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WWYD?(LONG!)
This is going to be kind of wordy, and probably not many people will care too much, but if I could just get one good, solid opinion from a stranger, it just might help.
I didn't graduate from college very long ago. My husband graduated a year before me, and worked at a home improvement store in my college town until I was done. Anyway, when I graduated, my state and the 2 states next to it were on a hiring freeze for my position. Long story short, the ONLY job in both my field, and seemingly my dream job, was located in Florida. So, we moved from PA where my entire family is, to Florida in December. Don't get me wrong, I don't really regret moving here. It has taught us independence and to also be dependent on each other and not our families.
Anyway, fast forward to now, I have been in this job for 6 months. Again, long story short, it is not my dream job, or even an enjoyable one. Granted, it is with the population I love, and in a setting I like, but the place is just too big, and too poorly run. Colleagues are at each other's throats constantly, in front of families and residents, and basically my boss is the biggest micro-manager you could imagine. DAILY we all get called into her office for nit-picking. It doesn't matter how hard I try, or how many hours I stay late, nothing is right. I am, however, very thankful that I have a job at all, don't get me wrong. I just don't want to be this miserable forever.
My quandry comes in with the TTC. DH and I are actively trying. I was just picked up through my employer's insurance, and DH is on my plan, as well. His job does not offer benefits. So, my dilemma is, I HATE my job. Literally, I come home crying most days and am so stressed it's causing health problems. But, would you leave now, or wait until you've had a baby? I'm so scared that I will either wait too long and be halfway through a pregnancy before I realize I just can't take it anymore, or I will resign and go elsewhere, just to get pregnant before the new insurance takes over. I just don't know. Heck, I could NOT get pregnant and it might not even be an issue, but you just never know.
Anyone going through something similar or care to share some advice? I don't have many people to vent to about this, as most of our new friends in this new place are from my place of employment or closely related to it.
Thanks to those of you who made it this far and put up with my ridiculous post.
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Re: WWYD?(LONG!)
I would start looking for a new job. Since husband's job doesn't offer benefits, I would not resign until I have something else lined up.
**TTC since 10/2009** **BFP 4/15/12- Dx Molar Pregnancy- Surgery 5/15/12 & 5/22/12** **BFP 1/23/14- 1st Beta (1/24/14) 171 2nd Beta (1/28/14) 860**
I was in a similar position last year but I didn't have to move states away.
I think life is too short to be miserable. You need to do what you need to do in order to be happy, whatever that entails. Whether it be moving, getting another job, etc.
TTC alone is stressful, it will undoubtedly just add to the stress you already have.
No matter what happens, it will all work out, you just have to have faith and entrust that God will provide....in one way or another...
Complete surprise!
DD born 09/17/2012
TTC since November 2008
3 rounds of Clomid = Fail
1 round of injectables + IUI converted to IVF = cancelled
1 year break to ease my mind and body = KU!
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This.
I'm so sorry you're stuck in a job that's so stressful. Normally, I'd say just leave, but since you're TTC, I might try and find another position with benefits first. Or at least look into what it would cost to get private insurance and if you could live off one salary if need be.
Good luck!!
m/c 6/10
Thank you. I needed to be reminded of that today.
I would start looking for another job and if you find one you can reevaluate TTC and if you get PG you can alter your career plans accordingly if needed.
My major advice to you, do not waste time in a position that you are unhappy at. It could pollute your talents, put strain on your marriage, damage your marketability to other employers. If you are unhappy, start looking.
BFP 3/17/10 Missed M/C Confirmed 4/12/10
MIF+Unexplained DX Feb 2012: Femara+Trigger+IUI=BFP
I am sorry you are going though this.
I would suggest you look for another job! Being that unhappy is not healthy. Especially if it is causing health problems. Think about if you did stay there and you were that unhappy when you got pregnant.
I hope you find a new job soon!
I agree with the prior posters, you should look for another job, and keep your job while you look to hold on to the health benefits. The good news is that I am guessing you aren't tied to living in FL as you were tied to living in PA, so your job search may be over a very broad area.
In the mean time - because I completely understand that it is easy for people to tell you to stick it out while you look, but a completely different thing to wake up every morning to go spend 8+ hours at a job you HATE. Not an easy thing to do. My advice to deal with that would be to change your mindset. You are there to use them for their benefits. Go in, give it your all, and go home. Leave it at the office. Focus on the fact that you are doing your best, and that is all you can do. Your priority now is the family you are working to create, and in order to do that you cannot allow your job to have you all tied up in knots.
So obviously this is much easier said than done, but when your alarm goes off & you need motivation to get up, just remember those health benefits & that those benefits will help get you the family you are working for and dreaming about. When the boss is giving you a hard time, just know that you are giving 100% and that is all you can do.
This exactly!