ugh. vent

britishbride05 · May 2010

you know my in-laws STILL haven't held Sarah?????

and DH is really hurt not only by that, but also by the fact that they didn't even get Abby a birthday present and they got our niece this huge battery operated car for her bday.

He won't say anything to them, though, they're all like that. They don't talk about sh!t that bothers them, they bottle it up, and then make snarky comments for 20 years after.

ugh. ok, had to vent. thanks.

MrsGiviRN · May 2010

That really stinks

( ((HUGS))

taxbride · May 2010

Sorry! That really sucks that they didn't get her anything for her birthday. Bright side: you don't have to house some huge awful loud battery operated car that would take up half your living room. And you are at least venting for the two of you!

Nicksgirl121 · May 2010

That does suck =/ Poo poo on them!

britishbride05 · May 2010

taxbride:
Sorry! That really sucks that they didn't get her anything for her birthday. Bright side: you don't have to house some huge awful loud battery operated car that would take up half your living room. And you are at least venting for the two of you!

very, very true

miamicubajam · May 2010

All I can say is Wow! I would be fuming but you know what, it's for the best. I would only want those around my children that could love and appreciate their presence. I'm sorry things are being played out this way.

MrsJOSEnADRI · May 2010

I'm sorry you're feeling this way and going through this - I understand. Although this will be the first grandchild and niece/nephew for both sides of our family, I expect my family to be more involved, helpful, giving, etc. I guess since I don't have high expectations of DH's family involvement, then I won't be disappointed. The only advice I can give is to just let your DH handle it and try not to worry about them. All your kids really need are loving parents and they definitely have that

CesEve99 · May 2010

is there someone else you can express your concern too? maybe your sil? someone that can possibly get your mil to start reacting...

i know im the oddball out, but i feel this has to be addressed. the least thing you want is to be at a family gathering and have your girls ignored in front of other grandchildren. not saying they will do that, but what if. that will just set me off. if your dh wont handle this, maybe its best for you to say "hey, you know im really hurt by such and such...etc"

thats just my two cents though.

EliStar · May 2010

CesEve99:

is there someone else you can express your concern too? maybe your sil? someone that can possibly get your mil to start reacting...

i know im the oddball out, but i feel this has to be addressed. the least thing you want is to be at a family gathering and have your girls ignored in front of other grandchildren. not saying they will do that, but what if. that will just set me off. if your dh wont handle this, maybe its best for you to say "hey, you know im really hurt by such and such...etc"

thats just my two cents though.

Totally agree. I would be SO hurt, too, but things like this need to be addressed before they do irreparable damage. If you keep sweeping it under the rug, eventually it's going to blow up somehow. If I were in your shoes, I'd ask DH to please mention to his mother that it's hurtful to BOTH of you that she hasn't come by to hold Sarah and that she forgot Abby's birthday. Even if it's just a comment in passing. Hopefully she'll get the hint and make a change.

::hugs::