 3-4 time per day.

I understand questioning something, but why not question your doctor about it. And, yep - you shouldn't blindly trust any doctor. But, if your gut is telling you something is wrong with what s/he said I'd be calling another doc.

That's just my two cents though. The same thing happened on the tri boards so I don't see why it would be any different on the baby boards.

Well...I'm not trying to be a Biotch...but why are you on the message board then. I hate when people complain about people asking questions. That is the whole point of this forum!!! While you shouldn't just blindly listen to what another person is saying on the board I see nothing wrong with finding out what other people do think and what their doctors are saying.

I'm on the board b/c I've made friends on here through my pregnancy and like to see their babies grow up and connect with them.

I see no problem in asking different questions. I just wouldn't ask people that I don't know on a message board what their doctor thinks. I don't know that person nor do I know their dr. I'm not going to take either opinion into account when making a decision for my child.

lpstl · May 2010

MarissaLinae:
mrsh0606:

It actually wasn't directed at any one person/post. I see it at least 3-4 time per day.

I understand questioning something, but why not question your doctor about it. And, yep - you shouldn't blindly trust any doctor. But, if your gut is telling you something is wrong with what s/he said I'd be calling another doc.

That's just my two cents though. The same thing happened on the tri boards so I don't see why it would be any different on the baby boards.

Well...I'm not trying to be a Biotch...but why are you on the message board then. I hate when people complain about people asking questions. That is the whole point of this forum!!! While you shouldn't just blindly listen to what another person is saying on the board I see nothing wrong with finding out what other people do think and what their doctors are saying.

Yes

OP, did you see the post earlier about the women who was starting her 2 month old on solids because her pedi told her to? According to your logic she should ignore what everyone said here and do it if she trusts her pedi.

Often reaching out to others for support precedes getting a second opinion, it can help you determine better questions to ask your physician and help you find research resources. Sometimes it just helps you realize you're not crazy and gives you that little push to call your dr again, or get a second opinion.

gingerfamily · May 2010

MarissaLinae:
mrsh0606:

It actually wasn't directed at any one person/post. I see it at least 3-4 time per day.

I understand questioning something, but why not question your doctor about it. And, yep - you shouldn't blindly trust any doctor. But, if your gut is telling you something is wrong with what s/he said I'd be calling another doc.

That's just my two cents though. The same thing happened on the tri boards so I don't see why it would be any different on the baby boards.

Well...I'm not trying to be a Biotch...but why are you on the message board then. I hate when people complain about people asking questions. That is the whole point of this forum!!! While you shouldn't just blindly listen to what another person is saying on the board I see nothing wrong with finding out what other people do think and what their doctors are saying.

Hello pot, meet kettle. I wasn't complaining. I was asking a question. And, here you are complaining about me asking a question. Nice.

jenfurleigh · May 2010

lpstl:
I think it's incredibly stupid to blindly trust any physician, if your gut tells you something is up, you question it. It doesn't matter how great your dr is, he's still human.
You have to be your own advocate, I've worked in healthcare for the better part of a decade and even the best physicians are capable of making the wrong call.

I agree. Nothing wrong with a second opinion.

jenfurleigh · May 2010

lpstl:
I think it's incredibly stupid to blindly trust any physician, if your gut tells you something is up, you question it. It doesn't matter how great your dr is, he's still human.
You have to be your own advocate, I've worked in healthcare for the better part of a decade and even the best physicians are capable of making the wrong call.

I agree. Nothing wrong with a second opinion.

MarissaLinae · May 2010

mrsh0606:
MarissaLinae:
mrsh0606:

It actually wasn't directed at any one person/post. I see it at least 3-4 time per day.

I understand questioning something, but why not question your doctor about it. And, yep - you shouldn't blindly trust any doctor. But, if your gut is telling you something is wrong with what s/he said I'd be calling another doc.

That's just my two cents though. The same thing happened on the tri boards so I don't see why it would be any different on the baby boards.

Well...I'm not trying to be a Biotch...but why are you on the message board then. I hate when people complain about people asking questions. That is the whole point of this forum!!! While you shouldn't just blindly listen to what another person is saying on the board I see nothing wrong with finding out what other people do think and what their doctors are saying.

I'm on the board b/c I've made friends on here through my pregnancy and like to see their babies grow up and connect with them.

I see no problem in asking different questions. I just wouldn't ask people that I don't know on a message board what their doctor thinks. I don't know that person nor do I know their dr. I'm not going to take either opinion into account when making a decision for my child.

I think you need to understand that you may stay on the board just to stay connected with a few select people but a big part of the message board is to ask questions. I personally only have one friend who has a child my age so I like coming here to ask questions and see what other people think. Will I automatically listen to what someone tells me their doc said...no. Will I automatically begin to parent as they suggest...no. But if we ask how you deal with biting? How do you get your LO to sleep? How much is your LO eating? Then why can't someone ask what other people's docs are saying about something. This is a place to just talk and ask questions. I don't think anyone should be made fun of or ridiculed for that.

gingerfamily · May 2010

lpstl:
MarissaLinae:
mrsh0606:

It actually wasn't directed at any one person/post. I see it at least 3-4 time per day.

