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my grandma hates our baby name
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I saw my grandma on Saturday. She asked what we are naming the new baby. I told her his name is Owen. Her response, "Oh, Alison, I do not like that name at all. Really? That's what you are going to name him?" 
My response, "yeah, that's what we are naming him, sorry you don't like it."
I get that old people lose their filter, really I do. I'm trying not to let it bother me b/c it's not like we're going to change his name or anything. I was just taken back that she said it. Oh well, she got to name her kids, it's my turn now!
I feel bad for my baby!! Everyone is disappointed he's not a girl and now she hates his name!! Good thing for him he has mom & dad!!
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Re: my grandma hates our baby name
Some of my family doesnt like the name we're name our daughter either... and it half way pissed me off. They keep calling me screaming and shouting, 'why would you name her that!!?!?!' But then I started thinking, I only see these people once or every other year and when I do see them, they hit me up for money. Do they really have a say in what I name my child? NO!
Sorry to say but, granny will have to get used to it. You owe no explanation or anything. Its what you and DH wanted and that's that....
yuck - i'm so sorry you have to put up with it. good for you for sticking to your guns, though!
my grandparents said something similar to my parents when they announced what they were naming me: Zoe Colleen (and my maiden name starts with Z)
they said that "zoe isn't a name, you can't name her that" so instead they named me Colleen Zoe...
when we moved after my 6th grade year, i started going by Zoe. Colleen's a great name and all, but it never fit me, i should have always been a Zoe.
all that to say, it drives me nuts when people feel they have the right to give their negative input on a name you like (unless of course the name you plan on is something ridiculous, like "Pilot Inspektor").
My cousin named her baby boy Owen and my grandma had a fit! She absoultey hates the name and still talks about how horrid it is to this day even though Owen is now one!
That sucks but oh well, it's your baby not hers! I personally love the name.
And another thing...it isnt like you said you were naming your child Neveah or after a transformer...LOL
Ugh, sorry you had to deal with that. Old people are funny. LOL
When I was pg with DD my mom had some comments about lots of things - decorating the room, baby items...etc and I finally said "mom, when you have another baby you can pick what you do with the nursery, etc"
I made the mistake of talking baby names with my dad when I was pg with DD (we were team green) and I said if it was a boy I wanted to name him Andrew and call him Drew - my dad's mn is Andrew. My dad had a fit, he said he would not call the baby Drew! LOL. Learned my lesson...after that I never discussed names with anyone except H. When DD was born I figured even if people didn't like her name they wouldn't say anything (at least not to me) and once that was her name it was easier for people to accept it...since it was no longer hypothetical.
I have found, that in life in general, people have all sorts of opinions about all sorts of things...sometimes people can be really rude about their opinions though and that sucks! It's too bad your grandma couldn't have kept her mouth shut.
Oh, one more thing, this reminds me - when my mom named me Amy her grandmother said "Amy is such a boring name (mind you, I was already BORN)" and my mom said "well, Myrtle is a really weird name" (that was her name). LOL!!
HA!! No, I'm not Tay-Tay cool. By the way, I would like to put my vote in for Alison. It's a great name!!!
My dad doesn't really like Owen either. First, he thinks my mom "had something to do with it." I told him that she didn't. He said, "ok, then I like it." The maturity on his side of the family is astounding. He thinks we should name him "Lane" or "Colt". Uh, yeah....
This is EXACTLY why we are not sharing the baby name with family. How I look at is you choose your friends but you can't choose your family. I choose supportive and loving friends and therefore have shared the name with them because they wont be negative. But as far as my family goes they can wait until they meet him and so far they are fine with it.
As far as grandparents go.. I have no idea when they lose their filter but they definitely do. My grandmother asked if we have picked a name I always fib and just say "we are tossing some around." She then said don't name your child anything weird, then asked what names we are tossing around. I told her "why would i tell you when you are going to tell me if you think it's weird?"
Funny story... my friend named her son Owen (love the name!!) and their last name is Winter. When she told her grandmother the first thing she said was "great, now all the kids will call him 'Snowen Winter," my friend got a kick out of it and still laughs about it. They say out of the mouths of babes, i say out of the mouths of old ladies!!
HAHA--- our friends call our LO Optimus Prime. I'm like, um that name is NOT sticking after he's born! LOL
I think people need to come to the realization that if you reveal your baby's name, then someone, somewhere is going to have something negative to say about it.
So why even open yourself up to that?
I slipped about two months ago and told my mom two girls names we were thinking about. She said, "Oh. Well, what about (insert any name here)" She obviously didn't say she disliked the names, but she conveniently threw out her choices.
After that, I realized I was done. People ask if we've thought of names and I just say "yeah, we're considering some now." And that's that. If they boldly ask what we're thinking of, I will politely tell them we are not revealing the names until the babies are here.
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I think all those people telling you what a horrible name you are picking need to go have another kid so they can pick names for themselves. The only person that has to be happy with the name you chose is you.
I dont like DH's choice of names... Caleb, its so normal. So we were thinking Caleb Kisten, and my cousin pops up with if you name him Kisten you may as well stick a kick me sign on his back during school. We haven't finished deciding yet cause we have other names being considered too, but that really pissed me off.
DH doesnt like the name I prefer either, Merek Moses, says its too religious and the first name is from a book (Timeline, Andre Marek). But all the names I really like are from books, because I like some quality of the person with that name, like Sturm Brightblade was all noble and a warrior, or Tanis being just and right and aware of the balance between light and dark, etc.
My boss and I were joking around about Albus Severus.
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Reason #17 we're keeping it a secret. This kid is currently known as "Cletus the Fetus"
In truth, I hate my sister's baby name. But my sister loves the name and I love my niece, so it's magic how one can become accustomed to such a thing.
Let it roll. She'll get used to it, and your son will have a name you love.
Yeah this is why we won't be sharing our name until after the baby comes. For some reason people seem to have a little better of a filter once the baby is actually here.
For what it's worth... Owen is in my top 5 favorite boy names!!!!
This!!! After all the crazy responses I've seen to people's name choices, whether normal or not, I've decided I don't want to deal with putting our names out there and hearing others' judgment. DH and I are making our decisions on our own!
He's growing up, but he'll always be my baby!
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This!
My grandma felt the same way about black bridesmaid dresses (they were actually black and white, but same dif). But now, when other old ladies at her home start dissing on black bridesmaid dresses, my grandma totally sticks up for them! She tells them "my granddaughter had black and it was beautiful!!"
Grandmas are opinionated, but they're also pretty darn loyal. OP, I bet once baby's born and named Owen, she'll be singing another tune!
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This is why I'm not sharing our name ideas with anyone! I don't care to hear their opinions, and they will most probably keep their mouths shut after we've already named the lo...