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Bed-sharing. Tips?

bellaleannebellaleanne member
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So This past month I have found that I'm able to function much better if I sleep with T. The kid wakes up every hour or two all night, so I was getting no sleep before. I absolutely love it, but the thing is, my whole body is messed up.

Trying to sleep in positions that are easy for BF, on top of being tense all night because I'm ultra-aware of him has caused all sorts of back/neck/arm/hip pain. At the moment, my whole body aches (you know, like it does when you have a fever). Any ideas on how to make this a little easier on my body?

Any help would be appreciated.

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  • megeliza31megeliza31

    When you are not BFing move away from him as much as you can.  I started putting DS on the bed and sleeping away from him so I was actually able to move and sleep without touching him.  I don't get much room but I still end up sleeping better than before when I was trying to not move or twist myself around him. 

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  • PrincessFiona9PrincessFiona9 member
    get one of those co-sleepers that attaches to the side of your bed, so your LO will have their own sleeping space but you can still reach them.
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  • mrgnmrgn member

    What does your pedi say about DS's waking up every hour/two hours? I just had A's 6 month appointment and our pedi said she "liked to see" A sleeping 8-11 hours at night now. Literally over the past few days, she's cut out a feeding and gives me a 6-8 hour stretch, so I know the pedis don't know it all or that DS won't be right on with what they say all the time... but it seems crazy to STILL be waking up that often. It sounds like you've had this problem for a while and it hasn't changed at all.

    In my experience, DD wakes up more when I have her in bed with me. I started out bed-sharing and I don't know if she'd smell my boobs or what but she'd be up every 2-3 hours to eat. The first time I put her in her crib, she STTN. It didn't last, but she definitely sleeps longer stretches in there.

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  • gogo2325gogo2325
    Now that H and I are splitting and he sleeps on the couch (Baby and I move out on Saturday), I like having Baby in bed with me...I know it's bad but I keep him very safe. I just need him near me right now...
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  • bellaleannebellaleanne member
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    What does your pedi say about DS's waking up every hour/two hours? I just had A's 6 month appointment and our pedi said she "liked to see" A sleeping 8-11 hours at night now. Literally over the past few days, she's cut out a feeding and gives me a 6-8 hour stretch, so I know the pedis don't know it all or that DS won't be right on with what they say all the time... but it seems crazy to STILL be waking up that often. It sounds like you've had this problem for a while and it hasn't changed at all.

    In my experience, DD wakes up more when I have her in bed with me. I started out bed-sharing and I don't know if she'd smell my boobs or what but she'd be up every 2-3 hours to eat. The first time I put her in her crib, she STTN. It didn't last, but she definitely sleeps longer stretches in there.

    I wish I could tell you...since I got laid off we haven't had any medical insurance. I applied for state assistance, but he was denied by one agency, and the other wanted to make me go after his father for support, which is not a good idea.

    I made an appointment for him to get his shots at a clinic, but they can't even get him in until next month ( he hasn't had his 4 or 6m shots yet). 

    This has been going on since birth, and it's very frustrating. Last night I tried to keep him in his crib, and he woke up every 30min-1hr (from 9:30pm until 6am) and fed EVERY time he woke up. It totally blows my mind, and I'm not sure what to do.

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  • mrgnmrgn member
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    imagemrgn:

    What does your pedi say about DS's waking up every hour/two hours? I just had A's 6 month appointment and our pedi said she "liked to see" A sleeping 8-11 hours at night now. Literally over the past few days, she's cut out a feeding and gives me a 6-8 hour stretch, so I know the pedis don't know it all or that DS won't be right on with what they say all the time... but it seems crazy to STILL be waking up that often. It sounds like you've had this problem for a while and it hasn't changed at all.

    In my experience, DD wakes up more when I have her in bed with me. I started out bed-sharing and I don't know if she'd smell my boobs or what but she'd be up every 2-3 hours to eat. The first time I put her in her crib, she STTN. It didn't last, but she definitely sleeps longer stretches in there.

