I confess that I judge...

**Octoberbride09** · May 2010

a little people who are in their 30th week and have only gained "9" pounds.

Ok just to clarify a bit, I think it's different when you lost a lot of weight because of morning sickness etc and now have to play catch up.

It's also a bit different if you were a bit heavier to begin with.

I brought this subject up because I was on a blog {no, I won't tell you which one} and the woman is 30 weeks pregnant or 31 now and looks thinner than Nicole Richie.

I can't fathom how that's healthy or ok.

I really don't mean to be offensive to anyone either

hippotree · May 2010

Why? Some people just don't gain a lot of weight.

I am actually still down 5 lbs., and I only gained a total of 21 with DS1. And believe me I am eating whatever I can. Have you SEEN my posts about the cupcake truck?

franceshouseman · May 2010

I agree with you. I have a friend who is 30 some weeks and has only gained like 5 lbs. I'VE FREAKING GAINED 18 LBS!!! I feel like a whale. I'm not fat and I started out at a healthy normal weight, but holy cow! How do you gain 5-10 lbs?

**Octoberbride09** · May 2010

I guess as long as you're eating well but I've heard of doctors flipping out because someone hasn't gained a pound per week in 2nd tri.

9 pounds at 30 weeks just seems so little.

LilacStar11 · May 2010

I am still down 17 lbs. (lost 18 since getting pregnant due to severe M/S.) I gained 1 lb at my last appt.

I am sure I will gain a good amount of it back but my doc said it is fine as long as I am eating. (obviously she hasn't seen out food bills)

summer_aka_chewchew · May 2010

I wish that was me! im almost up 40 lbs.. they havent said anything neg at the doc office but still... Im offically a fat ass!

mamafoxX2 · May 2010

me too...

LCB34 · May 2010

I would have too - before I struggled with gaining weight myself.

As long as the baby looks good and momma is not starving herself, I see no problem with super low weight gain.

pennlexie · May 2010

hippotree:
Why? Some people just don't gain a lot of weight.

I am actually still down 5 lbs., and I only gained a total of 21 with DS1. And believe me I am eating whatever I can. Have you SEEN my posts about the cupcake truck?

pennlexie · May 2010

hippotree:
Why? Some people just don't gain a lot of weight.

I am actually still down 5 lbs., and I only gained a total of 21 with DS1. And believe me I am eating whatever I can. Have you SEEN my posts about the cupcake truck?

KRB8 · May 2010

It all depends on body type so need to gain more or less than others. So it's not easy for me to judge. I may be jealous of someone who's only gained 9 pounds at 30 weeks, but as long as LO and Mom are healthy that's all that matter.

618mom22boys · May 2010

I will be there soon and I am still down 8 lbs. But trust me I eat and I eat a lot! I don't know why I am not gaining.

ETA: And my doc has said nothing bad about it yet.

**Octoberbride09** · May 2010

*KRB*:
It all depends on body type so need to gain more or less than others. So it's not easy for me to judge. I may be jealous of someone who's only gained 9 pounds at 30 weeks, but as long as LO and Mom are healthy that's all that matter.

Ok just to clarify a bit, I think it's different when you lost a lot of weight because of morning sickness etc and now have to play catch up.

It's also a bit different if you were a bit heavier to begin with.

I brought this subject up because I was on a blog {no, I won't tell you which one} and the woman is 30 weeks pregnant or 31 now and looks thinner than Nicole Richie.

I can't fathom how that's healthy or ok.

618mom22boys · May 2010

**Octoberbride09**:
*KRB*:
It all depends on body type so need to gain more or less than others. So it's not easy for me to judge. I may be jealous of someone who's only gained 9 pounds at 30 weeks, but as long as LO and Mom are healthy that's all that matter.

Ok just to clarify a bit, I think it's different when you lost a lot of weight because of morning sickness etc and now have to play catch up.

It's also a bit different if you were a bit heavier to begin with.

I brought this subject up because I was on a blog {no, I won't tell you which one} and the woman is 30 weeks pregnant or 31 now and looks thinner than Nicole Richie.

