Would you throw this out there on FB for opinions?

Jimsgirl5821 · May 2010

FB Friend's status this morning:

"I got some disturbing news at the doctor today!! I got the results of my 1st trimester testing today. The results are that I have a 1 in 55 chance of having a Downs Syndrome baby. They want me to have an amniocentesis for a 100% diagnosis. But with that is a chance of miscarriage. I dont think I would be able to terminate anyway... I am already in love with this baby. Heartbeat excellent. What should I do????"

Maybe its me...I am just very private and wouldnt want something personal to decide between me and DH out in the world for people's opinions...some will be supportive, some can be jerks...but...everyone is different. Either way, I hope all turns out well for her and her little baby....and of course she had like a million comments, people arguing with each other, etc.

jenna0627 · May 2010

Indifferent

"What should I do?" Tongue Tied

Squishycheeks · May 2010

No way I'd post that on FB. I probably wouldn't tell most of my family. I would want to make a decision that hadn't been clouded by a bunch of unwanted opinions!

kellyperk85 · May 2010

Maybe she should get some IRL friends to talk to about this. Putting your bizz out there on Front Street like that is weird to me.

deltagirl79 · May 2010

That is so sad. I hope everything turns out okay with her baby.

As for the FB thing, no, no way would I put that on FB. We had a wierd test result with DS and I didn't tell anyone I just wanted to deal with it DH and I.

sammiekc · May 2010

I think that is a little weird. I would never post something like that on Facebook early in pregnancy. And I would never ask other people's opinion on whether or not I should abort my baby. Maybe once she was in 2nd or 3rd trimester she could inform everyone if she really wanted to.

Jen1231 · May 2010

I would never put something like that on FB!!

thequeeenbee · May 2010

In that situation I can see myself putting something in my status about it and say that I will have to decide whether or not to get the amnio. But I don't think I would ask for opinons on the matter. It would be a very private decision. Maybe she doesn't realize that she is setting herself up for a lot of negativity from people who don't really understand. I hope everything turns out well for her!

Jimsgirl5821 · May 2010

It just seems she's creating a circus out of this private family matter. Of course I dont blame her for wanting to get it off her chest and talk to others about it...but that's not the way to do it. And the hell I'd let majority opinion on FB decide something like that.

FlaCourtney · May 2010

I would not base my opinion on what people posted to me on FB -- that's a really personal decision and not something I would throw out there like that. But she is probably just really overwhelmed and confused and needs some support more than anything.

I am pretty private about that stuff and personally would not post about it until I had my game plan.

Jimsgirl5821 · May 2010

kellyperk85:
Maybe she should get some IRL friends to talk to about this. Putting your bizz out there on Front Street like that is weird to me.

She's one of those people though that tosses EVERYTHING out there on FB.

ivs112 · May 2010

Never. I would never post anything that private on FB. My status updates are always totally generic, random things, nothing personal.

Shlei · May 2010

Oh man, she opened up a can of worms. I would not ask what I should do if I already had my mind made up.

fnkeefresh · May 2010

Um.....wow. I wouldn't post it. I would talk with DH and our OB to find out what the best option would be. I might post it on HERE and ask people who have had a similar experience what their outcomes were.

Lesley0228 · May 2010

ivs112:
Never. I would never post anything that private on FB. My status updates are always totally generic, random things, nothing personal.

This. If I post something about my life, its something that I wouldn't care if the mailman knew. Something like this is way too personal for me to put on FB. But I didn't even announce I was pregnant on FB until I was 18 weeks.

iowagirl73 · May 2010

I wouldn't put that out there. You are just inviting drama over something extremely personal and especially over a choice that no one can make but you/her and the partner.

monica93555 · May 2010

I may put it out there on fb but not for opinion purposes... more for support.

gettin' hitched · May 2010

It makes you wonder if she wants people to convince her to have the amnio.

mrsbird1129 · May 2010

I would never put that on fb. That would be a decision for me and my huband alone. If I wanted advice, I'd do so in private - from informed individuals.

mavilabride · May 2010

I don't think it's weird. Would I do it? No. But she just received news about her baby that she was not expecting. News that any one of us would have reacted to. She wants opinions and support. Some people don't have that kind of outlet "IRL" and she probably feels like she has a large community of mommies on FB and wants to get help from them. Hope everything with the baby turns out well.

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