    I wish I could tell you...since I got laid off we haven't had any medical insurance. I applied for state assistance, but he was denied by one agency, and the other wanted to make me go after his father for support, which is not a good idea.

    I made an appointment for him to get his shots at a clinic, but they can't even get him in until next month ( he hasn't had his 4 or 6m shots yet). 

    This has been going on since birth, and it's very frustrating. Last night I tried to keep him in his crib, and he woke up every 30min-1hr (from 9:30pm until 6am) and fed EVERY time he woke up. It totally blows my mind, and I'm not sure what to do.

    How long does he nurse for when you're feeding him? Have you tried giving him a bottle to see how much he's getting at a time?  Do you think he is just comfort nursing? I'm not an advocate for CIO but have you tried letting him fuss or even cry a little when he wakes up at night? (I'm not saying it like you haven't thought of these things. I'm sure you've tried everything that you feel is reasonable at this point). I mean, I've heard (and experienced) that babies go through periods of time with this kind of sleep pattern. But I remember you posting about this consistently for months. I think you should probably try to scrounge up some money and take him to a doctor.

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  • bellaleannebellaleanne member

    He will usually nurse for about 15 minutes. But I can tell he's really feeding, because I hear him gulping. I would LOVE to give him a bottle but he has never taken one before (not for lack of trying, trust me...he went 7hrs without feeding one night because he just won't take the bottle..lots of screaming though). 

    I have definitely tried CIO with him...multiple times. In fact, because of that, he puts himself to sleep very easily. He just won't stay asleep very long.

    I'm taking him to a clinic, but they can't get him in until next month. Budget cuts are a b!tch. 

    I know he HAS to be comfort nursing at some point, but when he's crying and rooting frantically in the middle of the night, I can't very well not give him a boob lol. I tried the pacifier multiple times, but he acts like I'm sticking poison in his mouth. Very dramatic, this one.
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  • AngiesmommyAngiesmommy

    I like the co-sleeper idea. but didnt have the space in my room to put one that attatches to the bed. Instead, I bought one that you can actually put in the bed with you. That way, baby is bed with you but still have little walls that you cant really roll over and he cant roll out of (when he starts to). It has a light on the end so you can see him but not bright enough to keep him up. When you dont need it , it folds and stores nicely.  I also moved the bed as close to the wall as possible and used pillows to fill in any extra space between the wall and bed. If you can, get a breathable bed rail for LO's side of the bed.

    Now that she's older, she still co-sleeps and you just get 'used' to them laying next to you. I know what you mean about the body aches. You give it time and you will both get used to what your boundries are. :)

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  • mrgnmrgn member
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    He will usually nurse for about 15 minutes. But I can tell he's really feeding, because I hear him gulping. I would LOVE to give him a bottle but he has never taken one before (not for lack of trying, trust me...he went 7hrs without feeding one night because he just won't take the bottle..lots of screaming though). 

    I have definitely tried CIO with him...multiple times. In fact, because of that, he puts himself to sleep very easily. He just won't stay asleep very long.

    I'm taking him to a clinic, but they can't get him in until next month. Budget cuts are a b!tch. 

    I know he HAS to be comfort nursing at some point, but when he's crying and rooting frantically in the middle of the night, I can't very well not give him a boob lol. I tried the pacifier multiple times, but he acts like I'm sticking poison in his mouth. Very dramatic, this one.

    Have you tried latex nipples? A would NOT take a silicone nip - she still won't. She gets pretty freakin' pissed at me if I try one.

    There is no way he is eating for that whole 15 mins every 1-2hours for the past 6 months straight, haha. He'd be pooping non-stop!

    Well, good luck, ma. Let us know how it goes.

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  • ladyaylenaladyaylena
    6 months is a growth spurt time... he may just need that food for a couple weeks like that.
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