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December 2010 Moms
LittleDucky
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TTCAL January 2015 Siggy Challenge: Animals in the snow
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Poll: Who will you have in the delivery room?
LittleDucky
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I know it is way early for this and a bunch of us could change our minds between now and then, but CHW's post about her FIL wanting to come to an u/s appointment got me thinking.
Who do you think you will be having in the delivery room? I mean when the baby actually comes out. Not during the hours of early labor.
I think I'll be fine with my parents and ILs hanging out during early labor, as long as I'm all covered up when they are there and not in too much pain (I don't like people seeing me in pain). But when it comes time to actually have the baby, everyone other than DH and the medical team will be kicked out and sent to the waiting room! At my hospital I'm only allowed 3 visitors at a time (plus DH or "support person" for people who aren't married), so to prevent people from feeling bad, we'll kick everybody out.
Once the baby is born we can have five visitors at a time during visiting hours and one VIP who can stay all the time, so my parents and the ILs will be allowed back then.
Married to DH since 6/30/2007
Me: 32 DH: 32
BFP #1: 4/1/2010 DS born: 12/3/10
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Me: 32 DH: 32
BFP #1: 4/1/2010 DS born: 12/3/10
TTC #2 since 5/2014
BFP # 2 : 6/16/14 EDD: 2/25/15 Missed Miscarriage discovered 7/10/14 D&C 7/17/14 Pathology results normal
BFP #3: 10/21/14 EDD: 7/6/15 11/24/14: Saw heartbeat!
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TTCAL January 2015 Siggy Challenge: Animals in the snow
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Re: Poll: Who will you have in the delivery room?
I will have my H and my mom with me for sure.
If I'm allowed to have more than 2 I would like my sister there but she will have an 8 week old so I'm not sure if that will work out. She's an LPN so I know get a kick out of seeing delivery and I would feel better since we have all our appointments together leading up to that day.
We'll only have people hanging out in early labor IF I get bored and need entertainment.
But, for the pushing, only DH--unless I crack at the last minute and want my mommy! I've told him that if I decide in the moment that I want my mommy, he'd better go get her!
DH.
That's it.
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I was thinking about posting this question too.
DH and my mom will be in the room. We've aleady decided that we're only going to tell our parents when I go into labor and only those two will be in the room. I know there will be hurt feelings if some of my family knows ahead of time that they will not be in the room but I figure they can't be mad after they see the cute little baby. DH originally wanted his mom in there too and I kind of said, too bad, she should've had a girl then.
I don't want my parents or IL's in the room. DH will be there. I would also like to have a photographer to take pictures immediately after the birth. Not the actual birth - who wants to look at photos of that?!? I want pictures of us holding our LO for the first time, him/her being weighed, etc.
I am a photojournalist, so capturing those moments are super important to me. It is equally important that DH not feel obligated to fiddle with a camera. I want him to experience the first minutes of LO's life, not have to photograph them.
I have a friend in mind who used to work at a local paper. However with a christmas due date I am going to be hard pressed to find someone who doesn't celebrate christmas who will be on standby for when I go into labor. Quite the dilemma...
DH and medical staff only for when the baby comes out.
I am hoping to have a natural delivery...so it really depends on how I am feeling as to if I will allow other family in during early labor (mom, sister).
I know MIL is not going to be happy when we tell her she doesn't get to be in the delivery room. I'm pretty close with my MIL, but not close enough to want her there when I'm squeezing the baby out! I don't even want my own mom there.
My motto is that if you weren't there when the baby got put in there, you aren't there when the baby comes out. Therefore DH is allowed but no one else (exceptions made for doctors and nurses of course).
Me: 32 DH: 32
BFP #1: 4/1/2010 DS born: 12/3/10
TTC #2 since 5/2014
BFP # 2 : 6/16/14 EDD: 2/25/15 Missed Miscarriage discovered 7/10/14 D&C 7/17/14 Pathology results normal
BFP #3: 10/21/14 EDD: 7/6/15 11/24/14: Saw heartbeat!
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Fortunately, Im allowed to have a ticker tape parade if I want to, haha!
I plan to have DH, MIL, my mom, and my best friend there.
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I love this. That articulates my thoughts on this subject perfectly!
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To me, that's actually not a bad idea. Fortunately, one of H's best friends is also a NICU nurse (and has been to her fair share of deliveries too) but does amazing photography on the side. She did our wedding as well. And with her, I'd perfectly comfortable having her in there.
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If you traded MIL with me for one day, you would change your mind
It'll just be me and DH (and whatever medical staff).
I wouldn't have minded my mum or sister, but DH was dead against it, and as we live in another country, it wasn't possible. THis time, we'll be lucky to get them in town to look after DS, so definitely not in the delivery room!
I've been thinking about this lately. I like my MIL and she is great and supports everything we do but I think I just want my parents and H in there. I know it's not common for the dad of the mom to be in the delivery room, but I want to include my dad. (It really depends on how many people they allow when I'm in labor, if they only allow the normal 2, then I'll have my mom and H)
I've told H I'm not sure if I want his mom in there. I know she will be upset because with her other DIL she got to see atleast two of them being born, I'm talking she was all up in the SIL's goods. NMS and with H's sister, she had c-section for both kids and MIL was sad she didn't get to see the birth of the babies.
I sometimes feel like I'm being a biotch when I think that I don't want MIL in there, cause she should be able to see her grandchild enter the world since my parents get to, but she already has 5 grandkids and this will be my parents FIRST!
Ditto for me. We've already starting sharing our plans so that there are no surprises or hurt feelings. MIL was present for SILs baby last year and was a total PITA according to SIL. I will not be repeating that. We've also decided that we are not telling the GPs until the baby is born and we feel ready for a short visit. We will not be having a parade or handing out baby favors in the hospital. We want that bonding time with our LO.
My motto is that if you weren't there when the baby got put in there, you aren't there when the baby comes out.
AMEN, sister! Medical staff of course, whomever they need to get the baby out and build me a new vajay if I need it.
If it is a super long day and DH wants his brother to come keep him company in the waiting room while I'm sleeping that is up to him. He did that for his brother when SIL was delivering. She was in labor like 2 days, bless her HEART!
DH of course and either my sister or DH's stepmom. Everyone else can see me before as long as I'm not irritated or in pain.
Nope, me too! I love my MIL. Not to mention that she's a nurse and does a great job of calming down DH, who tends to become a PITA when I'm sick/hurt because he's so worried. Our actual delivery will be me, DH, my mom, and MIL.
As of right now, I only want DH in the room during delivery (and of course, doctors/nurses/etc).
I'm ok with family and my BFF being there for everything prior, but when the time comes, I want it just to be us. We live across the country from all of our family, so we're not even sure who will be there for the birth yet.
My mom has 'hinted' to me several times that she would like to be in the delivery room. I don't mind; she's not emotional so I know she won't be crying or worried about me, I think she'd actually be a good coach. DH has told me he'd prefer to have her there since he is nervous and freaked out by the whole thing (he can't even watch himself get a shot LOL) and wants to have someone there for his own support as well.
I would be ok with having my MIL in the room but she lives far away, so that would only happen if I am in labor for a long time. I don't know if she'd even feel comfortable being in there but I wouldn't mind it.
Only DH and the medical staff during the actual labor part.