Learned my lesson

JustDoIt62009 · May 2010

I don't know if you guys remember my friend who was POAS since a week after her period, well she got her BFP 2 weeks after mine and is due 2 weeks after me. I made the mistake of sharing my fave names with her last night after she asked. One that I've had picked out since I was 7 or 8 is Alexander. Later last night, she texted me and said the only boy name her and her DH can agree on is Alexander and she called it a dilemma!!! Ummm what?! It's my great-grandfather's name and all my boy babydolls had the name Alexander when I was little, I've always known I would have a little boy named Alexander (assuming I have a boy). How dare she?! Now I know I won't be sharing my name choices with anyone except you lovely ladies and my DH.

Sarahp63 · May 2010

Thats NOT cool. I would be pissed. I hope she has a girl. LOL

NW_Clarinetist · May 2010

Ewwwww, that would p*ss me off! With these hormones I might have texted back something snarky, lol!

MK&Z · May 2010

I would not be very happy with her either. With that said you can both use the same name. If you're set on that name then go with it. If she choses to use the same name then that's her choice.

JustDoIt62009 · May 2010

NW_Clarinetist:
Ewwwww, that would p*ss me off! With these hormones I might have texted back something snarky, lol!

I almost did, and still might, text "well it's a good thing you have 8 months to find something else you both agree on."

AppleMomma · May 2010

Sarahp63:
Thats NOT cool. I would be pissed. I hope she has a girl. LOL

This!!!

MK&Z · May 2010

JustDoIt62009:
NW_Clarinetist:
Ewwwww, that would p*ss me off! With these hormones I might have texted back something snarky, lol!
I almost did, and still might, text "well it's a good thing you have 8 months to find something else you both agree on."

Haha. I think you should.

JustDoIt62009 · May 2010

MK&Z:
I would not be very happy with her either. With that said you can both use the same name. If you're set on that name then go with it. If she choses to use the same name then that's her choice.

I think I would have been ok with it had she said oh yeah I like that too when I mentioned it but she didn't. I even went on to explain the significance of it and still nothing. She brought up other names she liked and then we changed the subject. It was later that night after we were done talking that she sent me a text that started "We have a dilemma..." it just seems a little sneaky to me.

MK&Z · May 2010

Yeah I see your point. It is sneaky. I would try not to let it bother you though. The name has special meaning to you and that's all that matters.

chickymel · May 2010

oooo that's not cool... I'd be so mad! It does seem a little sneaky to me.

babes12 · May 2010

sorry. that is why i never tell my most favorite names on my list b/c i'm afraid someone else will want it too.

you should just text her back and say well i guess we'll both have the same baby boy names if it's a boy. i guarantee they'd find another boy name.

izzourclue · May 2010

Yeah, that's not cool. Yours is coming first right? So take the name and she can decide if she wants to be weird about it and name her kid that too. Personally, I would have said, its my name and if you take it, we won't be friends anymore. Then it won't be weird if both of us use it. Hopefully she will have a girl. Toxic friends are the worst.

izzourclue · May 2010

JustDoIt62009:
NW_Clarinetist:
Ewwwww, that would p*ss me off! With these hormones I might have texted back something snarky, lol!
I almost did, and still might, text "well it's a good thing you have 8 months to find something else you both agree on."

That sounds like a perfectly reasonable response.

atdowns · May 2010

totally NOT cool!!! I'd have been madder than a hornet!! the name is YOURS girl. totally name your baby what you have dreamed of and feel free to tell her (in as loving a way as possible) just how dear th ename is and that you're hurt that you fel your toes were stepped on. any friend worth ehr salt will conceed. meanwhile maybe your kiddo will lay claim the name and be born first.. or you can have a baby girl named Alexandra

IAM4UK · May 2010

JustDoIt62009:
I don't know if you guys remember my friend who was POAS since a week after her period, well she got her BFP 2 weeks after mine and is due 2 weeks after me. I made the mistake of sharing my fave names with her last night after she asked. One that I've had picked out since I was 7 or 8 is Alexander. Later last night, she texted me and said the only boy name her and her DH can agree on is Alexander and she called it a dilemma!!! Ummm what?! It's my great-grandfather's name and all my boy babydolls had the name Alexander when I was little, I've always known I would have a little boy named Alexander (assuming I have a boy). How dare she?! Now I know I won't be sharing my name choices with anyone except you lovely ladies and my DH.

I am in the monirity here, but I don't know why people get so bent out of shape over names. Thousands of people have the same names. In school kids in the same class have the same name.

Yes, it's your friend, but who cares. Your boys will just have the same name. You have different families and probably different sets of friends. The only time it will be an issue is when you to are together.

My friend and I both named are daughters Katherine, but she spelled her differently. Mine goes by Katie and hers goes by Kate. It's a non issue. I had sentimental reasons for naming our daughter that. I wasn't going to change my mind because one of my friends said she was going to use it.

I know I am in the minority here and hope not to offend you, but no one has claim on a name.

KeyRyn320 · May 2010

IAM4UK:

JustDoIt62009:
I don't know if you guys remember my friend who was POAS since a week after her period, well she got her BFP 2 weeks after mine and is due 2 weeks after me. I made the mistake of sharing my fave names with her last night after she asked. One that I've had picked out since I was 7 or 8 is Alexander. Later last night, she texted me and said the only boy name her and her DH can agree on is Alexander and she called it a dilemma!!! Ummm what?! It's my great-grandfather's name and all my boy babydolls had the name Alexander when I was little, I've always known I would have a little boy named Alexander (assuming I have a boy). How dare she?! Now I know I won't be sharing my name choices with anyone except you lovely ladies and my DH.

I am in the monirity here, but I don't know why people get so bent out of shape over names. Thousands of people have the same names. In school kids in the same class have the same name.

Yes, it's your friend, but who cares. Your boys will just have the same name. You have different families and probably different sets of friends. The only time it will be an issue is when you to are together.

My friend and I both named are daughters Katherine, but she spelled her differently. Mine goes by Katie and hers goes by Kate. It's a non issue. I had sentimental reasons for naming our daughter that. I wasn't going to change my mind because one of my friends said she was going to use it.

I know I am in the minority here and hope not to offend you, but no one has claim on a name.

I 100% agree with you. If you both want to name him Alexander, then go for it. As long as she doesn't also give him the same middle name, then that would just be creepy. But there are thousands of Alexanders in the world (I know 2 off the top of my head) and you really can't get hellbent over this one even if she is your friend. And who knows, maybe in 8 months she will change her mind and decide to name him after her DH or whoever. Then you would have lost a friend for nothing unless you just generally don't like her, and if that's the case, then who cares what she names her kid?

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