Anyone told they were having a boy and had a girl?

ActiveMama · May 2010

Went for my big US on wednesday and told the tech that I didn't want to know what I was having. Unfortunately, I am in the medical field and have an idea of what I am looking at. The tech does a very complete sonogram and says that she is "staying away" from that area. During the very last few minutes, she flips to 3D and is around the abdomen area. I swore I saw a penis. I have the same pictures from where she was looking at the time and you can kind of see a small thing at the bottom of the picture by one of the legs. It is NOT the umbilical cord - which you can plainly see in the picture as well.

Needless to say, I was a bit shocked and bummed because this happened with my second son (where I saw the penis and wasn't supposed to). I didn't confirm with her what I saw because I didn't want confirmation without my husband there.

The good news is the baby is healthy and the subchorionic bleed that I have is much smaller.

Now when I tell people that I am pretty sure that I saw a penis and this will be our 3rd son, I am getting the "I'm sorry" or "that is too bad."

On Wednesday and even during every sonogram before, I have never seen anything between the legs (during a regular sonogram).

Just curious if anyone was told or thought they were having a boy and ended up with a girl.

littleanomaly · May 2010

Most of the errors that I've heard of were people being told it was a girl and it ended up being a boy. I've only heard of 1 person having a boy turn into a girl.

laurenfeuker · May 2010

Hi, I hopes this helps instead of confirms- but this is what my babys penis looked like in 4D.

laurenfeuker · May 2010

piecesofflare:

Oh my God, those 3D pics are terrifying.

Anyway, I'm sorry OP. I hate that the surprise was probably ruined for you, but PP was right - the errors tend to be missing a penis, rather than imagining one.

But three boys is an amazing blessing and I wish you lots of joy.

Everyone can have their own thoughts but mine are that it was beautiful to see my growing baby in my belly. Hes even smiling. It was amazing to see that!

VABride2008 · May 2010

My husband's biggest fear is that we were told we are having a girl and then finding out later it is a boy. Not because he doesn't want a boy, but just because we've already been buying things and painted the nursery. We go in a few weeks for my 28 week ultrasound to check my placenta, hope they are still saying girl!!

ActiveMama · May 2010

Thanks for the responses. Yes, the ultrasound pic does help. Just confirms what I saw.

Having a surprise ruined (especially the 2nd time) is not fun and dealing with people responses that are just so negative about having multiple boys ......... is just exhausting. I didn't have a 3rd child to "try" for the girl. I had a 3rd child because we love our boys and wanted to grow our family - boy or girl.

Monkey304 · May 2010

A friend of mine was told her entire pregnancy that she was having a boy. When the baby was born and they said it was a girl,my poor friend was in denial for 24 hours.

You are never 100% sure until the baby is here....

laurenfeuker · May 2010

piecesofflare:

I generally don't think 3D pics are scary. I think yours are scary. Sorry.

(And he's not smiling because he's happy, he's just moving his face.)

I would hope you wouldnt tell someones born baby they look scary so why would you call my unborn child scary? Beats me. I just think its rude.

--- To the poster- im glad it helped. 3 boys will be amazing if thats they way it turns out! & im glad your happy eirther way! I never do understand why people say negative things about boys- their awesome!

laurenfeuker · May 2010

piecesofflare:
laurenfeuker:

I would hope you wouldnt tell someones born baby they look scary so why would you call my unborn child scary? Beats me. I just think its rude.

Because when babies have already come out of you they don't generally look like they're floating around planning to eat you. A lot of 3D scans aren't creepy. Yours just happens to make your baby look scary.

It's not actually what your baby will look like when it comes out. But it's a pretty freaky distorted picture of it.

My husband walked by and said, 'yeah, that's why I don't want a 3D scan'. Sometimes they make the babies look really creepy.

I really dont want to debate any more- you can be right. But I just noticed your ticker. In about a week and a half your baby will be the same age as mine was when I got those done. So on that day you and your hubby can just think how creepy & scary your baby looks rather then precious and beautiful growing in your belly.

kathleen02 · May 2010

Didn't happen to me but I know of someone it did happen to. Her husband (they eventually divorced, he was a jerk) wanted to know and she didn't so they agreed to have the tech tell the husband. Well shortly after in a heated argument unrelated to the issue he blurted out that they were having a boy. Well, lo and behold (I think it's karma too) they ended up having a girl! So yes, it isn't an exact science just from an u/s.

kathleen02 · May 2010

piecesofflare:
ETA: You had a 3D scan at 15 weeks? Why? I'll be glad that at my 18 week scan my baby will at least be more developed than that. They double in size between 15-20 weeks, so mine won't actually look a thing like that by then, anyway.

