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What do you do when your 11 month old throws fits?!?

choltbabycholtbaby
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M is into throwing these huge fits all of the sudden when she doesn't get her way or even when we change her diaper. I am talking kicking, screaming, flailing arms, and she even hit me once. Honestly, I am not sure what I am supposed to do. She is too young for time out and I really don't think spanking is the way to go because I don't think she will understand why I am hitting her. What would you/ do you do?
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Re: What do you do when your 11 month old throws fits?!?

  • userdeleteduserdeleted member
    Ignore it. Not much more you can do at this point. Removing your attention and not letting her get a response out of you is usually very effective. GL, I know it can be tough :)
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  • Breezer80Breezer80

    Please, please please don't hit her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

     

    At this point the best thing to do is sternly tell her something along the lines of "Ouch, you're hurting mommy!" and then basically just firmly hold her with one hand while you change her diaper with the other hand.

    "When she doesn't get her way" just try to redirect her to something she does want.

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  • Sweetgurl6630@yahoo.comSweetgurl6630@yahoo.com
    Redirect or ignore it. He hasn't been doing it much but he likes to climb up the entertainment center and hates it when I move him and will throw a fit. I just grab some toys and start something new.
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  • Lesley0228Lesley0228 member
    DD has these mini tantrums all the time too. Mainly, I am just consistent with doing whatever I was doing to cause the fit. You know, if shes fighting her diaper being changed, I try to distract her with toys, sing a little diddy, but I still change the diaper even if means calling DH for assistance in holding her down. I don't want her to learn that these fits work. KWIM? Definitely too young to understand time outs and I am anti-spanking at any age, though the thought of spanking my 11mo old makes me particulary sick. I'm hoping this is just a testing phase and with consistency, DD will eventually work past it.
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  • jersangljersangl member
    Mine does the same thing once in awhile. I sometimes ignore it. most important though be consistent. I say no in a firm voice. She usually laughs at me thinks I am playing a game, but hopefully if I keep with one day she will understand
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  • choltbabycholtbaby
    You really don't have to beg me not to hit my child because I just stated above that I did not feel that it was the right way to go. Thank you for your advice.
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  • alli&patalli&pat member

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    Redirect or ignore it.

    this.  if he bites or hits, before i redirect i say "we don't bite/hit mommy, it hurts."  or if he's getting into something he shouldnt, i say "not for baby" and the redirect.

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  • sasa625sasa625 member
    I ignore it, staying calm and just talking to her as usual. I am also usually able to redirect her. So far (knock on wood!) her "tantrums" only last a few seconds until she finds something else to be interested in.
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  • choltbabycholtbaby
    Thanks guys. So far I have been going the route of redirect (sing songs, give toys, etc.) so I guess I will just keep doing what I am doing. So many people have given advice, but I just can't do time out or spanking. I was just wondering if other mom's were going through the same thing and how they were handling it.
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  • stepheliasstephelias member

    I get the serious mom face/voice and pretty much ignore it. DD threw herself on the floor for the first time today.. Little stinker! She just wants my attention and she needs to know that throwing a fit isn't the way to go about getting it. For example, she tries to get into the drawers that have drawer locks and gets stuck and starts fussing. I take her arm out and tell her she's not supposed to be in there (or something to that effect) and she will usually get angry. I just ignore it and she will realize she's throwing a fit for nothing and move on. I worked with toddlers for a long time so I am no stranger to the tantrum, haha.

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  • meg1974meg1974 member

    From what I've read, the best thing to do at this age is to ignore it. Any reaction from you is a good thing to them. 

    DD throws a fit sometimes when I'm changing her diaper, but if I give her a toy she usually calms down.

    If it's about wanting something that is dangerous to her, I tell her no, take it away, and give her something she can have.  



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  • kklickkakklickka member

    I just kind of stand there and look at him...eventually he realizes that the whining fit isn't getting him anywhere and he stops.  Occasionally he gets even madder at me and I just look at him and say something like, "That's life, buddy, you can't always get what you want."

    He gets over whatever it is eventually.

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  • deeanneharrisdeeanneharris
    I ignore her. As long as she is safe, I'll walk away and let her finish whatever she is doing and then come back and play.
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