Feeling a little down...

starz080 · May 2010

I keep telling myself this is totally normal, but I'm a little down today that Rosalyn hasn't started walking yet. I just saw on FB a post by a friend of mine in our church homegroup whose son that is 2 months younger than Rosalyn--that he started walking yesterday. It's not a huge deal, but it does kinda fuel my nervousness about her not taking her first unassisted steps yet.

She has stood on her own for about 1 sec each, furniture cruises, pushes her walking toy all the time, and she just started walking while we're holding her hands. The doctor said that as long as she's having progress every week, then we're headed in the right direction. So with each progression, I'm encouraged, but seeing that FB post just got me in a funk. He also said that neither of his children walked b/f 14 months so that was good to hear as well.

This is just my little vent....maybe it's flameful. I don't want to push my DD to hit her milestones just to keep up with everyone else, but it just feels like salt in the wound. Ok, I'll stop whining now.

NatPhoto09 · May 2010

It is ok to feel down. Like your dr. said try not to worry. Many told toddlers don't walk until past their first year.

MrsHughesNC · May 2010

Aww, don't feel down! Rosalyn sounds like she's well on her way to walking. There are plenty of babies on here, and just in general, who didn't walk until much later 13 mos. Holly had just started to walk at her age. I know it's hard not to worry, but that's what Mommies do. :-) As great as message boards and FB can be, I've found that it makes me over think, and compare Holly to other babies more than I should. Try not to let it get to you!

Jules_NC · May 2010

I can totally understand. E isn't walking either. She does everything that Rosalyn does and she gets VERY upset if we attempt to make her walk on her own. Obviously she's isn't ready and for the most part, I'm fine with it. That little part that isn't comes from the criticism that I've received from family and other people. I got quite a 'talking to' at her birthday party that I need to start working on her walking skills (??!!) - like somehow it is my fault that she isn't interested in walking on her own. I've gotten the same story that "so & so's child was walking at 9 months, why isn't E?" We're going in for her 12 month appointment today and I hope that the doc reassures me that we're all ok.

dbertagni · May 2010

First of all, it is normal to feel down about stuff like that, it is really hard to see other people's milestones when you are anxious for your child to hit them.

EVERYTHING Rosalyn is doing is great progress for walking, she is doing all the right things and what leads up to walking, I am sure she will be walking soon, and as long as her doctor said she is doing well, that is what is important.

My niece didn't walk until 18 months and my mom harped on it, it was so annoying, they even started in on Jocelyn before she was 1 saying that she should be walking before her birthday. Each child is different and it sounds like Rosalyn is well on her way to walking.

MereD19 · May 2010

Don't get down ... you will regret it when she does start walking - LOL! Honestly, Savannah started walking around 13 months, and for at least a month afterwards, she wanted INDEPENDENCE. So that meant, "Don't touch me mommy!". I couldn't take her anywhere b/c she always wanted down. When it became not so new, it was better. It's fun, yes, and easier, but it changes DRAMATICALLY from crawling to walking - in our case at least!

lmc0714 · May 2010

Don't feel down! Babies progress at all different levels and just because she isn't fully walking yet, pretty much doesn't mean anything! She will do it when she's ready and all you can do is encourage along the way. And, like Mere said--once she takes off on her own, you might look back on these days and wish she wasn't so fast!!

mrsmikey · May 2010

I know it's hard. Eli didn't start taking steps at all until 15 months, and I didn't consider him to be "walking" until 17. And I got really bothered by it too. It's just hard when everyone else's babies are walking already. Just remember that anything 12-18 months is considered completely normal. And sounds like she's doing all the right things as a pre-walker. But you know what? Once he started walking, it all went away. It became a moo (!) point. Then I felt dumb for worrying about it so much. Not saying your feelings are dumb, because it's impossible not to worry about them reaching their milestones. But it's like you just wonder what you got all worked up over ya know? And there were so many other things that he did really well that other kids his age weren't doing. So I tried really hard to concentrate on those things. One thing I did notice was that Eli never did that wobbly, unbalanced, drunk penguin walk. Once he started walking, it was like he'd been walking forever. So I think he probably could have walked sooner, but maybe didn't have the confidence and wanted to wait until he was really stable and ready. Most people had a hard time believing me when I told him he just learned. So hang in there, she'll be ready soon!

lah1177 · May 2010

Please please please please do not worry about it, she just turned one!! My DD is the latest walker on this board, she did not walk until 19 months. I spent way too much time worrying about it, we even took her for a physical therapy assessment and she started walking 4 days later. There was nothing wrong with her, she just was not ready. And you know what, it does not matter in the least when they start walking, who cares if it is at 12 months or 15 months or whenever. No one could even tell she was a late walker after she started walking. As long as there is not a physical issue, don't worry!!

bobsbride2006 · May 2010

It's normal to worry about your child. Remember that 12 months is an average age for kids to start walking. . .that means half of kids walk after that. My brother didn't walk until 16 months. Sounds like she'll be doing it soon since she's already cruisin'

starz080 · May 2010

Thanks for the encouragement, everyone. I regretted posting this as soon as I hit "post" just b/c I knew that it's way too soon to even worry about it. I was just having a 'moment'. As much as I remind myself, it's so hard not to compare.

QCBride06 · May 2010

Haven't read the other posts but I am sure they say the same thing DON"T worry about it! Trust me as soon as she starts walking you are going to wish she weren't - they NEVER stop! Big Smile

Will was 15 months when he started walking! And before that he never would even walk while we held his hand.... He'd cruise on furniture, climb on couches, furniture, stairs, etc but refused to walk. Literally one day he was walking holding our hand and 2 days later he was actually walking. Now that he has been walking for about 6 weeks I am SOOOO glad he wasn't an early walker. She will do it when she is ready. Someone told me the "milestone" for walking is 15 months anyway, so I just didn't worry about, I knew he wouldn't be in kindergarten crawling Stick out tongue

WendyNC · May 2010

Camryn didn't walk until 15 months.

Also, I emailed you yesterday instead of FB message to whatever email is listed on your FB....did you get it?

starz080 · May 2010

WendyNC:

Camryn didn't walk until 15 months.

Also, I emailed you yesterday instead of FB message to whatever email is listed on your FB....did you get it?

I'm so glad you told me b/c I rarely check that e-mail. Off to go check....thanks!

WendyNC · May 2010

starz080:
WendyNC:

Camryn didn't walk until 15 months.

Also, I emailed you yesterday instead of FB message to whatever email is listed on your FB....did you get it?

I'm so glad you told me b/c I rarely check that e-mail. Off to go check....thanks!

That's what I started to figure when I hadn't heard back from you FB kept messing up when I was trying to message you back yesterday and I was afraid it was going to eat my whole message, so that's why I emailed!

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