I understand questioning something, but why not question your doctor about it. And, yep - you shouldn't blindly trust any doctor. But, if your gut is telling you something is wrong with what s/he said I'd be calling another doc.

That's just my two cents though. The same thing happened on the tri boards so I don't see why it would be any different on the baby boards.

Well...I'm not trying to be a Biotch...but why are you on the message board then. I hate when people complain about people asking questions. That is the whole point of this forum!!! While you shouldn't just blindly listen to what another person is saying on the board I see nothing wrong with finding out what other people do think and what their doctors are saying.

OP, did you see the post earlier about the women who was starting her 2 month old on solids because her pedi told her to? According to your logic she should ignore what everyone said here and do it if she trusts her pedi.

Often reaching out to others for support precedes getting a second opinion, it can help you determine better questions to ask your physician and help you find research resources. Sometimes it just helps you realize you're not crazy and gives you that little push to call your dr again, or get a second opinion.

No, I didn't see that. If it were me - I would have questioned the dr on that, but that's just me.

I do get where you are coming from and appreciate your outlook.

IrishBrideND · May 2010

MarissaLinae:
mrsh0606:
MarissaLinae:
mrsh0606:

It actually wasn't directed at any one person/post. I see it at least 3-4 time per day.

I understand questioning something, but why not question your doctor about it. And, yep - you shouldn't blindly trust any doctor. But, if your gut is telling you something is wrong with what s/he said I'd be calling another doc.

That's just my two cents though. The same thing happened on the tri boards so I don't see why it would be any different on the baby boards.

Well...I'm not trying to be a Biotch...but why are you on the message board then. I hate when people complain about people asking questions. That is the whole point of this forum!!! While you shouldn't just blindly listen to what another person is saying on the board I see nothing wrong with finding out what other people do think and what their doctors are saying.

I'm on the board b/c I've made friends on here through my pregnancy and like to see their babies grow up and connect with them.

I see no problem in asking different questions. I just wouldn't ask people that I don't know on a message board what their doctor thinks. I don't know that person nor do I know their dr. I'm not going to take either opinion into account when making a decision for my child.

I think you need to understand that you may stay on the board just to stay connected with a few select people but a big part of the message board is to ask questions. I personally only have one friend who has a child my age so I like coming here to ask questions and see what other people think. Will I automatically listen to what someone tells me their doc said...no. Will I automatically begin to parent as they suggest...no. But if we ask how you deal with biting? How do you get your LO to sleep? How much is your LO eating? Then why can't someone ask what other people's docs are saying about something. This is a place to just talk and ask questions. I don't think anyone should be made fun of or ridiculed for that.

Those are not the type of questions she is talking about, though....did you read the OP?

gingerfamily · May 2010

MarissaLinae:
mrsh0606:
MarissaLinae:
mrsh0606:

It actually wasn't directed at any one person/post. I see it at least 3-4 time per day.

I understand questioning something, but why not question your doctor about it. And, yep - you shouldn't blindly trust any doctor. But, if your gut is telling you something is wrong with what s/he said I'd be calling another doc.

That's just my two cents though. The same thing happened on the tri boards so I don't see why it would be any different on the baby boards.

Well...I'm not trying to be a Biotch...but why are you on the message board then. I hate when people complain about people asking questions. That is the whole point of this forum!!! While you shouldn't just blindly listen to what another person is saying on the board I see nothing wrong with finding out what other people do think and what their doctors are saying.

I'm on the board b/c I've made friends on here through my pregnancy and like to see their babies grow up and connect with them.

I see no problem in asking different questions. I just wouldn't ask people that I don't know on a message board what their doctor thinks. I don't know that person nor do I know their dr. I'm not going to take either opinion into account when making a decision for my child.

I think you need to understand that you may stay on the board just to stay connected with a few select people but a big part of the message board is to ask questions. I personally only have one friend who has a child my age so I like coming here to ask questions and see what other people think. Will I automatically listen to what someone tells me their doc said...no. Will I automatically begin to parent as they suggest...no. But if we ask how you deal with biting? How do you get your LO to sleep? How much is your LO eating? Then why can't someone ask what other people's docs are saying about something. This is a place to just talk and ask questions. I don't think anyone should be made fun of or ridiculed for that.

Oh Jesus. Where exactly did I make fun of or redicule anyone? Get off your high horse, please.

IrishBrideND · May 2010

I will say I'm glad many DO ask though. I'm shocked at how much bad advice some pedi's seem to give. I would have hoped that more were up to date on the latest research.

I love my practice. Each doc specializes in a different area (eating issues, for example) and then they are responsible for learning all the latest research on that topic. they then share the info with the other docs. That way they all stay up to date.

