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When and how would you tell?

SgtLuxbrideSgtLuxbride
in January 2011 Moms
I am 5w2d and my brother and sister in law are having their second child in 2 weeks.  I wanted to wait till my fist appointment to tell anyone, though this puts us one week after they have my new niece, we would be anouncing we are pregnant with our first.  I want to be sensitive to my sister in law (who would care more than my brother) and make sure I don't take from their excitment but I don't know how long I can wait!  Should I tell them before or should I wait longer?  Also how should I tell?  Everyone will be here to see their new little one and staying at my house, how will I keep it a secret?
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Re: When and how would you tell?

  • w.leew.lee
    If you dont want to wait that long to tell i would say do it before.(if you feel comfortable)  I dont know how your sister in law would feel but if you think she would feel like her joy is being taken away then you wouldn't want to do it right after. But mostly remember to do it when you think the time is best... I think a good way to tell them would be to get a shirt or something for your brothers baby saying he/she is going to have a cousin!
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  • ginger01604ginger01604

    I agree do it when you think it was best.

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  • TrickyLittleMinxTrickyLittleMinx
    My SIL just annoucned her second pregnancy on the weekend.. DH wanted to tell his family then, but i said definately not... I am only 5 weeks along.. Plus i didnt want to steal her thunder.. So Im thinking 3 more weeks and we will probably tell them. I dont know how, but i will think of something creative.. My mom already suspects it she keeps "needling" asking me whens the last time you got AF.. etc etc.. oh mother..
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  • sandylousandylou member
    That's very nice of you to be sensitive to their feelings. I agree with PP that you should do it when you feel it's best, although I think before would be most appropriate if you think your SIL might be upset. GL!
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  • maleigh101maleigh101 member
    I understand not announcing it while your SIL is on the hospital bed giving birth but 2 weeks later why not? Why can't people be excited about the new baby and you being pregnant. IMO your SIL is going to have too much on her hands to worry about getting upset over your news.
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  • atdownsatdowns

    After a couple of weeks i'm sure you'll eb fien to tell. but if you want to be extra suer not to offend sit down and have a quiet moment with the new mommy and tell her first, sort of a sisterhood secret. maybe you could even get them in on telling everyone else.. like get their baby a little onesie that says "I've got a playmate on the way" or just get her blessing to share your great news and let her know you're not wanting to steal her thunder, just get your own booms in aswell. your miracle is no less significant than hers, and i'm sure your family will have plenty of excitement to go around :)


    my dad and step mom just adopted a baby (long iritating story LOL) so I got my new lil sis a shirt that says "world's cutest Aunt" to put on her at our family pool party memorial day. ?a good way to include her and not over shadow them, but share my joy too!

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