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Screw you, BH&G magazine!

StephanieDMStephanieDM member
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Check out this little gem of an article from Better Homes & Gardens magazine:

The 10 Commandments of Dining with Little Kids

"THOU SHALT NOT BREAST FEED AT THE TABLE
Yes, I have seen table-side breast feeding at a four-star restaurant. If at all possible, take it to the ladies room. (Note: most upscale restaurants have really nice restrooms!)"

Seriously?! Angry I won't be buying their magazine, cookbooks, etc. anymore. 
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  • AllieJeanAllieJean
    I will never go sit in a smelly public bathroom to breastfeed. Sorry, it just isnt going to happen.
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  • June2007June2007 member
    WTF... I BFed in returants all the time with DD. I believe in covering up though so its not like anyone really knew if she was just sleeping or eating but the second someone else wants to take their food and eat it next someone taking a dump I'll consider the bathroom a place to eat, until then BH&G can GTH.
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  • ntyravgmomntyravgmom
    What?! When my cousin started breastfeeding and she got comments from people asking her to go to the restroom, she responded with something that I really like and will be saying to rude people. "I don't eat in the restroom, so why would I feed my baby in there?"
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  • hmkollerhmkoller
    wow. how insane?! seriously.. i'm with you on never buying anything of theirs ever again. that is just RIDICULOUS. how could the editor let that one slip?
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  • BlueRidgeMamaBlueRidgeMama member
    WOW, that is the worst. Will never look at their products again.
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  • ames71ames71 member

    I just skimmed the article and I really don't disagree with any of their points. I managed a fine-dining restaurant for years and more often than not people who dined with small kids and babies were oblivious of the fact that they weren't the only people in the restaurant.

    As far as breast-feeding at the table, if I'm in a restaurant and my baby needs to be fed, I have no problem going into the ladies room to do so. I don't feel like I should make other diners uncomfortable simply because I don't want to get up or because I want to prove some point. 

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  • RitaT22RitaT22 member
    imageames17:

    I just skimmed the article and I really don't disagree with any of their points. I managed a fine-dining restaurant for years and more often than not people who dined with small kids and babies were oblivious of the fact that they weren't the only people in the restaurant.

    As far as breast-feeding at the table, if I'm in a restaurant and my baby needs to be fed, I have no problem going into the ladies room to do so. I don't feel like I should make other diners uncomfortable simply because I don't want to get up or because I want to prove some point. 

    I have to agree with this. If I'm not comfortable breastfeeding in front of friends and family, I KNOW I won't be comfortable doing it in a restaurant.

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  • stephanieroyerstephanieroyer
    imagentyravgmom:
    What?! When my cousin started breastfeeding and she got comments from people asking her to go to the restroom, she responded with something that I really like and will be saying to rude people. "I don't eat in the restroom, so why would I feed my baby in there?"


    This! why should my child need to eat in the bathroom, and me disrupt my meal because people dont like that im breastfeeding? i'll be feeding in restaraunts if my child is hungry when we are out, and will have no problem doing it.
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  • StephanieDMStephanieDM member
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    imageames17:

    I just skimmed the article and I really don't disagree with any of their points. I managed a fine-dining restaurant for years and more often than not people who dined with small kids and babies were oblivious of the fact that they weren't the only people in the restaurant.

    As far as breast-feeding at the table, if I'm in a restaurant and my baby needs to be fed, I have no problem going into the ladies room to do so. I don't feel like I should make other diners uncomfortable simply because I don't want to get up or because I want to prove some point. 

    I have to agree with this. If I'm not comfortable breastfeeding in front of friends and family, I KNOW I won't be comfortable doing it in a restaurant.

    I plan on BFing and I will NIP if we're out and she needs to be fed. Its not about making a point and I could care less if others are uncomfortable. They shouldn't be staring in the first place! If done discreetly, its hard to tell whats going on. I'm not going to whip my boob out and plop it on the table, I will cover up because I don't want people staring at my boobs. I will not feel ashamed for BFing my child when she needs to be fed. Same with when I have family over... no one will SEE my boob, it will be covered, but I'm not going to go hide somewhere every time LO needs to be fed. 

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  • greenmishpachagreenmishpacha
    Most of the time when we go out we find places that are child friendly. If they are not we call and ask ahead when they are the slowest so we don't feel bad about a crying or active child. (active ie. the pasta missed the mouth and hit the floor.) We always tend to tip more if there is a big mess and we try our best to clean up what we can. As for breast feeding as long as you cover up there shouldn't be a problem! If someone were to say anything to me I would end up asking the manager for another server or for the number to the health inspector and channel six news. I don't have a problem going into a 'sitting room' and breast feeding but there HAS to be proper seating and nowhere near a sink and or toilet. 
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    Oh by the way... DH stated that most people wouldn't even feed their dog in the bathroom!
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  • AllieJeanAllieJean

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    Most of the time when we go out we find places that are child friendly. If they are not we call and ask ahead when they are the slowest so we don't feel bad about a crying or active child. (active ie. the pasta missed the mouth and hit the floor.) We always tend to tip more if there is a big mess and we try our best to clean up what we can. As for breast feeding as long as you cover up there shouldn't be a problem! If someone were to say anything to me I would end up asking the manager for another server or for the number to the health inspector and channel six news. I don't have a problem going into a 'sitting room' and breast feeding but there HAS to be proper seating and nowhere near a sink and or toilet. 

