How Do You Feel About This?

CaliforniaSunshine · May 2010

Lately I have been watching A Baby Story and Birth Day. I have noticed that a lot of the babies are being put directly on the mom's tummy right after delivery. I noticed that they didn't clean LO off at all and the moms are cuddling and kissing them when they still have the vernix, cottage cheese looking stuff all over them. I know it's my baby and it's not something that I should be worried about, but it really grosses me out. Im afraid I am going to be grossed out at LO if they give her to me that way. Does anyone else feel this way or am I nuts?

MrsSR · May 2010

I feel the SAME way. I'm going to ask about this at our tour. Hopefully she can just be given to me AFTER she's cleaned off.

alexiskiriluk · May 2010

you can ask that your baby be cleaned before they give her to you. Its totally up to you!

sandraanddrew · May 2010

Honestly.... I feel the same way. Other people may feel the opposite, but I really want them to clean him off before they give him to me. Other people I know have asked the same thing and had no problem, no one looked down on them. Best bet is to make sure that your doctor knows you feel this way ahead of time.

AllieJean · May 2010

I used to think that I would be really grossed out by all of that. But now that it is getting down to it, I would be really upset if they took my baby and rubbed him down before I got to hold him. Plus, really you are going to be covered in that stuff from the waist down so what does getting a little on your chest matter at that point?

AvidVertigo · May 2010

No I am the same way. I told my DH I would like them to take the baby and get it as clean as possible before I am to hold/feed him or her. I have said this since day one as it grosses me out too....alot of people question me about it, but I dunno - it is a personal feeling I suppose!

Violet_McPurpleson · May 2010

I want to be given my baby as soon as possible.

JhawkCE · May 2010

I told them to clean it off first.

amygauntt@windstream.net · May 2010

You won't be grossed out, guarantee it.

FWIW, in that moment, I didn't even realize she was covered in all kinds of stuff, when I looked at the pics I was amazed at how much she really did have on her.

sophie206 · May 2010

I don't mind the thought of it, but I can see how others might. I think I will just be so overwhelmed and happy to have her that I won't notice a little goo.

liza0828 · May 2010

You aren't even going to notice. It'll be the last thing on your mind, trust me.

Chickpea2010 · May 2010

Well, for me...they look slippery when they're covered in all that stuff! I'm sorry if this sounds really stupid, but more than anything, I'm afraid that I'd drop the baby my first time holding him/her!

MrsMommyQ · May 2010

I feel the same way RIGHT NOW but I think once I've had her I'll just want to hold her ASAP no matter what she's like.

jcthomas1281 · May 2010

nope, i waited over 9 months I can wait another minute or two to get the goop off. If they plop them on my tummy anyways I will oooo and ahhhhhh but no kisses just yet.

LaurelBee · May 2010

JhawkCE:
I told them to clean it off first.

Sorry, I had to giggle at you using that word

BurnNurse · May 2010

Im glad to know I'm not the only one who wants baby cleaned off first. I will be much more comfortable if they at least wipe him off before giving him to me, which should take but a few seconds anyways.

aimeelv · May 2010

It's so different when you're actually in the moment. I used to say the same thing before Zachary was born. When it actually came down to it, they put Zachary on my chest right away and I just couldn't believe how amazing he was. In the few minutes I held my goopy, slimy baby he also pooped all over my stomach. I wouldn't change anything about those precious first moments with my beautiful boy!

MNgirl326 · May 2010

I am not really concerned about it. In the moment, I don't think it will really matter to me.

I am sure I will be such an emotional ball of tears...I probably won't even notice a little slime and gook.

