Co-Ed Showers (Clicky Poll)

DaniLovesPink · May 2010

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Mrs.Johns · May 2010

I hate them. Bridal showers and baby showers aren't exactly a super awesome party time. Yeah, they are cutesy and nice and it's fun to see what they get. Other than that, let's be honest, no guy wants to get dragged to a gift opening baby/wedding fest. Not to mention, Jack and Jills totally get dragged out way longer than any normal shower should be.

DH is coming to our shower b/c it's his baby too, he came to our wedding shower also. Otherwise, all chicks.

DaniLovesPink · May 2010

Mrs.Johns:
I hate them. Bridal showers and baby showers aren't exactly a super awesome party time. Yeah, they are cutesy and nice and it's fun to see what they get. Other than that, let's be honest, no guy wants to get dragged to a gift opening baby/wedding fest. Not to mention, Jack and Jills totally get dragged out way longer than any normal shower should be.

DH is coming to our shower b/c it's his baby too, he came to our wedding shower also. Otherwise, all chicks.

What if it were an open house type BBQ, no gifts were opened and more of just a cele-get-together-tion? Do you still think guys would still feel as awkward?

tabaskoa · May 2010

I'm having a regular shower, but my DH will be there as well, just like he was at our wedding shower.

juangela · May 2010

I think it depends on the family. In my family, they are always women-only affairs. In DH's, the guys are always included (and it is more of the BBQ, hang out type of thing). So...I know my family shower will be all girls, but the one that DH's SIL is planning for me will be co-ed.

Mrs.Johns · May 2010

DaniLovesPink:
Mrs.Johns:

I hate them. Bridal showers and baby showers aren't exactly a super awesome party time. Yeah, they are cutesy and nice and it's fun to see what they get. Other than that, let's be honest, no guy wants to get dragged to a gift opening baby/wedding fest. Not to mention, Jack and Jills totally get dragged out way longer than any normal shower should be.

DH is coming to our shower b/c it's his baby too, he came to our wedding shower also. Otherwise, all chicks.

What if it were an open house type BBQ, no gifts were opened and more of just a cele-get-together-tion? Do you still think guys would still feel as awkward?

If it is just a bbq baby celebration with no formal sit down gift opening and baby stuff everwhere, that should be fine with the guys. You can't forget, though, that the women like and want to see what you get! That's part of the fun of buying a shower gift.

mommyme · May 2010

DaniLovesPink:
Mrs.Johns:

I hate them. Bridal showers and baby showers aren't exactly a super awesome party time. Yeah, they are cutesy and nice and it's fun to see what they get. Other than that, let's be honest, no guy wants to get dragged to a gift opening baby/wedding fest. Not to mention, Jack and Jills totally get dragged out way longer than any normal shower should be.

DH is coming to our shower b/c it's his baby too, he came to our wedding shower also. Otherwise, all chicks.

What if it were an open house type BBQ, no gifts were opened and more of just a cele-get-together-tion? Do you still think guys would still feel as awkward?

We're going to one like this sat. The host called it "a party w/ a purpose."

shandy07 · May 2010

I went to my first co-ed shower a couple months ago with DH. We both had a great time. It was a bbq, with no games, more just visiting and eating. They did open gifts at the end, but because it was a smaller shower, this didn't get dragged out forever.

I would like to do something similar for my shower.

DaniLovesPink · May 2010

Mrs.Johns:
DaniLovesPink:
Mrs.Johns:

I hate them. Bridal showers and baby showers aren't exactly a super awesome party time. Yeah, they are cutesy and nice and it's fun to see what they get. Other than that, let's be honest, no guy wants to get dragged to a gift opening baby/wedding fest. Not to mention, Jack and Jills totally get dragged out way longer than any normal shower should be.

DH is coming to our shower b/c it's his baby too, he came to our wedding shower also. Otherwise, all chicks.

What if it were an open house type BBQ, no gifts were opened and more of just a cele-get-together-tion? Do you still think guys would still feel as awkward?

