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bwralc · May 2010

Sometimes I wish we would not have taken in our two cats. They were abandoned and needed a home and DH and I love animals. I love my cats, and they are my babies it's just that we already had two dogs and I am allergic.

I love them dearly it's just really hard having two dogs, two cats, a baby and a allergy to the cats. Also my Mom is severely allergic and hates that I have them which makes it hard. She can't be at my house for more than a couple of hours without having to leave even on allergy meds.

I would never give them up, they are loved and well taken care for. Sometimes it's just hard and I wonder if I made the right decision, especially when I need help with DD and I can't get a lot of help b/c of them. Crying

jenn11980 · May 2010

You did do the right thing by giving them a loving home. Could you start asking around to your neighbors or friends if they would maybe take them from you? They would still have a loving home, but it would make things easier for you. I love cats and we tried to take one in a while ago, but he and my cat just couldn't get along. We did find a home for the cat though.

sammiekc · May 2010

I will never understand why people who are allergic will keep animals just because they feel bad.

I understand you love them but IMO you and your family member's comfort are more important. I am sure that you could find a good home for them if you really wanted to.

bwralc · May 2010

I have thought about it, but it would be extremely hard to give up my babies. Especially b/c of their issues. One has a heart murmur and has to be on medication 2x/day. He is so good and actually meows when it's time to take his pill.

Our other guy had to have surgery a year ago b/c of urinary stones and our little he and to become a she to fix the issue. (the stones were blocking his pee from coming out and if we hadn't caught it he would have died). He is overweight b/c of his special food that he needs now.

It's just hard when your life is upside down and your barely staying afloat. FIL recently had a stroke and his finances/everything is out of control. We are trying to pick up the pieces even though he lives 7 hours away. I really need help with DD now that she is mobile and my family is trying to help but our kitties make things harder. ::sigh:: Thanks for listening to me whine about how hard my life is right now.

bwralc · May 2010

sammiekc:
I will never understand why people who are allergic will keep animals just because they feel bad.
I understand you love them but IMO you and your family member's comfort are more important. I am sure that you could find a good home for them if you really wanted to.

I'm sure I could find them a good home. It's just that I love them, I guess it's hard to explain. It's hard to be allergic, but harder IMOP to give up an animal that you are in love with.

MiaVonT · May 2010

no flames from me as I am having issues with my cats as well .... the oldest has to be on a special expensive diet and the other is having liver issues and has cost us a bit of money already and we are nursing her back to health. Just seems like so much with the kids and the animals. I was tempted to find homes for them when the smallest one kept peeing on our bed when we were sleeping Tongue Tied

meg1974 · May 2010

I totally understand. I have 3 cats and a dog, and about 2 years ago I found out I'm allergic to all of them. I don't want to get rid of them, but I feel just like you sometimes. I have air purifiers in every room, and when I'm finished BFing I'll go back on my meds, which controlled the alleriges really well.

Another annoying thing about them is that I always have to be on alert with DD. She LOVES the cats, and will go right up to them and grab their hair. I have to intervene before one of them snaps at her, which I couldn't blame them for. Sometimes I wish I could just put her in the floor and let her crawl around while I get something done, but I can't.

erino&chrish · May 2010

bwralc:

I have thought about it, but it would be extremely hard to give up my babies. Especially b/c of their issues. One has a heart murmur and has to be on medication 2x/day. He is so good and actually meows when it's time to take his pill.

Our other guy had to have surgery a year ago b/c of urinary stones and our little he and to become a she to fix the issue. (the stones were blocking his pee from coming out and if we hadn't caught it he would have died). He is overweight b/c of his special food that he needs now.

It's just hard when your life is upside down and your barely staying afloat. FIL recently had a stroke and his finances/everything is out of control. We are trying to pick up the pieces even though he lives 7 hours away. I really need help with DD now that she is mobile and my family is trying to help but our kitties make things harder. ::sigh:: Thanks for listening to me whine about how hard my life is right now.

Aw, I'm so sorry to hear things are tough for you right now. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate. From a fellow animal lover, I wanted to tell you how noble I think it is that you're sticking it out with your kitties. I know how hard it can be. We adopted my dad's cat last year and already had two cats. Now the two male cats are peeing places (we had the other two for 5 years with no issues) and I feel like I'm constantly cleaning up after them. I just did wash because one of them threw up on the bed. I know what you mean about knowing you'll never give them up but also kind of not enjoying them either. Hang in there, and just remember you're totally doing the right thing!

meg1974 · May 2010

I just read the rest of your posts, and one of my cats has the same issues with the stones. He had surgery to have them removed and is on special food as well.

Is there any way you could put one or all of them outside for a little while each day, just so you can get a break, and while your mom comes over? Or, do you have a porch they could go on or a room you could confine them to? I put mine on the porch at night so we can leave the door to DD's room open.

lmjt · May 2010

No flames here. I don't have cats, but I had 2 rescued pit bulls when DS was born. One dog loves him, and the other one lunged and growled at him and tried to bite him. He had to get a new home. My family was scared of him too, which made things even harder. It was devistating to have to give him up, but now he's in a home with no children and he's happy and I don't have to be afraid he's going to bite DS. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is the right thing to do.

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