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Mother's day - totally ignored by STBXH..anyone else?
So, my husband announces 3 weeks ago that "he is no longer marriage material, he has been sleeping with his leading lady (we are actors) since I was pregnant (DS is 7 months old now), he never wanted a house, marriage or a baby - he did those things because I wanted them..
WTF?
He really started changing from the wonderful person I thought he was to this cold stranger he is now once I became pregnant.
Since DS came, STBX has never helped me with this baby nor does he pay the baby any attention at all. It is so sad.
So, I have been a single mom all along, really..
He says I never gave him enough and that's why he cheated (so, it's my fault).
Even if I was a horrible wife - which I am NOT - I am a DAMN good mother who works her a$$ off.
I don't know why I expected any thing from him on Mother's Day but I did.
Boy, did it hurt that I didn't even get a CARD..nothing....not even a text..
I would think through all of this; he would, at least, acknowledge my hard work as a mommy.
It really hurts that he didn't..I will never forgive him for that.
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Re: Mother's day - totally ignored by STBXH..anyone else?
I would have been more shocked if EX-H would have acknowledged me on mothers day. Knowing him, he probably didn't even call his own mother.
I am sorry that he is a prick...lol
I am sorry to hear this.
STBXH got me a card and some wilted flowers, from "Payton". So I thought that was nice. Although he probably wanted me to swoon or something and fall into his arms with gratitude. I remember last year on Mother's Day he hadn't come home the night before and then let me get everything ready for the Mother's Day BBQ that we had for both of our families, while I was 6 months pregnant. He showed up 1/2 hour before everyone was supposed to be there to mow the lawn. Loser.
Your story is a lot like mine. Like an early mid-life crisis/pod people took my wonderful husband and replaced him with this douchebag.
I didn't get anything - although my H did call and "sincerely" (because it's hard to doubt the sincerity of anything he says) wished me a happy Mother's Day. I was surprised since we had a blowup the day before about him applying for a jewelry store credit card and using my home as his address.
Last year I was pregnant with dd, I got a candle and the sweetest card.
I did not expect anything this year at all. He delivered exactly what I thought....not a damn thing. That's okay.
The babysitter made dds footprints and handprints for me. My mom got me a beautiful bracelet and had flowers delivered at work.
My dad gave me $40 and took me to the racetrack.
Most importantly, I got to spend the day with dd, and he hasn't spent more then 8 hours with her since he moved, on his own free will.
Dd is what matters on Mother's day, not the db that helped create her.
I just read that too - I think we're all living the same life right now... one day they're there, the next they're gone.
My H and I had just moved into a brand new house, I was five months pregnant with our daughter (a planned pregnancy) and my H went from the kind of guy who is sad when he wakes up from a dream where I don't love him any more - to the guy who is putting me through that nightmare. Overnight. The external circumstances caused some depression on both of our parts - his way of "medicating" was a female friend was always available to go out and drink and hang out (I was at home pregnant and taking care of our older daughter). Now he is certain he's in love with her and is willing to throw away everything - although on the same level he knows what he's doing is insane but there's no going back.
Time to dump this azzhole.
YOu have many more problems on your hands than no card for Mother's Day. He emotionally checked out of that relationship months ago, probably long before your son was conceived.
He's trying to pin the rose on YOU as the reason why he cheated. it isn't you: it's him: he's a first class dikweed with no character.
Also a quick newsflash for this spineless, no character weasel: it takes TWO people to be in a marriage...he fully consented to marrying you. it takes 2 to tango. What a jerk.
Lose him like the proverbial bad habit. GL.
ITA with this. That's one thing I've learned from the past year. It's not me, it's definitely him. And I'm happier without the jerk he's choosing to be now.
Considering the fustercluck that came when he gave you the puppy and then stole Tug (that was his name, right?), be glad he isn't likely to storm into your front yard and try to steal any of the shrubbery after gifting you flowers....