If it is just a bbq baby celebration with no formal sit down gift opening and baby stuff everwhere, that should be fine with the guys. You can't forget, though, that the women like and want to see what you get! That's part of the fun of buying a shower gift.

The problem is, my mom doesn't want anyone to feel obligated to bring a gift, as it is more of a celebration than a gift-giving event, and doesn't want anyone who didn't bring a gift to feel awkward during a gift opening time, which I totally understand and appreciate.

denise_m · May 2010

For our family, we typically do co-ed showers. But, they aren't really the traditional baby showers, more like BBQs with cocktails, friends, family, music, good times and all that. Absolutely no games lol.

Mrs.Johns · May 2010

DaniLovesPink:
The problem is, my mom doesn't want anyone to feel obligated to bring a gift, as it is more of a celebration than a gift-giving event, and doesn't want anyone who didn't bring a gift to feel awkward during a gift opening time, which I totally understand and appreciate.

Yeah, that makes sense.

orangedaisy85 · May 2010

We're having one. I had one with just ladies thrown for me by fellow military spouses. And then my family is all coming down for my sister's grad, so we're doing a co-ed shower while they're all here so that everyone can be together. It'll be fun. My mom even got "manly" prizes, like beef sticks haha. And subs for dinner for everyone.

girgirgir · May 2010

I don't think anyone actually likes showers (bridal or baby) except for the planners and the bride/mother-to-be. The plastered-on smiles, the awful games, the outdated etiquette. Just horrible.

jordanebeaulieu · May 2010

We actually hosted a couples shower last year for a friend who was pregnant and it went over really well. We served cookout type food, opened gifts, and even played a few less cheesy games and had gift cards as prizes. We did serve alcohol as well. It went over really well with the guys, and they seemed to enjoy being included. I think it just depends on the group.

kcl22 · May 2010

The best baby shower I ever went to was a Jack and Jill, it was SO much fun but only because it was at a hall with a bar attached and everyone ended up staying and drinking/partying after the shower. The mom to be even stayed and hung out. But that really isn't what a baby shower is all about and I have no interest in watching people get drunk when I cant join them so I'd never have one

If you're keeping it traditional IMO it's the absolute last place any guy wants to be.

MamaNikita · May 2010

i just don't really get the purpose of them. most guys don't care about nor want to give gifts - they just don't want the hassle. i understand inviting guys to make the party more fun, but why not just have a party then with no gift expectations? just have a bbq, and a shower for women on a different day. or else have the shower during the daytime and then have guys come at night. i don't think they're trashy - i just don't really get it.

Kimee13 · May 2010

Of all the straight guys I know, maybe 1% would actually want to participate in a coed shower of any sort. Anytime I've ever gone to one, most of the guys have complained and made it obvious that they didn't want to be there - some view it as torture.

Regardless of liquor, prizes, etc not many guys want to sit around while women talk about their pg/delivery experiences and if butt paste really is the best.

HRMJPC · May 2010

I have been to some really fun co-ed showers! I've been to the BBQ kind and even one in a bar and they were awesome. Usually the men would congregate and do "manly" stuff (drink, play some cornhole, etc) while the women would open gifts quickly toward the end. We're having 2 coed showers and they're both of the BBQ kind. I hated my high- estrogen bridal shower and I generally hate going to all-women showers.

MNmomofQ · May 2010

I am pretty sure that my DH would hate a coed baby shower, but I think it would be fun.

KelzinBoston · May 2010

We had a co-ed shower...but in reality it was more of a BBQ/get together before baby comes. It was laid back...people brought their kids if they wanted and we had it catered and also had burgers and beer and wine and we did do gifts (but it wasn't a big deal and mostly the women watched while men played outside) and didn't do any games (I hate hate hate shower games). I had a frilly girlie shower for my wedding (to appease my Mother/Aunt), so this was more my style. It was a lot of fun!

eris1995 · May 2010

DaniLovesPink:

What if it were an open house type BBQ, no gifts were opened and more of just a cele-get-together-tion? Do you still think guys would still feel as awkward?

