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Are all doctors like that??!!
we did our 20 wks U/S on Monday and went on an routine visit to be OB dr.
She went over some routine questions like how are you feeling etc and listened to the heart beat of the baby. So I asked her if we can go over the measurement such as length ,weight of the baby from the 20 wks U/S. She looked at us and asked " why? why do you want to know that?" " if there is anything unusual , they would inform us" so I told her " well the technician told me she sent over the U/S result to you and you can review the info with me" ....then she looked at the report and said " everything is normal , good" .I am upset.. I mean I know she saw thousands of pregnant women and this is probably nothing special to her . But to us, this is our 1st child and being 1st time parents to be - this is something special to us. And I don't think I went overboard by asking about the measurement of the baby ,,,,
What do you guys think? am I asking too much? does ur OB discuss the U/S result with u?
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Re: Are all doctors like that??!!
no my doctor didnt discuss the results with me either...BUT i had a great u/s tech that kinda was saying that everything was good as she was doing the measurements, she told us how heavy he was and on my u/s pic it had how long he is.
all my OB said was "everything is normal, he looks great!" i dont think they really discuss anything with you unless something is wrong but no i dont think it was to much too ask to know the measurements of your little one!
I dont think you're being unreasonable at all. Thats super crappy your OB cant even answer a simple question for you. Our tech told us during the u/s how much the baby weighed, etc.. The only thing I asked the OB afterwards was the length of my cervix, just because I was curious. I didn't have any other questions regarding the u/s, but I know my OB would've taken 5 minutes if I had. That is just ridiculous.
Maybe I'm the odd one out, but I wouldn't get wrapped up in it. Weight measurements are notoriously wrong and can be off by 2lbs either way, so it's just a guess anyhow.
Here, they won't even tell you the gender though... so maybe I just don't think it's that big of a deal. As long as "everything looks good" and baby is healthy, does anything else really matter?
the utltrasound tech told me how much she weighed,1 lb 1oz, she couldn't give me how long because lil miss wouldn't move off my bladder so she couldn't get a good look at the whole spine. Oh well, I know she is growing like she should. Now if she wouldn't be so stubborn.
Honestly, if a doctor told me that I didn't have a right to *MY* medical information, I'd be getting all my records before I left that day so I could find a new one.(and I've left doctors over reluctance to accept that I'm not a moron and that I have reasons, however dumb they may think, to want my information--and to not trust them)
I really don't think you need the information you asked for--I didn't ask for it and I prefer 'everything is fine' w/ the details.
But I don't care WHAT it is--it's your information. If that information is how many toes the baby has or how many BPM the heart is, it's your information and hsould be available.
If she said everything is normal for 20 weeks I'm not sure what more information you would be looking for. My DH was scared that the baby would be short like us (I'm 5"2" and he's 5"9") and when the Dr. said she's normal for her growth we left it at that.
The only thing my OB says is the results straight up. Usually it's a "nothing to worry about, everything looks great".
Just breathe. Everything will be wonderful!
She wants to know the answer to the question she asked the doctor, for starters. Maybe the rest of you don't care or want to know, but she asked a question - one that the doctor could have easily answered - and the doctor blew her off. If you asked a valid question of your doctor and they responded by saying "Why would you want to know that?" and then STILL not giving an answer to the question, would YOU be upset? I know I would.
I agree with this. Also, when I was pregnant with DS, I wondered if he was going to be a big baby like DH and I were. My tech was REALLY nice, she went over all the important measurements, told me how many weeks/days specific parts measured, etc.
Was it medically necessary for me to know? No. Did I want to know anyway for fun? Sure.
She did get an answer.
.then she looked at the report and said " everything is normal , good"
To me knowing the baby is actually healthy would be enough form me. But than again I have never got to hear your baby is healthy.
I don't think it is unreasonable that they didn't tell you the information at first, it isn't that relevant and often not accurate. HOWEVER, after you asked for the information they should have taken the time to answer your questions. It makes them seem like they can't be trusted, which is not a quality I wnat in my OB.
A couple of weeks ago I had an emergency appointment with an OB at the practice we go to... we rotate through each of the 7 doctors. I was very unhappy with the doctor (she huffed when my husband asked for a copy of the sonogram, rolled her eyes and told me she didn't have time when I asked if I could ask a few questions, and didn't introduce herself before immediately telling me when she walked into the room that she was VERY concerned about my pregnancy)... I will definitely be requesting that I be taken off her rotation and that all my subsequent appointments be with one of the other 6 doctors. I do not think that is too much to ask. Just be assertive and let your practice know what you want. Stay within reason though!
OP - They probably don't tell the exact measurements b/c they've most likely had some crazy mamas who've then gone home and compared their babies' measurements to what 4 pregnancy books and 8 websites say is "normal" and then come back in freaking out because one of the sources implied that they were outside of normal range.
I'm certianly not saying you fall into that category, but where there's such a range of sizes at any given gestational point, your doctor probably feel that s/he is the best jusdge of "normal" at that point.
I'm sorry to hear that. It certainly does shift your perspective when you are simply hoping for a healthy child.
You're right, she did get "an answer" - an answer to A question. She did not, however, get the answer to HER question. In OP's case, it is obvious that the doctor - for whatever reason - was blowing her off. Imagine if you asked what you felt was a valid (and really quite simple) question of your doctor, and she responded in that way to you. This is my point - her doctor was rude and dismissive, regardless of the question's content.
Whether her doctor just has a very poor bedside manner or really just couldn't care less anymore, I'd be concerned about getting the information I needed or wanted from her after that exchange.
I like a PP's suggestion: if that's not the only doctor in the practice, opt out of her rotation. If it is the only doctor, or there are only a handful, I might see how the next exchange with her goes and then make your decision. You can switch doctors at any time; you shouldn't stick with a practice where you don't feel you are getting the care or attention you need and deserve.
This, exactly. If your doctor isn't willing to share the results of an u/s when you ask, I can only imagine the crap she won't explain to you when you're in labor - I would switch doctors, or like someone else said, request not to see her anymore.
DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)