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redshoegirl
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rolling my eyes
redshoegirl
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So I'm reading a book about baby sleep methods that a friend loaned me. There's a special section for multiples, which is why she thought it might be useful. And there IS some useful info, but I actually started laughing out loud when I got to the section about nighttime feedings: the author states that if you have more than one baby, you shouldn't feed them at the same time (i.e., waking the one that's still asleep so that they're on the same feeding schedule), because "it isn't fair to the baby," then breezily adds that "it might be a little harder [on you]."
This is clearly someone who doesn't actually have multiples of her own, because you know what really wouldn't be fair to the baby? Having a mother who was on the verge of a psychotic breakdown because she had gotten literally no sleep since she had to feed babies on opposite schedules. *shaking my head*
I'm discovering that one of the weird things about having twins is that everyone has an opinion about how you should do things with them, even more so than usual with babies. It's really odd, especially considering that most people don't have any practical experience with them (and amusingly, the parents of multiples that I do know only ever offer one piece of advice: hang in there and do whatever you need to in order to survive - it will get easier).
Have you gotten any "helpful" baby advice that made you roll your eyes?
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Re: rolling my eyes
I think this is the best advice for all parents. As long as you're not harming your child, do what you have to do and do what works for you and your baby.
Oh yeah...I can only imagine that it's worse with multiples.
The latest eye-rolling advice I've gotten?
"Even if she wakes in the night to feed, don't feed her, she has to learn she can wait."
or
"You should start her on rice cereal, give it to her at night, that way she won't wake up to feed."
Um, yeah. Libby's 4 months old and EBF. She's gonna wake up every 3-4 hours to feed because that's NORMAL. And we bedshare so I barely wake up anyway. I think I've gotten this advice because the people giving it might be uncomfortable with the fact that we bedshare. Whatev. We're not uncomfotable, so why should they be? They're not in our bed. *sigh*
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Our friend with twin boys mentioned that the most important thing she learned was to put both babies on the same schedule as soon as possible...but that she only found that out a few months after the twins were born when someone mentioned it to her.
She said that in the beginning, she took care of one baby while her husband took care of the other.
We haven't gotten any BSC advice yet...
OMG I don't know how she survived that long! I really don't - I think I'd have lost my mind by now if we didn't have them on the same schedule from day one!