Adoption is not a dirty word - a vent
We are open with Lil J about his situation in an age appropriate way. He knows he has two moms, he knows that right now his mom can't take good care of him, we talk about his "arrival day", we talk about what it means to be adopted, etc, etc
We never wanted it to be a "let's talk' type of thing. We want he to always know.
Of course as he gets older, we will share more details. But, he is too young for the details now.
Well it happens all the time that if we are talking about adoption (in general or specific to Lil J) and he is in earshot the person will always wisper or just mouth "adoption".
I can understand this for people that really don't know me, since they don't know how much we tell him. But, this is also for people that we are close to - like my mom. Plus, it is in situations where I say the word out loud before they do.
I respond by saying, "oh, adoption is not a dirty word - Lil J knows what it means, etc, etc" but, they still do it.
Sorry, for the rambling vent - just annoys me
Re: Adoption is not a dirty word - a vent
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THIS exactly!
We are very open, why do people feel the need to hide things?
This reminds me of Brighton Beach Memoirs, where the older women would whisper, "cancer," etc. Maybe it is a generational thing?
I think it's great that you are open about it and don't talk about it as if it's a secret or a shameful thing. That will go a long way to making your LO feel confident about his story.
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as a kid, I always though the whisper = greater ephasis.
I mean, I can ignore adult boring conversation--but not when it's whispered, then my wee ears perk up and I need to know!