I had a couple 3D images at 12 weeks. You want to know why? Well, the tech literally flipped a switch on her keyboard and the image changed so there really was no reason for me other than the tech was showing off her machine. And yes it looked a little odd but not creepy LOL that seems slightly dramatic.

tct1219 · May 2010

i was supposed to be a boy, as were several of my female friends, but that was in the 80s. my mom even had an amnio so medicine has clearly improved since then.

i don't hear of many mistakes nowadays except, like pps said, when "girls" turn out to be boys. i think 3 little boys will be great but if you do end up with a girl, that will be wonderful, too

TheSkimmy · May 2010

If you didn't want to know what you were having why did you look when she was looking in that area?? I don't think you can go out and buy boy things after maybe seeing something near a leg.

itsmyangel · May 2010

lauren...i have my 3d pic in my siggy too lol

op.. i'm sorry you had your surprise ruined....but maybe you didn't see what you thought you saw? lol..i know that sounds funny....and i didn't see it obviously....but if she wasn't looking right at it maybe you saw something else there instead? not sure lol..just trying to be positive

hollowstar · May 2010

LOL @ the drama guys! I don't think it's rude to say an image looks scary. I've seen lots of creepy looking sonograms - has nothing to do with how your BABY looks, but rather the way the technology is showing him. Hell, I'm sure we would have thought some of our u/s pics were freaky if the tech hadn't been choosy about the ones he printed out. Fetuses look like little aliens - and feel like them too IMO!

juangela · May 2010

What a bummer that you saw something you didn't want to! DH is 1 of 3 boys, and I happen to think my ILs are quite blessed!

I always find it annoying that people show any kind of disappointment at the sex of your child. BIL and SIL keep freaking out that DH and I HAVE to have a girl...well, we really have no control and LO is what it is! Would I love a little girl? Yup. Would I love a little boy? Yup. My preference changes from day-to-day, and honestly, I'll just take a healthy baby! I'm a little nervous to tell them if it is a boy...cause seriously, that is not something worth someone's pity!

Allie30 · May 2010

Wow, this thread is full of inappropriate responses.

To the OP, it's horrible that the people in your life are acting disappointed about your baby. If you don't know what you are having, definitively, then I probably wouldn't be telling F&F about it. Additionally, I am not a sonographer, and I don't know what you saw, but there are often "things" in the ultrasound that look like something that are just artifacts. For instance, there was a "thing" in my 13 week scan that my brother in law (also not a sonographer) decided was a penis or scrotum, and we had to explain to him that the penis was not that developed yet and there WAS no scrotum at that stage of fetal development, so he was imagining things. (The baby turned out to be a girl at the 20 week scan.) What he thought was a "scrotum" was actually an artifact, probably a piece of placenta that got "caught" in the slice of the 3d/4d scan.

If you didn't want to know the sex, you probably shouldn't have looked at the sonogram OR printed out a picture that shows that area of the body. I am surprised they gave that part to you, and the fact that they did probably indicates you aren't seeing what you think you are seeing.

Personally, I'd give anything for more pictures of my ultrasound. She printed out a few pics of the baby's face and nothing else for me. She took a ton of measurements. Why couldn't i have copies of them all?

Lauren's baby looks great to me (precious and beautiful and I love his name!), and guess what, Pieces? Sometimes EVERY ultrasound you get is a 3d one because that's what the doc has in the office. I can't believe you are calling her out because her doctor happens to have superior technology available for his/her patients. I had a NT screening at 13 weeks and a 3d ultrasound and far from being "freaky" it was actually beautiful and wonderful to see such amazing detail of my baby. The anatomy scan I had at 20 weeks was NOT 3d because this doc's office doesn't have any 3d machines, and I'd give anything to see the level of detail again now. I have a whole DVD and dozens of pics for my 13 wk scan and a few grainy snaps for my 20 weeker. Luckily I'll be able to get another 3d scan at the end of July.

ColieJ · May 2010

If you don't want to know and you see she is near the abdomen why not look away? Yes there are a few people on the board told the wrong gender.

lucylarou · May 2010

If you feel so sure you're having a boy that you're telling people, why not call your doctor and ask what the gender is? I think I'd rather know for sure (as sure as possible) than think you know but still be wondering. That's different from enjoying the not knowing, to me.