I can't fathom how that's healthy or ok.

Ok now that I would judge too! I am 5'3 and 140 pp. SO I was not overweight but I was not skinny either.

hippotree · May 2010

**Octoberbride09**:

Ok just to clarify a bit, I think it's different when you lost a lot of weight because of morning sickness etc and now have to play catch up.

It's also a bit different if you were a bit heavier to begin with.

These don't always have to be the issue. I wasn't overweight, and I didn't lose a ton due to m/s (a few pounds, yes).

I agree with the fact that it CAN be unhealthy - but if I am eating and the baby is gaining weight as he should, what the hell else am I supposed to do?

I guess I will have another cupcake.

KJmashup · May 2010

If the doctor isn't concerned about my weight gain (or lack thereof), then I won't be concerned either. Some doctors, such as mine, are more interested in increases in fundal height measurements and in the weight gain of the baby itself.

rlyttle · May 2010

I'm not offended, I don't really care either way, but I'm almost 24 weeks and I've only gained 8lbs. I eat pretty much exactly the same as I did before prego. I just think everyone's body is different. I do walk several miles 3-4 times every week, but I did that before I was prego as well. My doctor said that I'm doing great and to keep doing exactly what I'm doing. The baby only weighs a little over a pound, so you shouldn't be gaining too much!!

Zoebot · May 2010

**Octoberbride09**:
*KRB*:
It all depends on body type so need to gain more or less than others. So it's not easy for me to judge. I may be jealous of someone who's only gained 9 pounds at 30 weeks, but as long as LO and Mom are healthy that's all that matter.
Ok just to clarify a bit, I think it's different when you lost a lot of weight because of morning sickness etc and now have to play catch up.
It's also a bit different if you were a bit heavier to begin with.
I brought this subject up because I was on a blog {no, I won't tell you which one} and the woman is 30 weeks pregnant or 31 now and looks thinner than Nicole Richie.
I can't fathom how that's healthy or ok.

[[embarrassed to admit i saw it on the tyra show]] but she had a special on "pregorexic" women - women who were so terrified of gaining too much weight that they quite literally did starve themselves, over-exercise, and even forced themselves to puke to maintain as well as they could the figure they had pre-pregnancy. it was sickening.

the families of these women were furious, of course, i just don't understand how these women could honestly "justify" it. and how those babies survived (a few of the women were second-time moms who claimed that their first babies turned out just fine, so obviously it's okay), let alone don't get taken away, is beyond me.

(i'm not trying to start a debate on social services/etc - i'll admit i don't know much about how that system works. and i don't mean to assert that these women have no rights to be mothers, but when they can't even work towards the best interest of the baby before birth, i have a hard time seeing how selfish behaviors wouldn't be continued after birth...)

ETA - and i agree with pp that as long as mom is eating, and not trying to not gain weight, then obviously it doesn't fall under the same category as the women i saw on tv.

Kimmy1836 · May 2010

This post could be said for women who go crazy, eat unhealthy, and gain 50+ pounds that is un-needed. I think that is ridiculous.

I will probably be one of those women who you 'judge' and it is at no fault of my own. I am eating like a horse and am just not gaining much weight. (am at a 6 lb weight gain right now) My baby is on the high end of the weight spectrum though, so no concern has been expressed to me yet. I wasn't heavy to start with at all (though I didn't look like Nicole Richie like the girl you described) and didn't have m/s. I actually expressed concern to my Dr and was told that as long as I am eating and the baby is developing as she should, there isn't a reason to worry yet.

Like is said in weight posts, everyone's body is different and just because someone else doesn't have the weight gain, in no way means they are unhealthy.

ames71 · May 2010

Lurking...

I'm 30 weeks, have gained 11 lbs. and neither I or my OB is worried in the least. I'm measuring right on track and the baby looks great. I lost a small amount of weight in the beginning due to morning sickness (but not that much) and I wasn't over or underweight to start. Also, my belly doesn't look that much smaller than other first timers, but I don't seem to have gained in other places very much. The point is, everyone is wildly different in how much they gain weight and where they gain it and the number alone is not a concrete determination of how healthy mom and baby are.

