Pregnant after IF

s/o ultra-sounds

Did your DH go with you for your first u/s?

I am so used to going to the clinic by myself - for all of the monitoring and u/s appointments for IVF.

And honestly, I feel weird when there is another man all up in my business when my DH is there.  It doesn't bother me when I am by myself and the RE is doing his thing.

Or does your DH just try to go to your big u/s?

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  • It is an amazing experience seeing the babies heart beating for the first time, so I highly suggest having your H come with you to your u/s.
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  • my husband is in sales which means his schedule can sometimes be flexible. For all of my IVF monitoring appointments we made them for 7 a.m. so he could go to them with me (even just blood draws!)

    And for the u/s we have been open with his coworkers about our IF struggles (which has been a godsend) and they have shifted their workloads around so he can be with me for the appointments!

    Lucky for us the first one is on a Saturday :)

  • My DH wanted to be present at the first u/s because he was excited to see the baby, too.  Unfortunately due to work he was unable to.  He did make it to the next one and he wants to keep going to as many as he can.  I loved sharing the moment with him and didn't realize how much it would actually mean to him.  It didn't bother me at all that he was in there.  I was covered up and he sat off to the side but was still able to see the monitor so it wasn't like he had front row seat to see the RE doing his thing.
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  • My husband has yet to miss an ultrasound, with the exception of my 8 week scan.  He had to stay home and watch Paige.

    He gets so excited seeing the LOs on the screen. 

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  • My husband has come with me for all of my u/s.  I really thought it was going to be weird to---having another man down there and my husband standing next to me---BUT it really wasn't a big deal.  They aren't really down there but for a second and then you see the u/s and the baby and it is completely amazing. Good Luck. 

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  • williawwilliaw member

    imagekrissyh21:
    It is an amazing experience seeing the babies heart beating for the first time, so I highly suggest having your H come with you to your u/s.

    This. My DH has been to every u/s I've had thus far. He insists on going.


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  • LCB34LCB34 member

    He didn't come to my first b/c it was just a blood work appointment and I wasn't expecting to get one. He didn't come to the next appointment either (where we found out about the trips) due to a work conflict.  Talk about a weird phone call to make "Hey honey, they found an extra baby.  It isn't twins, it triplets, and super risky tripets since we have a set of ID twins."

    He did come to my firsts Peri appointment and comes to every other appointment (so once a month).  I have u/s ever 2 weeks so, he see her on u/s at least once a month.

  • kme930kme930 member

    With the exception of the emergency u/s I had at 7 weeks because of bleeding, my DH has been to all of my ultrasounds. And there were a lot at the beginning, because I had OHSS and my RE wanted my ovaries checked every 3-4 days. My RE had 6:30am appointments, though, so it was easy for us to do that. Oh, and my RE and u/s techs were all women.

    Seeing the heart beat for the first time is pretty amazing - if he can make it, he should, even if it is weird for him and you to have another dude, um, involved. :)

  • DH missed my 1st u/s and 3rd u/s.  He did make it to the 2nd one where we saw a hb for the 1st time!!

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  • my husband went with me to every RE appointment, even just blood draws, after the 1st monitoring of the 1st IVF cycle was such a disaster, he wanted to be there for moral support from then on.

    He comes to all of my OB appointments too.

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  • I have had close to a dozen ultrasounds so far and fortunately my husband has been able to make it to all but one (my doc's office and ultrasound place are only 10 minutes from the husband's work though).  I would definitely recommend having your husband there for the first time because it is so absolutely amazing to see that little heart beating away. 
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  • My DH went to my first us at 5 weeks but we couldn't see much more than the yolk sac, but he couldn't make it to my second us at 7 weeks(the only one he's ever missed) and he totally missed seeing and listening to the heartbeat for the first time. It was the most precious sound ever and he missed it and now has to wait until it's picked up on the doppler because my OB's us isn't as sophisticated as REs. If I were you I'd have DH come so he won't miss any of those precious moments, though if you don't feel comfortable with him being there maybe you should leave him behind. Sorr if this doesn't help much.

    ETA: He has seen the heartbeat since, and it his smile was just priceless, he just hasn't been able to hear it.  

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  • He was at all of my ultrasounds that we had with our RE. Which was all of first tri so I think that was 8 scans. He started a new job when I started with my OB so he has not been able to make any of those, which I have every two weeks.

    It was so great to have him there when we found out we had a UTE baby ( i was high risk for ectopic) and when he heard the heartbeat. My first appointment with the OB at 15 weeks is when they did the antomy scan and it was a bit of a let down not having hime there when we found out Shim was a she.

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    Mine came. He was trying to stay behind the curtain but once the screen came on he came out and didn't care whose hand was where!
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  • DH went to 6 week and 8 week u/s at RE. He wasn't able to make it to the one I had at my first OB appt; and unable to come to the NT scan, but he will be there for the 18 week one.
  • DH came to my first u/s (at 5 weeks). Of course there was nothing to see. I think he will want to go to all these appointments.
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  • mh went with me to all my u/s at my re. but that was more because he only went to the first one our first time around and i went by myself for the 2nd and 3rd, and the 3rd there was no heartbeat. so i was terrified of going by myself.
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  • My husband only went to my emergency u/s at 8 weeks (bleeding).  He had to drive me.  

    He is planning on attending the "big one" in a month or so, but he has to take off work to do so.   

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  • My DH has come to every single RE appt I have ever had with the exception of 2. We are lucky that he has flexibility with his job.
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    dh goes to every u/s where we get to see the baby.  it's such an amazing experience to both hold hands while you watch your baby.  awesome!
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  • I went by myself to the first one because it was an emergency appointment and DH couldn't get out of work. I had 2 more - one at my 7 week with the RE and another emergency one when I was bleeding. He was at those two. I didn't have another until 18 weeks, which he came to as well. As far as I know, I won't get any more. 
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  • dh went to all our u/s...he loves seeing the little one and the growth each time.  Its great to see their faces too because for them it becomes more real i think each time they see the baby
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    1/25/16- BFP  Beta1 12dpo = 17, Beta 2 14 dpo = 28.. resulted in one beautiful boy born 9/21/16 :)

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  • My DH was there when we saw the h/b for the first time. It was an amazing moment for us both.
  • MH went to all my u/s and I am so glad he did.  It was so amazing for both of us to see the babies every week. 

    After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
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    MH went to all my u/s and I am so glad he did.  It was so amazing for both of us to see the babies every week. 

    ditto this!

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