- Pregnancy
- Baby & Toddler
- Parents
- Getting Pregnant
- Baby Names
- Product Reviews
-
Registry
- Community
-
More
Want a personalized experience?
Download the free app
January 2011 Moms
i know its early
but i am already having the Christmas dilemma! You see, DH is in the Navy and we are stationed here in Fort Worth. My family is in Houston (4 1/2 hrs) his family is in Minnesota (16 hours)! Minnesota is already totally out of the question! However, I am wondering if my family should be too. They plan things so early in advance because they are psychotic and fight about who is having what where! I know I shouldn't be concerned yet but it keeps my mind off of other BAD thoughts! I know I will go down for Thanksgiving, my mom and i have a tradition of Black Friday shopping and I CANT miss it lol!
So my ? is what would you ladies do at 8 months pregnant? Spend a nice quiet Christmas just you and Dh or brave the 5 hour drive??
Warning
No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
This discussion has been closed.
Re: i know its early
If you're doctor says it's ok, then I might make the drive. Although it's hard to tell how you are going to feel this far in advance. If a nice, quiet Christmas sounds just as good to you, then maybe stay at home to be safe, if you have to plan this far ahead. How far along will you be at Christmas?
ETA: I basically just told you to do both
~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
[spoiler]
I would make it clear to the family that it is touch and go. If you want to go, then let them know that you would love to as long as everything works out alright. IF your doctor Ok's it, IF you are feeling up to it, etc. You may get to that date and find it impossible. It also makes it so that your family can't make you feel to bad if you aren't feeling up to it (mine totally would!). That way you can keep your options open and you don't have to make any decisions yet! Minimize the stress by letting them know you won't be bringing anything (food wise).
Just keep your options open so you minimize stress!
Eeew. You will definitely have to pull the "I'm too pregnant for this" card.
ugh i know that feeling! I get sick and massive headaches everytime we are at MIL's house! they smoke constantly! that is going to be a fight when we go up in September... we are staying with his brother because i refuse to stay there with baby in belly!
Are you kidding? I'm playing that card NOW. I envision many fights about this, but I'm standing my ground. I won't be going to her house while I'm pregnant. She can come over to see us (she knows she's not allowed to smoke in our apartment) or we can go out to lunch or whatever, but i won't be in her house right now.
~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
[spoiler]
We're in a similar situation, as DH's family is 5 hours away and mine is 8 hours away.
Since I'll be 37 weeks at Christmas, we're definitely not traveling. Instead, we're going to spend the holidays at home.
We haven't decided for sure yet, but we may also extend an invitation to our families to travel and see us for a long weekend. Not sure if they'll go for it considering that they'll come after the baby is born, but we'll likely make the ask since we're sure to miss our families during the holidays.
I'd be interested to hear what you decide since we're still kicking around our options as well.
So, I sort of have a pass on this delima because I'm considered high risk and am not to do any major traveling after 21 weeks, but my doctor told me he doesn't suggest traveling to anyone regardless if they are high risk or not after 28 weeks. If you are in a car or plane for a long time without moving in increases your risk of DVT or other types of clots.
I personally think the drive would be miserable for you at 8 mo. preggers. You'd have to stop all the time to pee and you'd be stuck in the seat most of the ride. I say just tell everyone you are staying home for a stress free holiday and would appreciate it if they understood. Especially since you are going down for Thanksgiving.
I have the same situation my mom lives 5 hrs away too but I'm staying put and inviting them to my house if I'm not working. I can't remeber what I did when I was pg with DS. I would do Thanksgiving and of course Black Friday (I never miss it either its a must!). But for Christmas I would stay home and maybe invite your family to come to you. If they can't make it for Christmas Day why not invite them over New Years. I am a nurse and my parents also work in heathcare plus the 5 hr distance often makes being together on Christmas impossible. So we've celebrated Christmas over New Years a bunch of times. GL!
This is going to sound so bad, but we planned our TTC with the fact that if it happened within the first four months or so, we would have an excuse not to travel anywhere for the holidays. My parents only live 15 minutes from us, but my in-laws are a 3 hour plane ride. My insurance will not pay for delivery out of area within a month of delivery date. So...not leaving my area
If people want to come to us, that's fine. Not that we have room for his family at our little house--he has four sisters, plus his parents, us and our dog...they can come to us and stay in a hotel
We usually stay home for Christmas, so this is not an issue for us.
For the first few years we were dating/ married, we would drive all over the place to see all our relatives, and we would try to split between our families (2 hours apart) Christmas Eve with one fam and Christmas Day with the other. It was CRAZY!!
We agreed that once we had kids, Christmas would be at home, but we travel for other holidays. I think I am going to pull the "i'm too pregnant" card for Thanksgiving!!!!