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laura1
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Anyone else's playground like this?
laura1
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I live in the city, and there are multiple playgrounds within a short distance of our house. We usually walk to one of them and there aren't many people there, so my DS can go on the swings, climb, etc. But there is one new one that was just finished last year, and it is great - has the safe playing surface and tons of toys that stay there from the local mother's association. It is a bit far from my house, so we don't go there that often, but the past few days we have been driving by so we stopped to let DS play. My DS still doesn't walk independently, so we find him a push toy and I let him go, walking around with him. But I seem to be the only parent who stays near their kid. There are tons of little mommy/nanny cliques that are off in their own corners with the kids running around. And they are totally unsupervised - one little kid (about 3) on a riding toy almost ran over my DS (who was not in the way, he was standing off to the side where no other kids were), and another little girl (also 3+) just came over and took away his push toy saying it was a "girls toy" because their were princesses on it. My poor DS was left just standing there pointing at the girl and the train he had been walking with. Both times, not a single adult said anything to us. I probably could have said something to the kids, but I felt like the outsider since we don't go there very much and I am not a part of the cliques. I am not sure how much we will go back over the summer - it is already crazy during the day with the even bigger kids at school...it is going to be worse when school gets out! I am afraid my little guy will get trampled!
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Re: Anyone else's playground like this?
I don't have a comment since we haven't tried playgrounds yet, but I am getting really anxious about how I am going to handle other kids being brats to my kid. It is seriously giving me a knot in my stomach.
I don't want to be "that mom" but....I am.
I know - normally I don't mind, just redirect him if another little kid his age takes his toy away - but today it was older kids that really should have known better. I was just annoyed that their parents (or caregivers) were not paying them any attention!
I have seen the same things happen at our playground. There are many children older than Jacob (2-5 years old) who can walk and climb much better than he can. He can walk well, but he can't run or jump and still trips under his own feet sometimes.
Anyway, I usually just look for another parent to check in with their kid, but if not I usually just usher Jacob away. He doesn't have a ton of preferences just yet, so its not a big deal. But I am annoyed when I'm trying to teach him about sharing and being kind while another child comes and rips away his toy or ball.
Its really hard. I think that moms of older kids let them run a little bit freer than we do right now. But I don't have a good answer for you.
We go to the park almost every week day around 3pm. It's a good way for me to keep Raleigh entertained up until her dinner time and for her to get some fresh air.
The park we usually go to is next two two baseball fields and a community center. I know for a fact that there are moms watching one kids baseball game/practice while their other kid plays in the playground unsupervised. R- is old enough to use only the swing and I put a blanket on the grass for her to play with some of her toys. When I took my friend's 3 year old out of day care for a day of "hookie", I took him to the park. I noticed some older kids were blocking the entertance to the slide and the top of the ladder. Let me tell you it took me less than than a minute to shut that sh!t down. Seriously, I have no problem saying something to someone else's kid especially when they are bullying a younger kid.
I have zero issues saying something to an older kid if he/she is not being nice or taking something that doesn't belong to them. I'm also a former teacher so I've always been that way and find it easy to talk to kids.
I would never say anything mean to another child but I help them understand what their doing is wrong or not nice. I feel bad for kids that are left on a playground unattended (meaning their parent is too busy chatting to pay attention) because the playground is such a great place to teach so many life lessons. If a kid has a mom/dad/nanny so involved with their own personal life that they don't have time to parent their kid I have no problem stepping in if they are doing something that is hurtful or harmful to my child.
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