    I love this and will have to remember it!

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  • StephanieDMStephanieDM member

    imagegreenmishpacha:
    Oh by the way... DH stated that most people wouldn't even feed their dog in the bathroom!

    Yes Your DH is right! I don't care if the bathroom is recently cleaned or a "nice" bathroom (as the article refers to)... I wouldn't eat my lunch in there so I'm not going to feed LO there either! 

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  • Bride2bMOBride2bMO member
    imageames17:

    I just skimmed the article and I really don't disagree with any of their points. I managed a fine-dining restaurant for years and more often than not people who dined with small kids and babies were oblivious of the fact that they weren't the only people in the restaurant.

    As far as breast-feeding at the table, if I'm in a restaurant and my baby needs to be fed, I have no problem going into the ladies room to do so. I don't feel like I should make other diners uncomfortable simply because I don't want to get up or because I want to prove some point. 

    I have a feeling this may change once you actually have a baby to breastfeed. You just font understand until you're there.
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  • ames71ames71 member
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    imageames17:

    I just skimmed the article and I really don't disagree with any of their points. I managed a fine-dining restaurant for years and more often than not people who dined with small kids and babies were oblivious of the fact that they weren't the only people in the restaurant.

    As far as breast-feeding at the table, if I'm in a restaurant and my baby needs to be fed, I have no problem going into the ladies room to do so. I don't feel like I should make other diners uncomfortable simply because I don't want to get up or because I want to prove some point. 

    I have a feeling this may change once you actually have a baby to breastfeed. You just font understand until you're there.

    I know what I'm comfortable with. So, no that won't change for me.

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  • amygauntt@windstream.netamygauntt@windstream.net

    I'm not even comfortable with USING a public restroom, or changing a diaper in one (I only changed DD's diaper in a public restroom twice, always did it in the car & even now that she's PT'd we have a seat in the car), so I'm SURE not going to feed my child in one.

    I think this whole issue is what is so wrong with our society. Breasts were meant to feed children, nothing else. America has sexualized breasts so much that people don't even consider that anymore. And if people are uncomfortable with me BFing my baby, in which I will be covered from neck to waist where you can't even see the baby, there's something wrong with THEM. I'm sure they'd have no problem with me sitting at the table with a low cut shirt on or even a bikini.

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  • Lexi0402Lexi0402 member
    imageames17:

    I just skimmed the article and I really don't disagree with any of their points. I managed a fine-dining restaurant for years and more often than not people who dined with small kids and babies were oblivious of the fact that they weren't the only people in the restaurant.

    As far as breast-feeding at the table, if I'm in a restaurant and my baby needs to be fed, I have no problem going into the ladies room to do so. I don't feel like I should make other diners uncomfortable simply because I don't want to get up or because I want to prove some point. 

    I completely agree. I believe what the article is referring to is a nice lounge-type area in many upscale restrooms, not suggesting you sit on the toilet in a stall bf-ing.
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  • giga7cogiga7co

    I'm new to all of this baby business, but I would not be comfortable breastfeeding anywhere in public. If you know you are going out to dinner, wouldnt you just make sure to pump and and have a bottle ready for the baby at all times?

     I work in a bank, and had a lady whip her boob out at my desk when I was working on her accounts. I was completely thrown back. It made me completely uncomfortable trying to talk to her and ask the nescessary questions to take care of her accounts. (Not to mention THAT IT WAS HER BROTHERS CHILD!!) She had a child around the same age which is how, i guess, she was lactating.

    Where I know that the baby is hungry and needs to be fed, I would just think that we as mothers might prepare ourselves with bottles.

     Maybe I am wrong, but that is what I am going to do. To each their own. 

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  • MKinney86MKinney86
    imageLexi0402:
    imageames17:

    I just skimmed the article and I really don't disagree with any of their points. I managed a fine-dining restaurant for years and more often than not people who dined with small kids and babies were oblivious of the fact that they weren't the only people in the restaurant.

    As far as breast-feeding at the table, if I'm in a restaurant and my baby needs to be fed, I have no problem going into the ladies room to do so. I don't feel like I should make other diners uncomfortable simply because I don't want to get up or because I want to prove some point. 

    I completely agree. I believe what the article is referring to is a nice lounge-type area in many upscale restrooms, not suggesting you sit on the toilet in a stall bf-ing.

    This! I understand that you are feeding your child, however you can also feed your child with pumped milk in a bottle when you are out and about. And it's been said that breasts have become over sexualized and I'll agree, however social perceptions are more than likely not going to change and thats just the way that it is.

    I was talking to a friend of mine about this the other day and she compared the social awkwardness of breastfeeding in public to that of a man urinating in public. (I'm just saying this because she did make some good points even if I don't completely agree with the theory so feel free to flame if you must I'm just throwing it out there) Breastfeeding - natural, urination - natural. Breastfeeding - you express a bodily fluid, urinating - you express a bodily fluid. Breastfeeding - can be done in a discreet manner, urinating - can be done in a discreet manner. Breastfeeding - beneficial to the life of your offspring, urinating - beneficial to not causing kidney failure and is used as a disinfectant in some cultures. However urinating in public even when done in a discreet manner is illegal while breastfeeding isn't. Just something to think about I guess...

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