IrishBrideND · May 2010

annecoxrn:
MarissaLinae:

That is the whole point of this forum!!!

This!

really? the WHOLE point of this forum is to ask medical questions? I must have missed that on the description

MarissaLinae · May 2010

mrsh0606:
MarissaLinae:
mrsh0606:
MarissaLinae:
mrsh0606:

It actually wasn't directed at any one person/post. I see it at least 3-4 time per day.

I understand questioning something, but why not question your doctor about it. And, yep - you shouldn't blindly trust any doctor. But, if your gut is telling you something is wrong with what s/he said I'd be calling another doc.

That's just my two cents though. The same thing happened on the tri boards so I don't see why it would be any different on the baby boards.

Well...I'm not trying to be a Biotch...but why are you on the message board then. I hate when people complain about people asking questions. That is the whole point of this forum!!! While you shouldn't just blindly listen to what another person is saying on the board I see nothing wrong with finding out what other people do think and what their doctors are saying.

I'm on the board b/c I've made friends on here through my pregnancy and like to see their babies grow up and connect with them.

I see no problem in asking different questions. I just wouldn't ask people that I don't know on a message board what their doctor thinks. I don't know that person nor do I know their dr. I'm not going to take either opinion into account when making a decision for my child.

I think you need to understand that you may stay on the board just to stay connected with a few select people but a big part of the message board is to ask questions. I personally only have one friend who has a child my age so I like coming here to ask questions and see what other people think. Will I automatically listen to what someone tells me their doc said...no. Will I automatically begin to parent as they suggest...no. But if we ask how you deal with biting? How do you get your LO to sleep? How much is your LO eating? Then why can't someone ask what other people's docs are saying about something. This is a place to just talk and ask questions. I don't think anyone should be made fun of or ridiculed for that.

Oh Jesus. Where exactly did I make fun of or redicule anyone? Get off your high horse, please.

I really didn't mean to come across like that. Sorry if I did.

gingerfamily · May 2010

Irish - that is great about your practice! I wish more were like that!

ChristinaD09 · May 2010

There were many people in my law school I wouldn't trust to represent me. Same concept applies in every profession. There are people who are exceptionally good at what they do, and others who barely scraped through school. I think its good to check up on here as to what other pedis seem to be saying on some topics.

BellaAmor215 · May 2010

there is only one pediatrician practice where i live... and i interviewed all 6 doctors and disliked all of them, their views and the answers to my questions... as of now, shes still at the ped. shes had since she was born before we moved here. its an hour and a half drive... if at some point the drive becomes to inconvenient i may have no other choice but to bring her there... at that point, yes i will be asking peoples opinions on certain issues more than likely. bc i dont trust their opinions. but i will be satisfied with the fact that shes getting all her shots etc. as of now, her doctor is worth the hour and a half drive... but shes only had one appt since moving here, and i hadnt started watching kids at my house yet.. so i guess well see how that goes in a few weeks... when it comes to your childs health, you want to make the right choice. and even if you question the doctor, they may still believe its in your childs best interest to give LO apple juice at 2 months old. but someone else on the boards may have been told something more logical by their ped. thats just my 2 cents

ali_bl-nov05 · May 2010

northhillsbride:
Now, I don't know if you are referring to a specific post but, IMO, I don't see anything wrong with comparing what doctors say regarding reflux, sleeping, etc. I think it's good to hear another perspective and to maybe take that back to your doctor to discuss.

this.

themrs830 · May 2010

lpstl:
MarissaLinae:
mrsh0606:

It actually wasn't directed at any one person/post. I see it at least 3-4 time per day.

I understand questioning something, but why not question your doctor about it. And, yep - you shouldn't blindly trust any doctor. But, if your gut is telling you something is wrong with what s/he said I'd be calling another doc.

That's just my two cents though. The same thing happened on the tri boards so I don't see why it would be any different on the baby boards.

Well...I'm not trying to be a Biotch...but why are you on the message board then. I hate when people complain about people asking questions. That is the whole point of this forum!!! While you shouldn't just blindly listen to what another person is saying on the board I see nothing wrong with finding out what other people do think and what their doctors are saying.

OP, did you see the post earlier about the women who was starting her 2 month old on solids because her pedi told her to? According to your logic she should ignore what everyone said here and do it if she trusts her pedi.

Often reaching out to others for support precedes getting a second opinion, it can help you determine better questions to ask your physician and help you find research resources. Sometimes it just helps you realize you're not crazy and gives you that little push to call your dr again, or get a second opinion.

Agreed. I think people ask here to just kind of bounce ideas off each other. I would hope that on serious issues people would be consulting an actual doctor but sometimes its better to get ideas and advice from people who actually have experience. Just like how doctors say babies should never sleep on their stomach, but most mothers know that some children sleep the best propped up on your chest on their tummies.

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