MWoodside · May 2010

It won't bother me at all. We are actually delaying LO being rubbed off & bathed. In my research I've found delaying removal of vernix can help in preventing food allergies.

tropical2 · May 2010

Well with my patients I ask if they would like baby on their belly or if they would like us to clean baby up first. Also I'm standing right beside stimulating and getting my apgar for the baby so I'm not gonna let the baby slide off of you. I think the baby story people just cut that part out. Of course you don't have to have the baby if your not ready. Just let your nurse know ahead of time and it's all good. It's your experience. But really when I had DD I didn't even think about the goo on her, I just reached out and took her. It was until they took her to weigh her that I realized my hand were dirty and it was no big deal the nurse just gave me a rag to wipe off with.

LMark · May 2010

It's a personal preference. I don't think I'll mind at all.

themrs830 · May 2010

I feel the opposite- the second she's free, I want my LO to be plopped up on me! I don't care what she's covered in! I want to be the first one that holds her, even if it means cleaning her off. I asked about it on my tour and at my hospital, its whatever your preference is- as the baby is close to being out, a nurse kinda drapes you in some blankets/towels and they put the baby up on them and you can help clean them off. Honestly, I don't think I'll be necessarily kissing her while she's still covered in all the juices, but I'll definitely be touching her and stuff.

Lambie. · May 2010

What tropical said. Unless something crazy was going on with delivery, I always asked first.

mr&mrswelch · May 2010

I wouldn't have a problem with it.

buffalo_buckeye · May 2010

I guess I was in the minority

. When ds was born they gave him right to me. I loved seeing him but I remember wiping him off with the blanket to get the crap out of his eyes, face etc. I waited to nurse until he was cleaned off and had his weight check (took like 5 minutes).

ashlee1120 · May 2010

I agree with it being gross but according to my child birth class instructor the reason they do that is so the natural bacteria that is on your body can colonize the baby since that is what they are going to be living around

anvloveskme · May 2010

It kinda grosses me out right now, but like many PP, I am sure I will want to hold her the moment she comes out!

0danielle0 · May 2010

MWoodside:
It won't bother me at all. We are actually delaying LO being rubbed off & bathed. In my research I've found delaying removal of vernix can help in preventing food allergies.

This. I want to let our LO nurse before she is taken from me for any reason. Most babies will actually crawl up your belly to your nipple if you let them (assuming they aren't all drugged up.) The pressure of their body helps encourage uterine contraction and is a great way to start breastfeeding.

preciousmetal · May 2010

I thought I would be bothered by it, but honestly, I didn't even notice or care. I was so immediately in love with her, and nothing else mattered. Plus I was so overcome by emotion that I couldn't stop crying, and I could barely see her through the tears. Don't let it be something that affects your birth experience.

Sam Buttons · May 2010

MWoodside:
It won't bother me at all. We are actually delaying LO being rubbed off & bathed. In my research I've found delaying removal of vernix can help in preventing food allergies.

this and even more importantly (to me personally) I have found tons of research on the benefits on immediate, prolonged skin to skin contact, they can do whatever they need, including wiping her off, to while she is in my arms/on my chest for at least the first hour after she is born.

mrs.g_6708 · May 2010

I want James immediately, fresh outta the oven! I know all the goo is gross, but I think it will be the furtherest thing from my mind and I will just want to hold my baby.

kochmcdiarts · May 2010

This makes me feel a lot better about wanting kiddo cleaned up a bit before I hold him. As a PP stated, they look really slippery and I have a hard enough time holding inanimate objects as is.. Can you imagine a slimy baby? I don't want to drop him! Also, it kind of grosses me out and I am pretty sure DH would pass out seeing the goo.

kayteatrudeau · May 2010

Me too. I want them to wipe her off while she's on my chest and then I dare the medial technicians to try to pull her away for the rest of the work that needs to be done. LOL

KelleyA · May 2010

You won't care when the baby comes. I touched all over DD when she was born (she wasn't gooey though).

plainjanie1 · May 2010

Just thinking of it as nature's baby lotion, which is all it basically is. It'll get absorbed into the baby's skin in a few minutes and leave it nice and moisturized, heh.

I don't think I'll be kissing her covered in it, but if it's possible to be handed her right away, I'll definitely take her any way she comes!

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