PS. OP?I wasn't offended by your original post, but I just wanted to give you my view.

j_st.charles · May 2010

I think it depends on your body type and also what you eat and your activity level. I was in very good shape before becoming pregnant at 153 lbs. I am 5'8" tall and was carrying quite a bit of muscle. I have gained 7 lbs to date and I am 26 weeks. I eat extremely healthy, and I still work out 5-6 days a week. I was previously overweight, lost 85 lbs about 7 years ago and work very hard to stay in shape, so to me, I absolutely wouldn't use pregnancy as an excuse to gain excess weight.

Of course I will gain weight, but not "I ate whatever the heck i wanted for 9 months" weight. My Dr. is also very weight conscious and told me my target weight gain would be 18-22 lbs. I am very proud of myself for staying on track with this. Don't get me wrong, I still have a splurge here and there but other than that I eat basically the same as I did pre-pregnancy with some additional healthy snacks.

LCB34 · May 2010

Kimmy1836:

This post could be said for women who go crazy, eat unhealthy, and gain 50+ pounds that is un-needed. I think that is ridiculous.

I agree with this as well. I judge poeple that gain way too much b/c it is unhealthy. And I don't want to read their posts in a few months where they are biitching about not being able to lose the weight.

kg_08 · May 2010

I guess we're all different. I've always been skinny, and have gained 15 lbs now at over 27 weeks.... I eat like a pig so it's just the way my body is working.

Also there's a lady on the August board who's a week or two ahead of me and it looks like she's got an 18 week bump, seriously, and it's her 2nd child!

Winter*Mommy · May 2010

You know, I used to feel the same way, until it happened to me. Please don't flame... With both of my kids' pregnancies, I ate like a freaking COW, all day long... I ate healthy, I ate some not-so-healthy. I just ate. With DD, I gained 35 pounds. With DS, I gained 13. I didn't do anything differently at all.

DS was still very healthy and actually weighed more than DD did at birth... and he continues to.

With that said, I never looked like Nicole Richie. I still LOOKED like I'd gained 30 pounds. I just didn't. And it wasn't unhealthy, or not ok. It just was.

angelnumber8 · May 2010

I have a very fast metabolism and its hard to gain weight. I can out eat many men. It just doesn't go anywhere. I only gained 14lbs with one of my DD and she weighed 9lbs 2oz. My Dr has never been concerned, some of us just gain differently at different times and as long as baby is growing then all is well. On the plus side of this, I lose all the baby weight gain in a week.

Lizzie65 · May 2010

I used to think it was crazy when people didn't gain very much weight during pregnancy. But, now I am almost 23 weeks and have only gained about 5 pounds. I have always been thin and eat a healthy diet (99% of the time). I can't figure out why I haven't gained much weight.

I was a little bit worried about my lack of weight gain, but my doctor said not to worry as long as I am eating healthy and everything is measuring on track, there is no need for concern.

That said, I knew a girl who dieted a lot during pregnancy because she "wanted a small baby." I totally judged her.

Kitiara5512 · May 2010

Uber skinny people piss me off as much as really obese ones, even when not pregnant, because it isnt healthy to see rib cage or multiple rolls of fat hanging to ones knees. Yes, I am aware someone is going to get offended I said that.

I am 209 lbs. That was my weight before I got pregnant, I went to 206 during first trimester, and then have been back at 209 for the past two months. I am eating when I get hungry, havent been dieting but I have cut out some foods, like mayo and cold cuts. There are some foods that I cant digest, like lettuce and ground meat, so those are mostly off the menu unless I really really want a salad or tacos.

My OB was very surprised that I havent gained any weight because I was so heavy to begin with and I love my coke and pepsi, but at the US last week, baby was doing really well, so we're all happy.

I think different people are going to gain weight as they need to unless they are overeating, which a lot of women do, literally trying to eat for two. I dont see how a baby can be carried to full term without some increase in girth because otherwise he/she would be kinda smooshed. My cousin's wife is one of those tiny women, she was complaining about the 10 lbs she had left over after having her baby.

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