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I CAN NOT believe I'm posting this!!!!

adri77adri77 member
in Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months

Ok, I need to say, that when I open these kind of "name wars" posts, I close them and roll my eyes....well here I am doing it!

I have 2 boys, we are going ttc #3 next winter.  When I got pg with DS1, before we knew he was a boy, we decided our girl name was Lena, same with DS2, if he was a girl, his name would have been Lena, and our #3 if girl will be Lena.  We chose this name b/c of DH's ethnicity. 

Well, BIL and his wife are pg with a girl and naming her LENA!!!  They knew this was our name and we want a third.  Of all of the fricking names to choose from!  I should add, that I feel if we all had a really good, close relationship, I wouldn't be upset, but we don't.  DH and his bro talk like 1x a month.  When I had my children, I heard nothing from them.  When they had theirs, I called, sent gifts to see how they are doing, not b/c I wanted the same in return but b/c they are FAMILY. and I believe family should be close- they are the only relatives besides GP that my kids have on my dh's side.  They live in CA so we are all very disconnected.  They live a very extravagent life that they can't afford, and are in major debt, which ILs are bailing them out.  So I feel already like they take take take b/c they just want what they want regardless of having the $ for it, and now just taking my name!!!  (ha ha, I know it's not really "my" name, but ykwim.)  I'm just so livid.

Yes, I know we aren't even pg yet, not trying for another year, and there is a very good chance we will have another boy, it's just the principle.  Ok thanks for reading this rambling vent.

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  • star173star173 member
    I'm really sorry.
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  • carolinagcarolinag member

    that's pretty crappy of them. 

     my cousin and i were talking about future baby names, and there is one we both want. i already nixed it in my mind b/c it's more important to her. she's 23, not married, doesn't even have a bf, and yet i still wouldn't want to steal her name, which i had thought of on my own as well. i mean i get that you don't "own" it but come on....  

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  • LittleAppleLittleApple member
    Did you say anything to them about this?  That really sucks.
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  • sunnyday016sunnyday016 member
    That sucks of them, but if you're not close and you do end up having a girl I'd still use the name anyway.
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  • Lotte134Lotte134

    imagesunnyday016:
    That sucks of them, but if you're not close and you do end up having a girl I'd still use the name anyway.

    Me too.  

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  • Clotho!Clotho!
    do we have the same family? that sucks.
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  • Paris05Paris05
    If you have a girl name her Lena........screw them
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  • shari_rnglesonshari_rngleson member
    i would still use the  name you love!  who cares if they use your name!
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  • auslyn804auslyn804
    That sucks, I'm sorry. I think you should say something to them. Since you're not close anyways who cares.  Tell them you'll use it anyways and maybe they'll decide not to use it.  
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  • Alex26Alex26 member

    imagesunnyday016:
    That sucks of them, but if you're not close and you do end up having a girl I'd still use the name anyway.

    This

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  • joraejorae

    I had to sit down with SIL and have the name talk on Mother's Day. When pg with first DD, I told her a name I liked and she said she loved it and would want to use it. Well, we are pg with second DD and DH really likes that name now. So I talked to her about it and she was like, "Oh, I don't even remember saying that, sure you can use just don't use XXXXX." 

    I am sorry this is happening to you. I know  it seems kinda petty, but it really does hurt when it happens to you, especially by family. 

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  • lvnhwclvnhwc
    The next time you talk, I would just say "Oh, I hear your naming LO Lena,  well if our third is a girl we will have two Lenas in the family.  Good thing we live in different states" and see how it goes from there.
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  • adri77adri77 member

    It does seem petty, but thanks so much for the support :)  DH and I just talked and decided that since they live across the country from us and we see them like every other year or so, if we should ever be blessed with a girl, we are sticking with this name!  DH is going to tell his brother this whenever they talk next, probably half way through the summer, ha ha!

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