Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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Re: Oh the names that I have seen...Tay-tay's got nothin' on these poor things!
Whoops...sorry! I wrote a bad word! OK, so A**hole is the childs name.
oh goodness...
Well my sister said someone said they named thier kid "Taqueria" cause they liked the sound.
I don't know if you know what that is, but here in Texas it's a mexican restaurant...prounouced (Taco-ria)!!
It's a GIRL!
I have an acquaintance who had twins.
The first name is ok - Connor Chance
The second - Devlin Deuce
Here was her thinking - By "Chance" she had "Deuce" babies!
Oh lordy no!!! LOL!
I've known a Shithead (Shi-theed) and a person named Money. Celebrity baby names are the funniest. Names like Alabama Gypsy Rose, Tabooger, Blanket, and the list goes on.
Names like these make my day. I also thank my parents that I got Susanna and not a crazy name like Tabooger.
Wow. Nothing like giving a baby a middle name of deuce.
"Your name is Latrine?"
"Yeah, my family changed it in the 9th centry."
"They changed it TO Latrine?"
"Yeah, used to be Sh!thouse."
Student's (past, present or future)
Kajahaun (not actually bad, but made up, he told me as much
Naj'da
Atheist Evolution (first and middle names)
sisters names : Summer, Autumn, Spring, Winter
Shithead is actually a very common middle eastern name, I've seen it often.
Nevaeh bless you teachers!! Oh how times have changed!
When my mom was in the hospital having one of her many babies, she said her roommate named her daughter Vagina (pronounced that way). The nurse asked as politely as she could if she knew how to spell that, and the girl got offended. I say girl, bc she was 15. Anyway, when she spelled it out, the nurse got very quiet, and then said "if your sure!". My mom still laughs about it when we hear funny names.
My sister has an Abcde in her class right now! She also has an Alize' (like the liquor), a Destiny, and a few other names that should be handed out with clear plastic heels.
In the classroom next door there is a Phylicyte (that would be Felicity to you and me).
My class has pretty normal names this year - all the "different" ones are just more cultural: Lebamlak from Ethiopia, Morteda and Babak from Pakistan, Anzhelika and Tomofey from Russia, etc.
I do have a couple of random apostrophes though: Ta'Nise, Ja'Vaughn
I've also seen Abcde. And today I ran into "Formica Dinette" as well as twins named Orangejello and Lemonjello (Or-ahn-ge-lo and le-mahn-ge-lo)
Dear Lord, It makes me so thankful for my parents...
I drew the blood of a guy whos last name is Green.
First name Million.
Middle name Aires.
No joke.
Oh it's spreading, girl in my friend's class: Te-a.
My cousin is Penny Nicholl (pronounced like the coin). We have no idea what my aunt was thinking, her real name isn't even Penelope or anything. My parents called her small change...
Where do you work?!?!!?
When I taught school I had a Tequila (little girl) and a Charminique. Like the toilet paper with an ique added to the end.
BFP #2 4/13/10. Bridget born 12/28/10
BFP #3 Finn born 8/11/15
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Can't give too many specifics but we deal with homeless and nearly homeless families.
My co-worker read this and wanted to add a few she has seen...
First name: Harry Last name: Pitts (don't think they thought that one through.)
First name: Ima Last name: Hogg (this girls mom abandoned her at birth and her dad blamed her for it. He gave her the name Ima.)
First name:Zoot Middle name: Sue (female version of the song zoot suit riot maybe?)
Dwinkle Archemiedes Sebastian Demetrius T?zakarelis(not sure what is supposed to be what on this one.)
Gaaaaahahaha! I LOVE that movie!
And all of these names are seriously heinous. My Mom had a patient once who named her little girl "Female" (pronounced Fee-mally)....she told family and friends "Well the hospital already named her, it's on the wristband"
DOH!
You are my favorite Bumpie today. Anyone who quotes Mel Brooks movies on here gets a gold star in my book.
In high school I worked in the office my senior year. I would call people to the office over the intercom sometimes for different reason. I peed myself when I had to call the female student "Onya Johnson." Also a slut in school.....fit her name well.
Kristen (7), Timothy (5), Robert (3), Charles (9 months)
This!
That takes balls to name your kid your anniversary date in roman numerals. big ones.
this