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NicoleWI
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Practical concerns re: toddler and late pregnancy
NicoleWI
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I'm just thinking ahead and wondering how this will be. DD will be about 22.5 months when the next baby is born, if all goes well! If yours were about the same spread, were you able to lift/carry your first all through the pregnancy? If not, what couldn't you do, and starting when? I just can't see hauling her in and out of bath, etc. when I'm like 8 months pregnant. Thanks.
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Re: Practical concerns re: toddler and late pregnancy
DS#2 is 20 months now and it's definitely harder to carry him around, lug him in/out of the car, etc. now that I'm nearly 38 wks pg. I can still do everything, though, it's just more tiring. I've definitely been having DS walk more and I've been using our stroller a lot more too. DH has definitely been a big help!
I can still pick her up and carry her without a problem. DH does the bath - its hard to bend over like that for long periods of time.
I have found it difficult to get on the floor and play with DD. Also, we just can't snuggle like we used to. She was sick a few weeks ago and she just couldn't get comfortable in my arms, so she slept on DH while her fever lasted.
i did just comment to DH earlier today... the thing I am looking forward to most about my post-pregnancy body is being able to do all the "mommy" stuff again.
With that being said, I don't think this has negatively affected DD or my parenting in any way. Its just more of a nuisance for me.
Trick for the bath... put one foot in to get them out. You've got better balance that way.
I had DH carry as much as possible and I told him "no" when I needed to. He learned the stairs earlier than he would have had I not been pregnant.
But in the end... between the toddler and the baby weight I was carrying a bit over half my weight up and down the stairs. It's hard but like so many other things with 2 kids you just find a way.
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DD is 18 months. I can carry her with no problem. Going up stairs with her is a bit much. The worst for me is the bending/down on the ground/up quick kind of stuff.
I overdo it often. But for the most part it is going ok.
DS1 was 17mo when #2 was born. He was 30+ pounds and didn't walk until I was 35 weeks pregnant. I had no problems lifting and carrying him (bath, crib, everyday stuff). It was a little awkward getting him into the car but it wasn't hard.
ETA: sitting on the ground to bathe him was difficult (not lifting into/out of bath though) - I did ask DH to do it more often than not.
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i am almost 36 wks and my son is 17 months old. I am alone for 3 wks at a time, and so I have to do everything. Baths are fine. I sit on the floor and let him play then bend over and wash him well, let him play more and then rinse. Lifting out of the tub is tiring, but fine.
I also second the wlaking thing. DH taught DS when I was like 20 ish weeks that if we are in public that he needs to hold my hand or his. He reaches for my hand now and walks well. I still need to lift in and out of the car, stroller etc, but its a big help. My new honda odyssey helps me too
sliding doors, I dont have to get down and into the car to get him out....its nice.
Carrying him does hurt after a while, but thats bc my veins are horrible right now. And I have gained less weight that last time, but btwn DS and my weight and my diaper bag, Id say I am carrying a good 45lbs.
I am 37 weeks and my son is 23 months. He does enjoy walking places, but isn't great at consistently holding my hand if he gets excited and wants to run and see something i.e. at the zoo. I've found it's often easier to carry him than to run after him
As for bath time, I have a small footstool that I sit on, which makes life easier.
Chasing after him has really kept my weight down - gained 65 with him, will gain about 40 with this one. (I know that's still a lot, but that's a big difference!)
Right now I am 37.5 weeks and DS is 2, tomorrow! (wow that went fast!) and 30lbs.
anyway, luckily in the last few months he has gotten very independant on his own. He "has" to do alot himself....like get into and out of the car......up and down from his highchair. And walk and hold my hand instead of me carrying him.
We have also started doing more on the floor....when it is just he and I, he eats at his little table in the kitchen or standing on a stool by the counter. He uses a stool to wash his hands.
I can still lift and carry him but not for long periods. I find it really hard to bend over his crib to cover him w/o opening it. Which has turned into him thinking he NEEDS to come out and snuggle for night wakings since I have to open the side. And it is also not easy to get up and down when playing with him on the floor.
But he is still a huge Mama's boy and wants me often....so am I not looking forward to his sad face after my c-section when I can't cuddle with him for awhile.
My DD's are 20 months apart. I was able to carry her around no problem until the end, and I was a week late! It was tiring, but manageable. DH took care of baths though!
Just a friendly warning though... DD1 got really sick (like 105 fever) about 6 days after DD2 was born. She was crying and crying for me. I felt terrible and I ended up doing way too much. Carrying her up and down stairs, holding her all the time and just carrying her around the house. I should have stopped when she felt better, but I figured I was feeling ok and it was fine (even though my OB told me not to lift my DD1 for at least a month). Ya, I ended up in the ER with really heavy bleeding at 2 weeks pp. I felt fine until my body totally gave in. So watch what you do after, and listen to your OB! I should have known better
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DS is less than a week old old and DD will be 2yo tomorrow so about the same age diff.
I didn't do baths every day but when I did, I never found lifting DD in/out of anything a problem; my body was very adapted to her 27lbs apparently. My biggest issue was just being exhausted and not really being into taking walks to the park/run after her at playgrounds etc. We did a lot of just hanging out on the deck once the weather turned.
I worried about this too when I first found out about baby #2. But honestly, the change was so gradual, that I didn't really notice it. I'm around 8 months now and still life and carry DS all the time...the tummy actually makes it easier to hold him since it acts like a shelf!
ETA: DS is a skinnie minnie and weighs maybe 24 pounds max...so that does make it easier. I tried carrying a friend's 30 pound kid and almost couldn't get him off the ground.