repost from 2u2: would you/have you gone to a wedding with 2u2?

alli2672 · May 2010

There is a wedding coming up this weekend about 4 hours away, so I will have to spend the night. DH can't go because he has to work. It's a family wedding though, so my parents, brother and sister will be there. My brother is best man though, and my sister is 21 and bringing her boyfriend. My parents will help, but they won't be babysitters for the night (i.e. they won't be available at crucial times like when the meal is served, when the boys need to go to bed, etc.)

My two are 22 months and 6 months (the 6 month old is too big for his infant carrier).

I was planning on going, bringing the booster seat, and going back to the hotel room early. Now I'm wondering if it's goin to be too chaotic or even worth it to go.

Would you go? Do you have any suggestions on what might make this easier?

ali-1411 · May 2010

I think it really depends on your kids. Are they the types to sit quietly?

I wouldn't bring my 20 month DD to a wedding. She's not so good at the sitting quietly. And if I had to manage a baby along with her? Oh hell no

TexasLadyBug · May 2010

I am not 2u2 yet, but we just got back from a four hour car ride yesterday for over the weekend and it SUCKED. Its normally not that bad, but DS was just having a bad time.

I think you can do it alone (car ride) since you will have so much help when you get there.

Personally though we are so far into a two parent routine I think I would loss my mind doing everything by myself, when i was out of my element (not at home).

alli2672 · May 2010

ali-1411:

I think it really depends on your kids. Are they the types to sit quietly?

I wouldn't bring my 20 month DD to a wedding. She's not so good at the sitting quietly. And if I had to manage a baby along with her? Oh hell no

well, the 6 month old is at an age where he loves to just sit and smile and has no stranger anxiety yet. The older one won't sit quietly, but our family weddings tend to be loud, so I imagine it won't be a problem if he is running around during the reception.

I see what you mean though. I have no idea why I was thinking this would be no problem.

LuckySunshineBaby · May 2010

The fact that you're even considering this tells me you are awesome. Because I barely leave the house with my 20 month old. DD is not likely to sit (let alone with out shouting) for any length of time. How close are you to the family being married? Maybe they could suggest a sitter for the services? Or would your Mom or Dad being willing to sit with the 6 month old if you have to take the older one out of the church? I would be more hung up on the church part than the meal or anything else I could leave without causing a scene.

alli2672 · May 2010

TexasLadyBug:

Personally though we are so far into a two parent routine I think I would loss my mind doing everything by myself, when i was out of my element (not at home).

my DH works a lot, and I am used to not having him around. That is a good point about the carride. Maybe I will get one of those DVD players for the headrest.

TMs1stBaby · May 2010

No, I don't think I would.

alli2672 · May 2010

LuckySunshineBaby:
The fact that you're even considering this tells me you are awesome. Because I barely leave the house with my 20 month old. DD is not likely to sit (let alone with out shouting) for any length of time. How close are you to the family being married? Maybe they could suggest a sitter for the services? Or would your Mom or Dad being willing to sit with the 6 month old if you have to take the older one out of the church? I would be more hung up on the church part than the meal or anything else I could leave without causing a scene.

LOL..thanks. It's my cousin getting married. I have 40 cousins, but we all see each other every couple of months or so. I'm not too worried about the service. There is a cry room in the back of the church that is soundproof but has a window so you can see and the audio is piped in. My parents will help out then too. I am more worried about the reception because no one is going to want to leave if I need help getting out

Maybe I will ask one of my cousins who just graduated from high school if she knows anyone who could sit. If nothing else, she could hang out with my two in the hotel room after they go to sleep, and I can join the reception. Good idea!

kada626 · May 2010

I was in a situation like that. The girls were 3 months old & 22 months old. I was the MOH & my older dd was the flower girl. I had my DH with me too.

It was 4hrs away & since I was in the wedding I had to spend the night 2 nights. To be honest, it was horrible & I couldn't wait for it to be over. The girls wouldn't sleep at the hotel. Their naps were thrown off(mostly due to dd having to be in pictures). It was too noisy for them at the wedding and we couldn't stay out late anyway. I spent my time running around doing wedding stuff and holding the baby. My family was there & I thought they would help but didn't (they even left early).

So unless its a really important person I wouldn't do it. If it was my sister or best friend, then yes. I suppose it would be a lot easier if you not in the wedding too. Things that would help- bring lots of snacks & water, some new toys they never seen and a dvd player for the car.

alli2672 · May 2010

kada626:

It was too noisy for them at the wedding and we couldn't stay out late anyway. I spent my time running around doing wedding stuff and holding the baby. My family was there & I thought they would help but didn't (they even left early).

This is exactly my concern. It's kind of disheartening to hear this was your experience.

Thanks for the advice.

almostabuck · May 2010

I am going to a wedding with the girls in 2 weeks. It will be about three hours away and we are spending the weekend with friends. We have eaten out several times with them and so far, so good. I wouldn't want to do it by myself, but with DH it should be fine.

It's not like we sleep now anyway and it will be nice to see friends.

johnsoar · May 2010

I wouldn't bring them myself. Could you skip the wedding and just attend the reception?

I was in a wedding and they had to come but they stayed with a family friend during the ceremony and DH went back to get them for the reception.

Lavender444 · May 2010

We just got back from a wedding that we had to travel for and my DH was in the wedding party so it was just me and my 19 and 5 month old. I'm not gonna lie, some parts of it were hard. The babies and I skipped the ceremony and came down during cocktail hour. Dinner was tough and I didn't get to eat much. We also missed the toasts since my DS would get scared every time it got loud with cheers. But the reception was lots of fun! My toddler had a great time dancing and by that time DH was done with his wedding party duties so he could help out. I ended up bringing my Baby Bjorn and wearing DS so I could chase my DD around.

Some parts were hard, but I wasn;t scared enough not to do it again. Expecially if I had family around to help, even if their help was very breif.

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