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Anyone AMA and have unplanned pg

tlcondontlcondon
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My name is Traci and I am 37. I am pregnant with #2. My DD is 6yo. My DH has two, DS is 14 and DD is 12. This is our first pg together and it was not planned at all. I had had mess up with my BCP and my mother passed away, so I was not thinking about getting my BCP refilled at that time, well here we are, expecting.  We had talked about having kids in the past, but it just wasnt the right time and I was getting older. My DH is 35. I am nervous and am having a hard time getting all excited about this pg. My DD was completely planned. I just dont know if I am ready for this. Anyone else in the same boat?
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Re: Anyone AMA and have unplanned pg

  • erbarmywifeerbarmywife member
    This one was unplanned, for a few reasons.  We had planned the other 2, but then the 3rd (that was also unplanned) ended in a MC, we had decided to wait a few months to try again.  I wanted to lose weight from baby #2.  Well, I was shocked to find out I was pregnant again, and then stunned to find out it was twins.  I still worried all the time that something will happen to them, so I am also finding it hard to get too excited.  That, and I'm worried about how I'm going to deal with going from 2 kids to 4 in one pregnancy.  How will I handle a 3yo, a 20mo and 2 newborns all at once?????
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  • pipergirlzpipergirlz

    I'm giggling to myself...yes!! Mine was totally unplanned! I am turning 39 on Monday! I have four children : 16 yo, 14yo, 11 1/2 yo, and a 10 yo. My husband got a vasectomy back in 2000. It's now 10 years later and I'm pregnant again!

    Hang in there. You'll come around eventually.

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  • Connys1976Connys1976
    Mine was not planned as well. This will be mine and DH's 1st child together I have an almost 12 year old girl. We had talked about having kids but due to medications I am on this wasnt suposed to happen. DH is 37 and I will be 34 when this little one is born. I been worried about so many things (from my meds to money matters) that I am having a hard time being excited. But none the less this little one is wanted now and will be very much loved :) and ready or not he/or she is on its way Big Smile.
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  • monica_gerydmonica_geryd member
    imagepipergirlz:

    I'm giggling to myself...yes!! Mine was totally unplanned! I am turning 39 on Monday! I have four children : 16 yo, 14yo, 11 1/2 yo, and a 10 yo. My husband got a vasectomy back in 2000. It's now 10 years later and I'm pregnant again!

    Hang in there. You'll come around eventually.

    Holy Crap! How does that happen?!??! I mean, I know they're not 100% - but still! Haha - so much for my plan of doing that when we're done... lol! Talk about Meant To Be!!! =) Congrats!

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  • Emjay221Emjay221 member
    AMA?
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  • tlcondontlcondon
    thank you.. this pg is hard already with Mom not around to experience it with me. I found out I was pg 2 weeks after she passed away. It was such a shock, just after losing her (she was only 61) and now being pregnant. She was such a part of my first pregnancy. But I do have a wonderful MIL and a wonderful Aunt (moms sister) who are stepping right on in.
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  • kscarlett5683kscarlett5683

    imagetlcondon:
    thank you.. this pg is hard already with Mom not around to experience it with me. I found out I was pg 2 weeks after she passed away. It was such a shock, just after losing her (she was only 61) and now being pregnant. She was such a part of my first pregnancy. But I do have a wonderful MIL and a wonderful Aunt (moms sister) who are stepping right on in.

    ::comes from lurking::

    My mom was young too when she passed away a while back. She never even knew I got married and wasn't around for my pregnancy and the birth of DD. I won't lie to you--- even after all these years, it is still hard and Mother's Day was very bittersweet to me. (Its even hard for me to write this, quite honestly)

    I definitely utlize my MIL who is wonderful as well and my Godmother, whom I love very much. It helps lessen the pain some.

    If you need any kind of support, feel free to PM me. You may find that there are these "odd times" (I call them that) that you will miss your mom -- it could be a commercial, a comment someone makes, a smell, your baby's movement -- anything. Don't let anyone tell you that you are being ridiculous - its a natural grieving process.

    I will tell you that my understanding of my mother has increased tremendously since the birth of my child, and in many ways that makes me feel closer to her. And I do talk about her with DD, even though she is very young.

    T&P to you. Right Hug 

     

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  • 320days320days
    Oh my! That's crazy! Smile I love that you can giggle about it!
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