Temp984666312503071 · May 2010

I'm sorry your surprise was ruined (or might have been ruined). Again.

Have you told the u/s techs that you are familiar with ultrasound and to be extra careful to tell you to look away at the right times? Because most techs just assume we can't tell an ass from an elbow (which for the majority of us is true Smile . My best friend is an OB and she wanted a surprise. She had to be very clear at her ultrasounds that she only wanted to see certain images and had to look away for a good portion of the u/s. If she had just stared at the screen like most of us do she would have easily known the sex by the end.

Sorry you are disappointed.

bwarfield · May 2010

My baby sister was born 04/2003 and the entire pregnancy the doctors were sure and confirming she was a boy but lo and behold Destiny was born a girl. EVERYONE was shocked because we were ill prepared and my mom already had 3 girls so Destiny made 4...however mom got pregnant again (huge suprise) and she finally got her boy 01/2004.

Allie30 · May 2010

piecesofflare:

And to chicky who's going on about superior technology... yeah, I have an ultrasound pic of my embryos seconds after they were transferred to my uterus. You can see the actual embryos. 3D ultrasounds aren't superior, they're just different. And every machine I've had a prenatal ultrasound on so far (and I've had seven, not to mention the 40 or so I had during cycle monitoring) also has the technology to flip to 3D. They just don't use it for most scans because it's not superior. When I've been in for scans it's been to check for things like, oh, I don't know, organ and bone development. 3D pictures don't show you that.

Um, "Chicky?" Really?

I've got news for you, "chicky." 3d/4d scans ARE superior technology, and NO, every ultrasound machine does NOT have the ability to do 3d/4d scans (my one doctor's office DOESN'T and when I showed them the 3D/4D pictures I got at my other's office they specifically asked me if I'd prefer to get all my scans done at the other doctor's because the other one was "much better"), and NO, the point of 3d/4d ultrasounds is NOT *just* to show you "creepy pictures." YES, a regular sonogram can show you some things about organ and bone development. That's pretty much the only accurate part of your post. And still a 3d/4d scan can show you much more, especially in terms of volume and in terms of clarity/accuracy because you aren't just looking at a single plane.

The benefits to getting this kind of scanning include:

* ability of doctors to visualize movement of internal anatomy in real time

*ultrasound guided biopsies thanks to the visualization of needle movements in real time in all 3 planes (this is very common in cardiac patients)

* ability of doctors to detect or rule out things like vascular anomalies, fetal heart abnormalities and certain genetic syndromes (there have been studies showing that 3d/4d ultrasounds can help diagnose CP).

Read these articles for more information about the subject:

* https://www.imagingeconomics.com/issues/articles/2004-12_08.asp

* https://www.bizjournals.com/jacksonville/stories/1999/06/07/focus2.html

* https://www.layyous.com/ultasound/clinicaladvantages.htm

A family member is a sonographic specialist for almost three decades and has even taught at international conventions on the subject. If there were no advantages to a 3d ultrasound other than "pretty/creepy pictures" do you really think that doctors and not just mall photo shops would be investing in them?

laurenfeuker · May 2010

Allie30:

Lauren's baby looks great to me (precious and beautiful and I love his name!), and guess what, Pieces? Sometimes EVERY ultrasound you get is a 3d one because that's what the doc has in the office. I can't believe you are calling her out because her doctor happens to have superior technology available for his/her patients. I had a NT screening at 13 weeks and a 3d ultrasound and far from being "freaky" it was actually beautiful and wonderful to see such amazing detail of my baby. The anatomy scan I had at 20 weeks was NOT 3d because this doc's office doesn't have any 3d machines, and I'd give anything to see the level of detail again now. I have a whole DVD and dozens of pics for my 13 wk scan and a few grainy snaps for my 20 weeker. Luckily I'll be able to get another 3d scan at the end of July.

Thank you!!! I thought id never come up with a name & as soon as we said Luke Charles- we just knew it was perfect for our little guy!

Estrayer1 · May 2010

27 years ago they told my mom I was a boy.

At 16 weeks they told us we were having a boy, then at 18 weeks we found out it was a girl. It happens

My husband just walked by and said 3 boys sounds awesome!

** Don't listen to "pieces", some people have the ability to find something negative in everything. We all know her response was immature.

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