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Am I asking too much?

msnehzmsnehz member
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So MIL will be looking after our daughter starting mid-June for about 3-3.5 hours everyday during the day. Hubby has to leave for work at 11:30 and I get home at 2:30 - 3:00p. MIL talks about bringing LO to visit friends, family etc.  I don't really like the idea of her dragging LO around to visit people and/or run errands.  On top of worrying about car/road safety, there's an added concern of MIL's health while driving since she wears a pacemaker.  I like knowing that LO is in one place (besides walk to the park, etc) while we're both at work.  Am I being overly paranoid as a first time mom?  How do I even approach her to say that I think its safer for LO not to be driven around?

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Re: Am I asking too much?

  • kelmchickkelmchick
    I feel the same way.  Especially since its for such a short time during the day. 
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  • umsldispatcherumsldispatcher
    there is no reason she needs to be running all over the place she doesnt have her all day long, its 3 hours! I would tell her that you dont feel comfortable with her being taken everywhere
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  • myonetruelovemyonetruelove member

    I'm the same way and they have DS for 10hrs! I just don't like DS being a show piece. We don't drag him around to see people and I wouldn't expect anyone else to.

    I'm an overprotective parent. Embarrassed

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  • krystal0707krystal0707 member
    I don't think it is unreasonable.  I asked my mom (who watches DS 2 days a week) that she not run errands with LO.  It seems like with the times that she is going to have your LO, she could do her errands at other times.  Would it be better for DH to approach the subject with her?  Have you voiced your concerns to him?
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  • BethD76BethD76
    My MIL wants to do the same thing when she keeps him. DH isn't comfortable with her driving either. She slams on the brakes if someone passes her! Pulls out in front of people etc... He won't say anything though.
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  • melknee78melknee78 member

    I don't know your MIL's specific health issues but I think that you might be asking a little too much.  Basically you are saying that Monday-Friday from 11:30-3 she can't do anything (visit/have lunch with friends) because you don't want her taking your child anywhere.  If I had returned to work and my parents were watching my child, I would not have felt it was right to mandate that they have to stop their life to keep DD.  

    I think that you should do what makes you feel right as this is your child but I also think you should rethink it. 

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  • kimilanekimilane
    imagemelknee78:

    I don't know your MIL's specific health issues but I think that you might be asking a little too much.  Basically you are saying that Monday-Friday from 11:30-3 she can't do anything (visit/have lunch with friends) because you don't want her taking your child anywhere.  If I had returned to work and my parents were watching my child, I would not have felt it was right to mandate that they have to stop their life to keep DD.  

    I think that you should do what makes you feel right as this is your child but I also think you should rethink it. 

    This exactly. She's a grandmother. She's supposed to want to show your grandchild off! It's practically in their job description. lol

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