I went to one like this. The normal baby shower was family only. Every year they have a BBQ anyway so they had a BBQ/baby shower. There was nothing cutesy. I don't think gifts were opened - if they were it wasn't made a big deal.

mysticporter · May 2010

A traditional baby shower is one of the last places *I* want to be, and I'm not a guy.

We had a co-ed shower when I was pregnant with DD, but borrowing the phrase from PP it was more of the "party with a purpose" (no baby-related games or that kind of stuff). I vastly prefer that type of thing to a traditional shower, anyway, and don't get why guys couldn't/wouldn't come.

SuperThat1006 · May 2010

kcl22:
The best baby shower I ever went to was a Jack and Jill, it was SO much fun but only because it was at a hall with a bar attached and everyone ended up staying and drinking/partying after the shower. The mom to be even stayed and hung out. But that really isn't what a baby shower is all about and I have no interest in watching people get drunk when I cant join them so I'd never have one

If you're keeping it traditional IMO it's the absolute last place any guy wants to be.

This exactly.

I am having two women's-only showers and will only ask DH to come when it is time to haul the gifts home.

Laurara45 · May 2010

I am having an actual huge party for my shower. Like 80 guests. There will be fun Co-ed games, music, dancing, food (and lots of gifts for the baby). It won't be boring for the guys! Big Smile

themissizz · May 2010

We're going a co-ed shower/casual BBQ-type thing. Not planning on playing games, just having booze, food, and making it more of a cookout.

shelbell1028 · May 2010

I really wanted a co-ed cookout for a shower. But the guest list (with just the ladies) is about 70 people. Add the guys and we're talking about 130. If it ever rained we'd be screwed b/c no one I know has a house that can comfortably fit 130 people (or even 70)! So my Mom and Sister decided to rent a hall. All the ladies plus my Hubby, Dad, FIL & BIL's are invited. The boys will spend their time at the bar and just join us to open presents.

Venus04d · May 2010

My friends at work are throwing me a traditional baby shower with all my lady friends.

My SO came home and told me two days ago that he saw two of his girl friends at the track and that they said they wanted to throw us a couple shower. We've got a pretty close group of friends that include those two girls and myself and then like 12 guys, so I think they're just searching for a way to include them. I have a feeling I'll end up looking at all my new stuff in the living room and eating while all the others drink beer and mess around out in the summer sun. Doesn't sound like the best time for myself, but I'm not going to ask them not to throw us a party and give us stuff. I think it'd be rude.

latinchic718 · May 2010

me too, so excited!!!

+LuckyVal+ · May 2010

I love the idea and bff is throwing one for us.

All other showers will be family-centric and, fun as they will be, will be some what stuffy as to appeal to certain expectations of the older guests.

This is a way to kind of let loose, have fun, get excited about all as a couple.

suzstar · May 2010

We are having one through his work. That is the main one that will be that way.

j_st.charles · May 2010

We had one that was Co-ed. It was mostly family, and my side of the family was in town, my grandparents and brother in laws and people we dont see often. So I wanted everyone to be able to be together. My DH reallly got into the present opening!

mhazel1204 · May 2010

We're having one because it will be out of state. I want to be able to spend time with all of my family, including the men. Also we have friends driving in from out of town for it and I can't expect them to leave their spouse at home. Our bridal shower was Co-Ed and we had a great time! To each their own though!

littlemac1117 · May 2010

I told my fiance he can come to the shower if he wants to, but I doubt he will. To each her own..

mrsschrager · May 2010

I would not have one and I know dh would not be interested.. but to each their own.. I am more traditional and just want a shower with my girlfriends and female family members. That is how both my bridal shower and my 1st baby shower were.

HarkelAD · May 2010

I had one, and it was great. Cuban sandwitches and other finger foods, beer and margaritas, no games. It was more like a big hang out with our family and friends. I did have to open gifts at the end though. The guys went outside and hung out while I opened gifts with DH and all the women.

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